My so called Friend?

United States
September 15, 2012 10:35am CST
My so called friend? Okay there was this place that my friend asked me to go with her today it is a place that gives food and she invited me to go and I said yes at first but then she called yesterday and said you need to tell your husband to give us some gas money. First of all not gonna happen! Secondly she just got paid and called me yesterday yacking about how good her check was. Okay? Then I called her last night and told her I can not give you gas money even when I get my check because we have to many bills that are due. She said well I fund some gas money some how because I have to go. That to me was just wrong and made me think she really only wanted money. What would you think? And also she was going on about how she did not have any room for the food because she was in an apartment and I am in a house. I have not heard a word from her since last night.!
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@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
15 Sep 12
Sounds like a friend I would get rid of. Well, at least put on the back burner for a while. You are having a hard enough time financially, you don't need her burden too. I would not ask someone for money if I was the person who invited you.
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• United States
15 Sep 12
I totally agree I think since she was the one that invited me she should not have asked for gas money at all. And another is just the way she called me and said it "Tell Your husband we need some gas money? That is what got me the most and I told her he doesn't have any money and neither do i!!
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
15 Sep 12
she is whiling away the time with you for sure,she is not really interested to make you as friend,try to beware
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• United States
15 Sep 12
I agree I just think it was so wrong. I work at home and I am on commission she is not so if I don't get anything for the day then I don't make any $ but I do other sites where I do make $ so I feel that my day is not a total waste but my main job is commission based and she knows that. Sure my husband works outside of the home but his money is his and we share the bills. I just think it was so wrong of her the whole thing!
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15 Sep 12
she's not a friend, just like they said she is just using you, she just left you hanging when she knew you couldn't give her anything for the gas :( that sad to know that some people only remember us, if they need something and just left us if they couldn't get something.. thats bad
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• United States
15 Sep 12
i know that mad me so mad! She I do not think that was right of her at all!!
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@arizen (152)
• Philippines
15 Sep 12
This is sad. Your so called friend may not be a friend at all. She maybe just a user. Talk with her. Sort things out with her. Chances are, if she really is your friend, she will try her very best to change this and avoid being dependent on you. If you talk with her, you may be able to know what is causing her behavior. Let her understand that her actions are causing you doubts on your friendship and is distressing you. Communication is really important.
• United States
15 Sep 12
I would have a nice day just not talking to her even though I will eventually know that I will talk to her that just made me upset to think that she was really just wanting money.
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• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 12
Beware about those schemes of other people. LOL. Not all people built with same good intentions. Some may say excuses about messing up and some may admit that sh**ee**t usually happens. Some may use this to take advantage to you or some will make it up to you as soon as everything will end well. Whatever the reason it may be, it is really up to you to adjust yourself, calm yourself down and be cool about it. At least you know what kind of people he is and he'll eventually learn how jerk he is and/ or he was. Thanks and happy mylotting about it more.
• United States
16 Sep 12
I have decided not to talk to her anymore and I am sure when she needs something she will be the first to call me but I am not helping her.
• Pasay, Philippines
23 Sep 12
be clear how you feel, too as you do that. In that way, she would realize her mistakes along the way as well. Wish you all the best and happy mylotting :)
@GardenGerty (104298)
• United States
16 Sep 12
If she is doing so well she does not need free food. I get frustrated about people who take things that others in need really could use. She was trying to get you to pay her way.
• United States
16 Sep 12
I agree.I just don't even want to talk to her anymore after that.
• Philippines
16 Sep 12
stay away from this person.she obviously wants nothing but your money.I've meet a lot. I think she asked you because she can't afford to pay the fuel that's why she thought of inviting you so that she could pay half the price.Shun away from her/his company.People like her are just going to take advantage of you. Look at the bright side, at least now you know what kind of person he/she is.
• United States
16 Sep 12
So true and thanks I have no spoke with her since.
• United States
16 Sep 12
Honey your so called friend is not your friend, because if she was she would just ask to borrow the money insted of making up something, i can bet my bottom dollar she is doing something eith her money she is not suppose to be doing , so watch out for her she is no good for you.
• United States
16 Sep 12
I agree thanks and I don't think I will talk to her anymore.
• Mexico
16 Sep 12
Hi ja hernandez rivas: Oh that's really terrible. It's so sad how some people could act this way just using their so call friends. I would feel angry with someone that just wants my company for having a benefit and not because of my friendship and I would not like to be his friend. ALVARO
• United States
16 Sep 12
I am not talking to her anymore, she was the one that invited me to go and never asked me about any gas money until the day before and she did not ask it is the way she said "tell your husband to give me some gas money" Totally wrong! Then when I told we sis not have any money just the tone of her voice it was bad and just yelling well I have to go and I will find someone to give me some gas money. Urgg I was so glad to hang up.
• Indonesia
16 Sep 12
I don't think she's your friend, she maybe not even think of you as a friend, because sounds like she's just using you. First of all she wanted to go to that place for free food but don't want to spend any money for transportation so she was calling you to go with her and give her some gas money to reach that place. That sounds so wrong for me.
• United States
16 Sep 12
I agree she is the one who invited me and when I said I did not have any money she totally blew me off. So wrong. I have never asked her for a dime and through all these years that is all she does when she says she so called broke?
• United States
16 Sep 12
That just reminds me about a user friend of mine. I would not have gone with her to get the food. I think your right all she wanted was the money.
• United States
16 Sep 12
I agree and I ended up staying home and she did not even call me the whole day which was very nice.
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
15 Sep 12
Well, dear friend, to speak of true friendship today, it is very complicated! I have attended many people in the past, many of them believed true friends, but only in a second time, I realized that they were just like you said "so called friends". They came out with me, or rather, they attended more than anything else when I had a self-interest, both economically and because I did them favors. Now in fact, true friends, and the trusted I only have three. I would say, better few but good!
• United States
16 Sep 12
That is good that have you have a few trusted and good friends. I am becoming to see that my only real friends are my family and pets.
@marguicha (104138)
• Chile
15 Sep 12
Your post title is good. She is a "so called" freind, not a real friend at all. It seems ll she wanted was to get her food cheaper because she would make you pay for the gas. What I donĀ“t understand yet is why did she want to go and buy food if she had no room for it. Did she also want you to turn your house into a pantry for her?
• United States
16 Sep 12
I just don't get her sometimes. I feel like all she wanted is money and yeah she wanted to use my house for her food but not gonna happen.
@almond24 (1250)
• Hungary
15 Sep 12
It really sounds she is using you. Some people only come to you when they need something... She invited you, so if you offered to share the gas money, only that way should she expect it... after all she just got paid, and she already spent it all? Hopefully you will find out what's going on.
• United States
15 Sep 12
Yeah I think she just wanted some money but I don't have any for her.The way I see it she asked me and invited me so why should I have to pay for her gas?
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