Is there a time that you were being offended when somebody tend to correct you?

Pasay, Philippines
September 12, 2012 8:33pm CST
Accept the fact that there are some people who are having this pride or ego projecting that they already knew what to do. They are not exactly the know it all people but then there are times that being corrected by other people hurts their pride. But sometimes it depends on the situation. A person is not totally exactly that he or she is pride but then when being corrected or given an advise from other people he or she can't just take it quickly because of the second thought and at times they are particular of the credibility. Is there a time or even once that you were offended or you just dislike it when other people corrected you or given an advise? Tell us the reason why? Is there also an instance that you don't like the feeling of being corrected or given an advise by younger ones? Why? In my case as I've been posting before I am very particular on the credibility of a person. No matter if that person is older or younger than me but I am totally observing how believable that person is, if that is sincere, or that person just want to say that advise as offensive and insulting remarks, just to tease you, project him/herself or they just want to talk. I would really rather listen to my niece that is just 7 years old especially if she is correcting my grammar mistake rather than my cousin who is 22 years old. I found out that my 7 year old niece is more matured than my cousin who is 22 years old. My 7 year old niece is optimistic that she will analyzed the situation first and listen when I talk before giving advises. While my cousin is lame and not a good listener at all she tends to correct me while in the middle of the conversation but then she is not analyzing what I am talking about. That is the reason why I don't want her giving me advises because she is not believable. She is just projecting someone that she is totally not. And yet she is not a kind of person who is valuing the good morals but only the superstitious belief about fortunes in life.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
14 Sep 12
I would be happy, accept correction from others. Well corrections coming from someone younger or older people. Sometimes, I am not aware, has made a mistake. So, I would be very happy, if someone would remind me. I am willing to be corrected in any case. I'll fix all my mistakes.
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• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 12
Honestly if that is technical mistake then of course that could be easily accepted. But what about the moral advises? Then would that be also easy for you?
@tipay26 (873)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
There is no picture perfect individual we have to admit that truth.When I say that I mean there is no perfect world we all commit mistakes and being corrected by someone is a good way to know that there are still people who cares about you and won't let you look pathetic in front of other people.But then again, it depends on how you were corrected.If a person corrected your acts in front of other people you both know that is the time you will ask why that person did that to you?you might think that it was intended so that you will get the shock of your life or just to belittle you in front of everybody.The best way for me to overcome that kind of situation is to make it like a joke and defend yourself in a nice way.There are people who are happy seeing others being picked on by some and those are the kind of people that you shouldn't be hanging out with be careful with them too because all they do is to correct you to make you small and belittled by some.If a friend corrected you secretly., meaning it's just the two of you then it's time to thank that friend of yours because that value your worth as a human being and won't let you belittled by some other people just by correcting you in a proper way.Those kind of people will be happy to see you grow and gain success and that's the type of people we should be hanging around.Age on my own opinion doesn't actually define the way they will correct you.Being old enough entitles you to many situations that you will be facing and had been through and for me I would rather believe an old man correcting me because he or she has been there and experienced that kind of situation while if you will believe a child ., I don't think that it will be a good idea.Yes, we can learn many things from a child because they are the most genuine type because they don't aspire and they don't lie but for credibility purposes., I am having second thoughts too a child only experienced little in life but I guess it's a case to case basis too...I don't mind if I was corrected but it should be in a nice way if I may add so that there won't be any problems at all.
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 12
This is the thing I can say about the child's credibility. That is for sure that is not 100%. There are things that a child can't just give corrections or advise especially if that is about moral advises because of course there are things that they don't understand yet. If a child is genius enough in scientific terms then he maybe credible for that. As what happened to my case it was grammar mistake and the funny thing about it she even cited an example which my parents made them laugh at all.
@salonga (27963)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
I am not a perfect person so I welcome all corrections or criticisms on me provided they are done in a manner that is not meant to embarrass or to put me down. I like people who are honest enough to tell me I did wrong, or I should improve on certain areas. Of course I would not know unless someone tells me so I am not really offended with people who do that to me. I believe that those who hate instructions, corrections and constructive criticism are actually foolish.
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• Pasay, Philippines
14 Sep 12
Constructive criticisms is considered as good because that is the way how they show their sincerity so that you will improve. But yeah the hateful corrections are the ones that is totally a foolish thought so better yet not to listen with that kind of advise. Good thing you don't easily feel that way unlike in my case I could totally determine if the person just wants to project or helping.
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
Yes, I have been to similar situations before. Well, correcting someone depends on your approach towards saying it to them. Sometimes, the tone of voice can be insulting or the usage of inappropriate words are not good to hear. When I'm also in a bad mood or I don't like someone and they correct me in a wrong timing, it is also a factor. People should consider someone's feelings when correcting. Being also in public while correcting someone out loud can also be offending. Some people also won't accept being corrected. As what you have said, their pride holds up unto them. I don't like being corrected with persons who project themselves as more highly than everyone else. If I'm corrected by an elderly or someone who deserves some respect, I would gladly accept that.
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• Pasay, Philippines
14 Sep 12
That is exactly my point I don't want being corrected as well by the person who is into just projection. Because chances are they are not sincere hence it is like they were just picking a fight. That is why my objective now is to make rebuttals though not all the time but depending on situation. Some people are complaining that their children are stubborn but the truth is it is just that they are not credible.
@mikyung (2234)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I think, we have all those moments whrein we got offended if were being corrected. It will depend on the nature or the timing of the event. When I'm not in the mood, definitely, I will take it negatively. I'm like that, but things change, as I grow old, I'm open for correction and for constructive criticisms. As long as it is good for me and for others, I will be gladly to recive some of it. Thanks
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• Pasay, Philippines
14 Sep 12
Yeah that must be constructive criticisms because if not then the advise given would be definitely to be thought into negative aspect instead of realizing it is for good. Delivery is still important not just the credibility. It is not easy to listen with those advises. It is not also easy to give moral advises.
