Can trust be re-build in marriage after adultery?

Malaysia
September 14, 2012 11:00pm CST
A friend of mine, JK, shared her marriage problem with me. Her husband had a relationship with a younger woman for many years. When she found out about it, she was really furious. She said she felt like the whole world had crumbled and that her life would never be the same again. She loves her husband very much. After reflecting much, she decided to go on a battle with the woman adulterer. In the end, her husband chose to stay with JK and they remain as a couple to this day. She said it was not a one man's work, of course, her husband and the mistress committed a really grave sin but she found out that many people around her had known about the adultery long before she found out. She said even some family members knew about it but they chose to remain quite. She has forgiven her husband and her husband is also doing his best to make up for the pain that he inflicted on her for so many years. She said it is not easy for her to trust anyone anymore. Even if her trusts for her husband is regained, she said she would never trust the people around him...his friends and his family. She said the world seems so lonely for her now. But if that is what it takes to save her marriage and her family, then nothing else matters. What do you think mylotters?
3 responses
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I think that a mistake as grave as adultery can never be easily be forgotten by the aggrieved party. Although your friend has forgiven her husband, it is not that easy to forget the pain that was inflicted on her. It will take more time to be healed completely,
• Malaysia
15 Sep 12
Yes, it will not be easy for her. The memory of it, I'm sure, will bring her pain from time to time. She is not completely healed yet. But she is taking life as positively as she can.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
She just needs to have a positive outlook in life and have the heart to accept his husband back with all her heart. We need to make some sacrifices to achieve peace in both our hearts and minds.
@romzee (937)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
I admire your friend for having the courage to forgive her husband and again learning to trust him again for the sake of family. The wound is still fresh, but I hope someday she could learn to trust the people around her again. Only then I believe that her wound have heal and she'll be happy again!
• Malaysia
15 Sep 12
My friend said, it is hard to be happy in this world. She said that even when she tries to be happy, like going out meeting relatives and friends, trying to forget her problems, there will be somebody who just doesn't like to see her being happy. Once, when she was in the midst of a conversation, someone, who spoke, between the lines, tried to remind her of her unfortunate past.
• Chennai, India
13 Aug 13
This depends on their situation and how well they care for each other after being reunited. It is always good to be aware about the adultery spouse and then take a decision on it. Ir you want some tips to check the adultery then you can take up a test that you can get from
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