Why do women always had to be "underdog" in a relationship?
By bembzee
@bembzee (768)
Philippines
September 13, 2012 7:06am CST
In many cases i've witnessed that most of women had to give way, understand, and give solutions to the problems either in a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship or in family matter.I really hate to think that male gender are stronger than women because they cannot stand without us.But since women are born to be compassionate and more devoted to anything that they were committed to they were always abused.They were abused physically, mentally and emotionally. For example when a husband and wife had a big fight,a man without second thought just leave home and that's it.While women had to control her feelings and set aside her burst of anger because she just can't leave the kids pronto.And because of an unexplained reason of a womens' weakness towards her kids, surroundings, family, community,etc. and etc. she was quoted as "underdog", which is totally wrong. The effort she tried to protect somethings or someone is not a sign of weakness but a misconception of her sacrifices, don't you think so?
9 responses
@wills9270599 (4)
• Fiji
14 Sep 12
the problem surrounding the whole issue of the woman no matter their good deeds in life will always be the underdog because they were created from the underside of a mans ribs when God was putting in place his master plan...
@Ollanna11 (371)
• United States
14 Sep 12
A man probably wrote that story! You free to believe what you want...
@459571689 (39)
• China
14 Sep 12
Yes,I agree with you when the couple are quarrelled,it is always the women who first concession.But I don't agree with it reforns a "underdog".In my oppinion,in the family there is no losser,we are family members,so it is not necessary to be that serous.
@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
Every individual in the family plays a vital role.But mothers who most of the time iron things out.They do the sacrifices to remain a family intact no matter what.And with this kind of thinking many people misunderstood her.She was just trying to protect the interests of her family.
@459571689 (39)
• China
21 Sep 12
yes,I also agree with this.So mum is the one who is greatness not weakness don't you think so?
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
You maybe right they always have to stay but not because they are the weak ones,but because they are standing against the effects of their quarrels to the children,so that they could be guided and be given complete explanation all factors so that the children may understand and their young minds will never experience bad impressions
what was happening to the family.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
That is just a natural ways of a mother,but what if the mother is the sinner?The protector would be no other than the man itself because the children needs their protection and guidance so that they will be molded to the right path of growing up.
The children could experience some traumas of misguidance from their mother,that is why a father is very essential so that the children could not felt the rejection of their mother.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
It's not being "underdog" when women always gives in in every relationship.
It is the woman who always gives in, understand because she is stronger when it comes to emotion.
Woman understands that men are not emotionally strong as women does.
It will only be considered "underdog" when a woman remains in a relationship wherein she's physically abused.
Then- she's making herself underdog.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
I totally agree Jaiho.It is a woman's duty to protect and nurture her family.That is why in our country wives/mothers are called "Ilaw ng tahanan". I guess that right word would be "submissive"
@favouredmost (256)
• Kenya
14 Sep 12
First I think that women have amazing strength especially where their children are concerned and will do almost the impossible for the kids. I think the boundaries that a woman establishes determines how her man will treat her. If you allow a man to get away with stuff then he takes it as permission to treat you as he wishes. There are great men out there who treat their women like queens, its all a matter of balance.
@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
14 Sep 12
I think that's not always the case.There are some men who are also emotionally battered by their partners while it is true that women can handle their emotions well than men.Perhaps, God intentionally made women as they (we) are otherwise the world couldn't be a better place without understanding,loving, and self-sacrificing women.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
14 Sep 12
Who says we are "underdog" ... unless the women makes herself as low as a servant ... that is. We commit our love to the relationship. It should be a two way living. Men love women and women love men. Men shouldn't "use" women. 
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Unfortunately, we live in a double-standard world. A lot is expected from a woman. We are supposed to be forever nodding on our husband's demands. We shall be condemned if ever if fall in love outside of marriage and yet the unfaithful husbands get away with it.
@bembzee (768)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Yes,you are right. Life is unfair especially to women.I pity for those who cannot fight out for themselves.Marriage for women means devotion and commitment that they have to let go of the things they love to enjoy when they were single.Yet men in particular can go hang out with friends any time of the day.
@caopaopao (12395)
• China
13 Sep 12
Yeah, I agree with you. Women always thinks more about the kids than men do. It's not a sign of weakness but a misconception of their sacrifices. I think mums are greater than dads, as they treat their children well without condition. Wives do more housework in a family than husbands do, as wives are better in keeping house. I always think that what a family will be like without women. It must be a disaster. So I always belive women are not weaker than men, women are stronger.