@beenice2 (2273)
• Canada
13 Sep 12
Oh! Well! looks like we have something in common here. I have a friend that recently called me to see how I was doing. Well she is talking to me she gives me the impression that she thinks that I'm not very bright the way I handle my kids,to help them to find part time work, because she was "successful" with hers she think that she got it all made up,and the habit of telling me what I should do and than suggested me to take a vacation paid from her to go to her place, I said no thank you very much I'll be fine. I had to let her know that she is missing a big part of our story here, and that she is not in our shoes, we act differently than she is and I wish she would respect that, and would change her tone of voice because she does have an arrogant voice and yes she is younger then me which doesn't change anything for her but it does to me. I do like to talk more to my younger one that is 8 because he is not full of himself. She is not in the same province that I live for now and here they do things differently and yet she tells me but you should find this easily and do that no problem because she as an easy time to find work where she is but here it not that easy to find work that pays well so . that about it.
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• Pasay, Philippines
14 Sep 12
To think she is already your friend then she is still acting that way. Maybe that is already her attitude that she thought it is just a normal for friends. In my case that is the reason that I don't talk too much with my cousin anymore because I find her so senseless as she thought she is cool. I don't even want to mingle with her anymore just like before. I want her to feel that I am not someone that she can just act like that.
@namiya (1599)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
It depends on the situation and the manner of correcting. We are not perfect and are prone to errors and mistakes. Hence when somebody calls my attention to something that i need to correct and find his claim as valid, then i would be thankful for who knows if this had not been attended to this might result to further damage. But there are persons who are natural "fault finders" and and they do these to glorify themselves hence, if i'm aware that intention to correct is born our of someone's insecurity i just ignore it.
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• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
I agree that is the best way is to ignore it. In my case I would really I project that I won't listen to that person because it is not worth. Yes it is true there is what you called fault finders.
@Shavkat (63616)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I am open to criticisms, but it needs to be in a professional way. I will accept it, but if it is beyond the limitation. That will be another story.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
Listening constructive criticisms are really good because you know that they are sincere to help you so that you will become better. But the below the belt criticisms is really far different from that. There are criticisms that you would obviously seen that a person is just depressed or insecure. So never listen to them.
@chiyosan (30076)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I would be offended if that person rubs a mistake on my face without consideration of my feelings, or of what i did before even giving comments or correcting me, especially if i know that the person is just trying to get into my nerves. I'd say you would agree with me that there are those people that even if they do not have anything good to say, they just love to bash people and inappropriately make you feel incompetent about what you do... without basis and just for the sake of it... they themselves aren't even able to do or even match what you are able to do. =(
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• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
Sometimes I want to make rebuttal with them that I won't take it and they shouldn't give me advise because it is just all crap. I will tell them that they are not credible enough. The younger kid is more matured than them. Well on their face. it is like they want to slap the wrong things you did on your face. Some people are saying we are stubborn who doesn't want to listen with the advise from other people or being corrected. That is what they don't understand. Because in the first place they weren't sincere after all.
@ARIES1973 (9541)
• Legaspi, Philippines
13 Sep 12
I don’t mind it if other people would correct me under any given circumstance. But it depends on how the correction is being delivered. There are times that if the person who would give me suggestion would sound as if he/she is the only one who knows the thing more than anybody, I get offended. But I accept corrections even if that is the case. I know that even if we know some things, there are also things that we don’t know. I even ask my children about other things because I know that they are more knowledgeable on the matter.
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• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
There are times that they are giving advises or corrections that tends to brag without sincerity. At times it also reflects their anger and frustrations when they are giving advises to other people. That is the reason why I don't want to listen or my lesson not to listen to depressed people even that is right because it is all about mess. You will never learn something from them they will also drag you to their hatred.
@fencer07 (98)
13 Sep 12
When I strongly believe in something or if I have practiced hard to learn something and am either proven wrong or corrected, I do sometimes get frustrated. However, I believe this is a universal human tendency. I think the most unfortunate part of such situations is that often times, we do not listen to the advice others give us when we are proven wrong or corrected because I think it is natural for us to want to be right.
• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
There are times that we don't listen to advises from other people it is because we don't believe or we can't accept it because of our ego or it is because even that person is right then not credible enough. We realized that we should listen if something went wrong to us already.
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
I dont mind if someone correcting me, i would be thankful as long as its for my own good and as long as i can see that the person is kind enough to tell that to me and not that kind of sarcastic as if i felt that sarcastic way then i would rather ignore and laugh them about it, We cant avoid having mistakes though sometimes i correct my nephew and niece with their english and grammar though i know im not that perfect too so sometimes they also correct my english and vice versa, though we dont normally shout it in front of other people to be embarrass but just to ourselves.
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• Pasay, Philippines
13 Sep 12
You know what speaking of grammar mistake this was the funny thing that happened. We were talking about the uncles of my niece that are siblings. It just so happened that I mentioned that his one uncle is old than other uncle. I used the term OLD. So she corrected me that I should use OLDER instead of OLD with her matching explanation that if I should not use the term OLD because her uncle is young because using term OLD is for her Grandpa and Grandma. We really laughed so hard then my father just make faces to my niece.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Sep 12
I don't usually like to be be corrected. it makes me feel like I am being scolded instead. I can not help but to feel a bit put off and offended when someone tries to correct me. It may niot mean to be intended that way but that how it usuaklly will end.
• Pasay, Philippines
14 Sep 12
At least you are being honest. That is what I feel too at times when being corrected. It is like they are angry all the time. Even if in some manner of being serious it is like the doer is always scolding you like you are always a sinner.