Money and Friendship
By MelanieMay
@MelanieMay (102)
Philippines
September 24, 2012 4:32am CST
Someone once told me that money matters complicate friendship. I know of some relationships that broke down because of money. I also know of some good friends who ceased being friends because of money issues.I believe that there is a way to handle this between friends. If a good friend comes to you for financial help, are you obliged by some sort of a "friendship code" that you have to even though you can't afford to? And will your friend hold it against you if you say "no"? I believe true friendship transcends this. Saying "no" to somebody that needs financial help can be done without destroying the bonds of friendship. Saying "No" does not mean you don't care. Saying "No" means that you don't have the solution your friend needs right now, but it doesn't mean that you won't help her find another way. So i ask you, Does money really complicate friendships?
4 responses
@Jake809 (97)
• Denmark
25 Sep 12
Actually it really shouldn't if they are good friends. When a friend tells you that he/she can't give you money then you have to accept it and it doesn't matter if you think it isn't fair. Money is really personal thing and a mean to give you things and joy in this life, but true friends are hard to get. A true friend will of course give you the money if she/he have enough money to lend you, if not then one have to accept it.
@GemmaR (8517)
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25 Sep 12
I do think that money can complicate friendships, and this is something that I am having to cope with at the moment. I am trying to save up to be able to buy a flat for myself and my partner to live in, and I have managed to save around £8,000 for this so far. Because I am saving so much, I don't often have the money to be able to go out with my friends. They don't understand why I am choosing to save money rather than go out with them, but the truth is that I really need to save this amount of money before I am able to settle down and move out of my parents house, so I just think that it is something that really needs to be done.
@merylinkid (69)
• United States
24 Sep 12
Exactly, a true friend understands "no." If you give money to a friend, assume it is a gift. Don't treat it as loan. Otherwise, it just poisons the friendship.
@quanquanzhang (504)
• China
24 Sep 12
i think money matters complicate friendship,because the money,our friendship need to consider the interest if the mount of money is large,i think no matter what things ,if considering the interest ,it will be complicated.
