My cousin is having an affair with a married man!

First of all, a love that started wrongly can never be right. Second, what will be your cousin's reassurance that this guy would not dump her for another woman when he dumped his wife? This is a very tough situation. This is the kind of love that I think the perfect word for it is SELFISH LOVE.[u][/u] Love should be being selfless but with this kind of relationship, there will never be peace within themselves. How can she be happy when she knows that his family is suffering because of the loss of a husband and father? It may be hard to convince your cousin to just give up on this guy but just enlighten her with these: Is she willing to stay in this kind of relationship without assurance? Will she be happy knowing that the family is hurting so much? Doesn't she want to have a happy marriage instead, wherein he can be with his loved one forever without thinking of anybody that she might have stepped on?

i disgust that man having another woman knowing the fact that he is already married. is your cousin way younger than this man? if that's the case, i bet he is just making your cousin his past time. if i were in your situation, i will definitely tell my cousin to think about the man's family, if she can sleep well at night and she will be happy knowing that she ruined a family and let the man's kids grow up having no father at their side, then she can continue having that affair. and, if ever they will be having a family of their own, how sure she is that this man will not betray her and have another woman since he done it once with the woman he first marry? i am happy to know that you do not tolerate your cousin having a relationship with that man.

this is a difficult situation. since you care for your cousin, i understand your concern and worry. if your cousin allows this to go on further, there will be definitely someone to get hurt. either she or the family of the man she is in love with. it is better to get straight into the future. let the man decide; talk to the man. if your cousin is in love, it is difficult to convince her of the future scenario.

I don't think that people should have affairs with people at any point, and I really don't think that there is any excuse at all for those people who choose to do so. Your cousin should decide whether she really wants to be with this man or not, and if she decides that she does, she should insist that he comes clean to his family and tells them the truth about her. It is not fair on the family of the man if he is not being truthful to them, and I would certainly want to know if it were my partner who was being unfaithful.

Don't say anything anymore. Just be prepared when your cousin need a shoulder to cry on. Be there for her when she needs a confidante.

i think if you ever suggest her twice, it`s her rights.. don`t blame your self if your cousin get the troubles because of her affair with married man