To be faithful or not to be faithful

United States
September 18, 2012 11:20pm CST
Dont judge me! But I often wonder, can cheating at least once in your marriage be beneficial to the longevity of your marriage. Before you respond, here me out. I have not met a marriage yet that has not consisted of any level of unfaithfulness. It could me emotionally, physically or mentally cheating. For all the people who have gotten cheated on in a marriage, do you wish that you had seeked out side the relationship as well, just so that you can feel the situation is fair? If you both call it even, wouldnt it be easy to start a clean slate that way?
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6 responses
• United States
29 Sep 12
Love and only do your husband
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• United States
2 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. It is best to be faithful to your spouse. Nothing justifies cheating. It is best to talk with your spouse if their are problems. That way each person knows what is really going on in the relationship. This will help a great deal because sometimes one person in the relationship feels nothing is wrong. Which can be completely wrong.
• United States
24 Sep 12
I am an all or nothing kinda woman. I love my husband 200 percent, If he cheats, or even if I were to cheat, that would mean, things were over. No, we could not even out the slate and start over. That would be the same as jumping off the bridge because you see everybody else do it. Besides, I am a good woman and I know it. My husband would not be the sharpest tool in the shed if he were to cheat, he would loose everything. I have been cheated on by my first husband, I walked out after 15 years, no questions asked, no excuses. He would have had better luck if he had chosen to discuss the possibilities of a Poly relationship. If your needs are not being met, talk to your other half, figure out what is missing and do what you can to recapture it. If you can't, be honest about your needs, karma will come back to get you in the end. I would rather you be brutally honest than cheat. Thats just me
• United States
2 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. There is no sense in cheating. I think too there is no way or reason to try and compete so that the slate is clean. There is no way the slate could even be considered clean after all of that mess. It is best to be honest. Like you mentioned if we aren't happy in our relationship we should tell our spouse/partner. That is the best way to handle it.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
To be or not to be, that is the question, lol! Seriously, being faithful really remains on some people who really have a fairly remarkable conviction of one's self and having the fear of his/her belief that adultery is a sin. Temptations are really everywhere which would be a vital factor with regards to being faithful or not.
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• United States
2 Jan 13
One's belief about being faithful does play a key role in whether certain individuals will be faithful or not. It is best that a person stay faithful either way. Staying faithful is beneficial for both partners whether they are religious or not. It keeps the family bond stronger and the trust isn't broken.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
Hmmm... this depends on the person involved. If I were it, and I found my husband is cheating on me, I think I do not have the nerve to go on with our relationship anymore because he already knows that is a big NO-NO for me. I even warned him that if ever I found him doing that, he'll definitely say goodbye to his junior. lol! Well, I do not know if I can do that but I do not know either how I can react to it when it comes. But I do have an officemate here who cheated on his wife. They even do not have a child then. They had a big fight and even almost broke up. But his wife still forgave him and they are still together until now after 20 years. They adopted a child 3 years ago.
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• United States
2 Jan 13
I agree with you that if I found out that my husband was cheating I don't think that I would be able to continue our relationship. Cheating causes a lot of problems in a relationship and it will lead to broken trust that is hard to recover from. Yeah there would be a lot of emotions involved if our spouse was unfaithful. Glad to hear that your officemate was able to make it work and stayed with her husband for a long time.
@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
19 Sep 12
Getting even would only make the matters worse. That's what I think. If my husband cheats on me and I would find out later on, I just don't think i could go on with the marriage anymore. He knows that already and he knows what i believe in. I cannot be treated with less respect and cheating is a crime for me. There was a woman though, that i read in the papers, who cheated on her husband once and according to her, it made her appreciate her husband more and helped her with her marriage.
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• United States
2 Jan 13
I completely agree with you. Getting even would only make matters worse. Not just a little worse but a lot worse. People shouldn't stoop down to that level. It will damage their self esteem worse and most individuals would regret later that they did such a thing. Cheating really is wrong no matter how a person looks at it. If someone wants to be with another person they should just end the relationship and be single. They shouldn't put another person through all of that.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
2 Jan 13
I think there is no excuse for cheating on either ends. No one can justify cheating. It is just wrong either way you look at it. It often leads to pain and broken trust. Once that trust is broken it is very hard to get back and that in itself often will lead to relationship problems in the future. Seeking revenge isn't worth it. Not for the damage it causes to a person's self respect or to the relationship there in.
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