I don't have any other reason to live

Romania
September 8, 2012 9:50am CST
I don't understand those kids who choose to take their lives because they broke up with their boyfriend/girlfriend. life it's so beautiful. we have problems but this only helps us appreciate much more the beautiful moments. and ending a relationship doesn't mean you have to end your life..I don't want to imagine what is in the heart of their parents. to lose you child at an early age. it's tragical
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@artemeis (4037)
• China
8 Sep 12
It is so easy to write about things behind the desk and the fact that you do not understand those kids who ended their lives is because you've not done enough walking to understand what is going on. Let's not forget that the movies and sitcoms are part of the reasons for the much of today's relationship problems where everything is so easy going and about disregard when one enters into a relationship. Everything is about carefree where sleeping around is another cup of tea and some victory event abandoning morality, commitment, honesty and responsibility. When problems arise, look for another without bothering to fix it. So, how can these youths not be vulnerable and helpless when they have totally thrown themselves into their relationships and other halves abandoning their families and friends around them. When the relationship fails, who can they seek for help and where can they go when they are devastated.
• United States
8 Sep 12
I like this response and for so many youths out there this is very true. but,don't forget about the parents who don't have time to get to know their child or want to know their child. parents need to talk more and be open too.
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• Indonesia
9 Sep 12
I like this one too. I was treated as a mad person - and evils possessed person by my parents instead of trying to understand what's going on when I needed them the most. I hurted myself , I scratched my hand over and over when I felt sick of them. I didn't know where I have to go anywhere since the God - always the reason they treated me that way. I was lost somehow.
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• United States
8 Sep 12
We all encounter the person that we think are the loves of our lives when we are younger. It is sometimes tragic that they arent able to get over some of thoses things. I think it depends on the personality traits of the person that is in the relationship to begin with. Losing a child wouldn't be easy. We do need to talk more with our children instead of leaving it up to technology, media, and friends to guide them.
• Romania
8 Sep 12
I agree with you. parents are ( or at least they should be) closer to their kids so they could help them much more than the rest of the society could. but I don't see how a break-up could affect you that much to take such decision
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• Philippines
8 Sep 12
hi swiss, I find this people selfish cause they don't ever considered what will be the feelings of their family even you are emotional distorted still life must go on it will not stop because you had a broken relationship. Life is wonderful just to be wasted happy mylotting
• Romania
8 Sep 12
you can call them selfish in a way and an "I'm sorry" note it's not going to fix all the damages. they don't appreciate what's trully important in life and they don't realise they don't have the right to take their lives
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@tedifa (1235)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 12
I think that was a bad culture since long time ago.We don't have right to finished our life.GOD is above everything.To finished the life cause of boyfriend/girlfriend is so stupid.There are a lot of girlfriend/boyfriend in this world.You should thanks to GOD that you can't continue your relationship.Maybe he/her it's not good enough for you in the future.GOD is loving you.Why you're want finished your life ?
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• Philippines
11 Sep 12
We should understand them. If we know someone that undergoes this situation or are in a deep depression, we should reach out for them. Sometimes, a simple Hi could make thinks better for them. We should let them know that they are important and taking their lives just because someone has left them is not an option to take. We should let them fell happy no matter what so that they could get rid of the feelings of wanting to die.
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@meticulo (1286)
• United States
10 Sep 12
I got your point swissheart and I'd like to say that I also understand people especially young who have gone to these tragic events in their life. I guess when you are putting your whole life on something. Giving the best that you could.Expecting happiness but only begets failures and discouragement probably that would trigger these people to end their lives. It's really tragic to know about these stories. I guess depress children needs love from family and friends.Even the mere presence of a love one would ease even a bit of sadness. Let's hope that we would be able to be there for our love ones most particularly in times when they need us and vice versa...
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@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
9 Sep 12
each population fell in this situation and I thought oh this is my love, my life and such things. in fact life is before us and can always meet someone else and your heart pounding madly and feel that passion and that attraction. sometimes we just live in a fantasy world as they say love is a time but understanding and friendship should last forever. so young they think all we eat flies lol.
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9 Sep 12
It is tragic that some young people just cannot get over feelings. It is not only them to blame but also the bad media too. Parents should also be able to look after those young people. As you have said we can appreciate the beauty of life more through problems that we have in our lives.
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• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Had my share of heartbreak but never thought of taking my own life. It's a matter of how deep the attachment is, but there are many ways to cope. In fact, studies showed most people get better after three months, some take longer period but they do recover. The tragic part is when a person feels the lost love is the one thing that holds everything together and there's no more reason to go on if the lover is gone. Personally, I got myself back when I went out and joined gym classes, met new people, and tried my best to look happy because by getting better, it helped me bring back my confidence and show my ex I was okay, better than he thought I'd ever be. We need to take care of ourselves, not just for our sake but for the people who love us. Think of the ones who care for us deeply and not just the person who had left. No one is worth giving our lives up.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
9 Sep 12
Indeed a very traumatic experienced of a parents. Your kids are your life , then so sudden , life will end due to unbearable problem they have ? Parents heart will really break plus having this guilty feelings. Parents would reassess themselves as to how and what all have they done ? Teenagers resort to this thing because maybe no open communication with parents. They have no outlet and feels no one whom they can run to , so better end it all.That is why in a family communication is very important and parents should be a close friend to his kids. So no hesitation that would happen.
