Willing to risk friendship just to come out of the friend-zone?

I think that would depend on what kind of a person is your friend. Just be yourself and do not force yourself on her too much. Let me share with you my experience. I have a very close friend (boy) since 8th grade. He is so close to me I wan't aware that he had feelings for me more than a friend. A lot of our classmates would tease us. Some thought he was already my boyfriend coz they often see us together. Then one day, he told me his true feelings. But I told him that I only see him as a friend and nothing more than that. As far as I remember, he asked me thrice for the next 3 years if I want him to be his girlfriend. On his third attempt, I thoughT, well, what the heck?! So, I told him, "okay, let's try.". He was sweeter and just absolutely made everything perfect for me. But, I still didn't feel anything special for him. 5 months passed, then I told him that having that kind of relationship is not working for me and that we ought to remain as friends. I know I broke his heart, but he conceded. From that time, he became distant.

Yes it really is a very hard decision to make because if it turns out that they do not feel the same way about you then there is a chance that the friendship could be over. If your serious about your feelings for them though & there is no chance of these feeling going away any time soon then you just might have to take that chance. I think it would be hard being around your friend all the time knowing how you feel about them. Life is all about taking chances. Sometimes it pays off & sometimes it doesn't, but at least you wont go through life living with regrets.

I ever felt that I was falling in love with a close friend in university, now when thinking about it I realized that I was not really in love with him Environments and situations that made ??me feel that I fell in love with him. Friend could be your lover if you're brave enough to confess your feeling to him/her. But you also must be ready with the rejection, would be a bit strange after she/he rejected you. But if you are a big-hearted and smart to break the ice there would be no problems with your friendship with her/him.

uhM :D i've been into this too.. it was actually easy from being friends to become lovers.. but from lovers to being friends(after the breakup)-LOL!it took 4 yrs @,@ =D so in the future-am quite cautious to be in the same scene again=)

That happened to me once. For the longest time, a very good friend of mine was thinking of taking our friendship a little further but he was really scared of the risk he will be taking. Later on, I found out that that went on for a couple of years and when I found myself a new boyfriend, that was the time that he took the plunge and confessed to me. LOL. Unfortunately for him, I was really in love with my boyfriend so I turned him down, but the good thing about it was that it actually turned out pretty well. We are still very good friends, still very comfortable with each other. I think that when it comes to these things, taking the risk is worth it, but you have to be in a good place yourself so that if things don't work out, you can still remain friends.

I had a friend who liked me before we were friends, but I wasn't interested in him. Then we became friends, I dated someone and he still liked me. Then after I went through a tough, tough breakup with my boyfriend, seriously like a month later my friend told me he wanted to be with me and was upset that I didn't feel the same way. I stopped talking to him especially after we went out to eat one day and I swear it felt like a date. That's how he made it seem like. The nerve of him especially after he went out with my friend? When we went out to eat, it was supposed to catch up on each other since we hadn't spoken in a while but he just made it seem like something I didn't want it to be. I thought we could just be friends but clearly not!

It is perfectly normal for you to fall for your friend since you share the same interest and do stuff together. You feel so comfortable and good together that it will be hard not to fall in love with your bff. I'd suggest you go slow buddy. Give her hints and observe if she is also attracted to you. You can tell my friend. Drop hints but don't go too fresh and forward. Just take things one step at a time and everything will fall into place. Who knows, she might just be waiting for you to make that move. Good luck!

It is a very risky move and of course there's never an assurance that you guys are going to be back to the ways things are before the admission or the taking the friendship to a higher level. But then, it's a matter of priorities. Some people would rather keep their feelings to themselves and are content with loving their friend in silence. While others are willing to take that risk; at least they wouldn't have to spend the rest of their lives always wondering and thinking what could have been.

It is better to come out from your shoe box and explore the world. Life is beautiful with or without real friends. Along the way, you may find the best pal ever.

Well, I would think taking the risk is good for the sake of not having regrets about it later. But I think the reason issue is expecting certain results. While it may be awkward for both of you at first, it becomes worse if you expected that person to have the same feelings for you. Despite whatever the person's response after your confession, expecting them to have the same feelings will create more harm than help. If I were confessing to someone, I would make the confession very subtle and ease into it. This way the impact of the confession isn't too overwhelming for the person to take in all at once. Even if the person does not have the same strong feelings about you, I think you just try to move on. I would just try to see this incident as a minor setback, which both of you will eventually forget. It may be difficult to restore your relationship to the status before the confession, but it's worth working hard to restore your relationship, especially for a good friend.