My Doctor advised me to stay out of stress. or should he say away from home?

@jaraan (193)
Philippines
September 21, 2012 12:34pm CST
A week ago I was diagnosed with a heart ailment,.. so my Doctor advised me to do regular short exercises or a 15 minute walk every morning, a lot of fruits and water, away from fatty foods and most important is "stay out of stress". So I paused a second and explained to my Doctor, "Doc after this I am going straight home this is whats going to happen. I will hear my wifes mouth with a sound of an auto riffle asking me how much I paid you for my fees and medication blaming me for my ailments. I will see my 13 year old daughter wearing make up and texting and talking on her cellphone the whole day , my 9 year old daughter listens to a heavy metal band. my youngest 4 year old son screaming all over the house and banging all the doors and scattering my things all over and some into pieces and later on fighting with my 9 year old... Now are you telling me to keep away and not to go home?" Now.. the Doctor got stressed as I looked in to his face!
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
21 Sep 12
JARAAN; Interesting. You have not told about medication. Did the doctor prescribe medicines. Every thing is ok. What is that auto rifle? I can appreciate the tension you will be having on seeing your daughter talking over phone throughout the day. Also the stress from your second daughter and the son. Is your wife employed? if she is employed you can stay at home. Even then taking rest is not a possibility with three children. But the cause is only ourselves. Take the medicines prescribed by doctor, do a lot of mylotting to stay away from stress.
• India
21 Sep 12
sir, please tell me that from where are you getting this type of thought? i think you are extraordinary inteligent.. hats off one day i will become like you! ..... :)
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
22 Sep 12
arpitshukla99 thanks for the nice words. may be a few people may not agree with what I said. Any problem can be analysed from different angles. I do not have any extra interest or dis interest with any of the members and I try to speak out as it comes to my mind--of course observing forum discipline and guide lines. I was really worried about the way that young man --young as compared to me--telling he is treated for heart ailment-- I started taking medicines for BP, cholesterol only from my 54 th year. All said and done we are responsible for what we are now,
@jaraan (193)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Hello Guys! I take a rosuvastatin at the moment and paracetamol tramadol for the chest pain and the rest will be prescribed after my follow up check up next week. my wife has a Job but I still have to work at home wich is stressful to me but I still find ways to avoid it. Sometimes I visit my neighbors and friends to have a chat.
@HomeBase (1153)
• United States
21 Sep 12
I feel very sad for you. "Home" is where a person is supposed to be able to go to get away from stress, but I know many people, men and women that are in your situation. Instead of home being a place where they can go to find peace, home is a place that they want to get away from. I will be hoping that things get better for you, for the health of your body AND for the health of your home.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
22 Sep 12
HomeBase: i am happy that you have expressed in a way I probably could not put it properly. Yes. I am feeling about our member. you worded our concern appropriately. good day.
@jaraan (193)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Yes and It's still so nice to be at home and see my Family. I always watch them as they sleep and they really are an angel, but as they woke up, then I ran away from home and visit my friends for a while! LOL.
• India
21 Sep 12
Hello jaraan, LOL. You have a great piece of humor on your words. It is very tough to get rid of stress in a stressful world today. As you mention, some have stress at home, some have at office and some at their work place and for myself it is at my work place. At a stretch, I have to sit for 4-5 hours a day without a break infront of my monitor and that too in shifts. It is really stressful for me. Atleast at home, I feel peace. Thanks God for that. Have a great day always. Cheers.
@jaraan (193)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Hello! too bad for me again because I work at home and stress is with me all the time and the only time escaping from stress is my sleep but too bad If I'm have a nightmare of course.LOL. I cant work at daytime because I have to take care of my kids as my wife goes to work. The only time I can do my work is at night time when all of them are asleep. Peaceful time for me without hearing loud metal music, no screaming and shouting, no kids running around the house no fighting and no neighbors complaining etc, etc. But its k for me, They are still my Family and I Love them so much.. I do Hope my heart can still handle the pressure..They are the reasons for me to live, but Jeeez! they really are killing me!LOL but I also have to consider my health condition now.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
a pleasant day jaraan, honestly your main topic caught my attention. that i am also encountering stress whenever i am at home. though we have a different story. that is why i am really doing my very best to acquire a small home unit for me. so i can move out from our home and live peacefully.
@jaraan (193)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Hello airasheila, It's a wonderful plan You have there and I really wish to have my own unit to relax and do my work peacefully.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Fix your family, be man enough to.
@jaraan (193)
• Philippines
23 Sep 12
Hello bigmoney, I just don't understand what you are trying to say about being a Man? Do You have your own Family? I mean are you married already with kids? or are you talking about being mean or man to my kids?..
@lizrelox (144)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
I am so sorry to hear that. I guess the change should start between you and your wife. If your children will see both of you with love and respect for each other then it will be much easier for both of you to discipline them. Also try to spend quality time with your children try harder for them to realize that it's worth it to spend time with family than other things. God bless you
@Jshean20 (14349)
• Canada
22 Sep 12
Oh Dear LOL. I bet he had a stunned look on his face after you told him that. These days it's pretty hard to stay away from stress, unless you are locked in a room by yourself and able to sleep for days and days. Stress is everywhere- work, home, watching the news, doing the chores, looking at your bank account paying bills, the list goes on and on. Despite all this, I hope you are atleast able to avoid some of the stresses and follow the doctors orders.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
21 Sep 12
i know what you mean! sometimes doctors tell you to do the impossible. once a doctor told me to rest (i can't remember what the issue was) but i do remember i had a todlder at home. rest? ha! that is impossible!
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
22 Sep 12
Hahahahha I have the same problem with noise in the family. Just some noise from the television mainly and mom's favourite soap operas. Groan.
@iBizkut (80)
• United States
22 Sep 12
First off, I hope all is going well for your heart ailment and that it is not getting worse. Second, life is life. Family IS family. Sounds like you need to find a place you go claim as yours to get away from the petty stress. If you think about it, if today was your last day would it matter to you that your daughter is wearing make up or your children are fighting? Or would you just be glad to see their faces and hear their laughter. Look at the accomplishments they've achieved. As for your wife she is just stressing out about what a wife should stress. You two have children just answer her straight forward (not that I know your wife personally because you ARE the one married to her) and not excite yourself if you get frustrated with 21 questions. Let the small things slide and be happy you get to live another day(: Like I said, hope all is going well.