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9 Sep 12
Yah i am totally agree with you because ending a relation or friendship does not mean that everthing has destroyed,apart from this,there are so many things and works on earth to live about like one should have a aim in his or her life so it will serve a great supporter in his or her entire life and moreover everyone should live for their parents and their well wishes who always with them when one need them desperately so be positive and live life at it fullest..
@oyomesan (115)
• Netherlands
9 Sep 12
A person has to be in a lot of emotional pain, at the end of their rope, before they decide to take their own life. Unless you are or have been in a similar place before in your life, I think it's really hard to understand the motives of these people. Logically speaking, it doesn't make sense to end your life after you broke up with your boyfriend/girlfriend; life is beautiful. But after losing someone you care about with all your heart and soul, all you can still see is darkness. Life doesn't look so pretty anymore when you're in pain. It's hard to see things positive. It takes time to get out of the state you're in. And a little help would always be good. So preferably, people who consider ending their lives should talk to someone they trust. If you can't find a way out of your misery on your own, you need help. We can only pray they find help before it's too late.
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
9 Sep 12
It happens in a certain age , circumstances and of course high emotions when one feel nothing worth any other than their love. It can even be called as blind love. sometimes they are even not able to understand whether nit is love or just an attraction between a boy and a girl. they just go behind it madly and even make promises. they never expect themselves to get separated but always think themselves as if they are attached to each other and are never ready to face such situation. LIfe, a god gift, is not understood by them, they live life in each other's life and fade up when have the break ups.They never imagine or think about their parents before they commit such a sin to take away ones life. its now our turn to make up child ready for each and every kind of struggle and lets be a friend to them so as to know their heart. Lets be in their side in every part of their life giving them the space for personnel privacy. at least we must make them believe that if there is no one beside me in the whole world then surely my parents will who is living for me for their whole life. only the modern gadgets and modern thinkings do not help to keep them away from the frustation but a loving, caring and a very friendly behaviour can stop them leaving their parents weeping behind them spoiling their valueable life....
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@NailTech (6890)
• United States
8 Sep 12
I don't understand that either, it isn't the worst thing in the world. There are many other "fish" in the sea, so to speak. They have their whole life ahead of them and more admirers to meet. It doesn't make sense to loose a life over unrequited love.
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• Portugal
8 Sep 12
i dont judge people. i think they shouldnt do that. with time they will feel better. even more kill yourself for someone that didnt even like you. but they are desperate so. i think they should think first about their family that will be hurt with it. but i dont judge them cause we never know what we will do in the future.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
8 Sep 12
It is sad to see kids ended their own life because of their puppy love relationship is not going well with the other, they need to be told by their parent it is not all that important to begin a love relationship while you are still a kid, and kids should not be involved in a boy /girl love relationship at such young age. To prevent such a tragic event from happening, parents need to constantly involve in their kids activity and talk openly with them and discuss with them any issue they are confuse about, by getting involve actively in their children's life, these parent may be able to catch the sign of their kid want to end his/her life prematurely and can avert that tragic from ever happening inside their family. I can imagine the agony and sadness those family have to go through after knowing the fact their kid ended his/her own life because of a girl friend or boy friend doesn't interested in him/her anymore.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
8 Sep 12
I think we find most of the kids that do this do not have the family support they should have. If you have read some of the stories about this, their parents are usually the kind that don't pay any attention to the child. So the child is not only going through the break up but they feel they have no one to talk to or anyone to care about them anyway. They feel like who would really care if they were gone? I think there is MUCH more to it than just a break up... If all teens had the right amount of family support they could get through a break up with no problem.
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@natliegleb (5184)
• India
8 Sep 12
this is the height of love and we must back ourself and try to find a person who can share our intimate feelings rather than being hurt.its sad to hear also
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• United States
8 Sep 12
I can understand how the feel and it is sad. Many times there people who are loved and understood by their mate instead of the family they live with. then when life happens and these young people are faced with something hard they get support from their mate not their family. then when the mate splits they feel like they have nothing else to live for. I would not want to see anyone kill themselves. but,golly being I was there before I know the very deep dark hole that seems like it will just get darker. when I swallowed those pills I could not see anything but darkness. I was in the hospital 8 hours before I knew where I was. people don't understand unless they lived it. I feel sorry for the parents of those kids as well. because they are filled with so much regret over things they could have done differently.