On Dating, getting to know the guys...

@chiyosan (30206)
September 14, 2012 10:57am CST
Okay so i am a bit thinking about this a whole lot of times lately, when i am not busy with work and stuffs, haha. I recently have had 3 people tell me and asking me out for a date, or a time to get to know each other, not to mention that my ex is still trying to win me back as well. Though i have already told my ex i am no longer interested and is really not into the idea of getting back with him as i no longer have trust in him. I spend about a lot of time with one of them, him being an officemate. but i also talk to the other too usually via sms and calls. I have gone out with them too but it was basically just a simple dinner, hi and goodbyes. I don't know if this is really something that i should be thinking about, or that i should just stop thinking and minding what will happen. Somehow though i feel i am being unfair to all three of them just because i have the option to choose whomever i would like. Is there really something i should be worrying about ? I do not want anyone to get hurt(if they are expecting), and i am just trying to keep my options open for the mean time and not date someone exclusively. Honestly, I love the attention I am getting from all of them, and its been a while since someone has tried to woo me (was in a relationship for 3 years!) Sounds a bit selfish perhaps but then... i do not want to rush into anything with anyone of them right away... afraid i am not going to choose the right one if i do... Is this decision fair? I do not intend to play with anyone's heart in this scenario... i am just confused and careful myself.
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@celticeagle (119871)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Sep 12
You cannot love someone you don't trust or respect. It's not always a good idea to date men from where you work. I think you need to start listing what you want and need in a relationship. Then when you have all that figured out look at these three men. Do they meet your needs. If not get rid of them! Life is too short to keep a man around when you know he is doomed for the waste bucket. Be sure you have good boundaries and are not letting yourself get into any dysfunctional relationships. And don't fall for the wrong types that use and abuse, disrespect you in any way, cute but clueless, etc. Don't waste your time! Having been in a relationship for three years you probably should have some idea what type of person you are looking for. He has to be attractive, fit, driven, respectful, giving, not into anything negative, has a good job and knows what he wants in life, etc. If you don't know what you want you will continually waste time with the wrong type of person. Make sure you know what you are looking for before you start looking too seriously.
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
i cannot agree more! work and love/relationship is a combination for disaster, based on my experience, but who knows if it will work for you too. Although, some companies wouldn't tolerate their employees having a relationship.
@celticeagle (119871)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Sep 12
Most companies want work done and relationships tend to make people veer off from work. Not good.