Family pressure

@pogi253 (1587)
Philippines
October 1, 2012 8:10am CST
A friend of mine often complains how pressure she gets about her lovelife status when she is with her family. Her family wants her to get married soon, but she does not want to get married just for the sake of being married. She wants to be the person whom she get along with and she really loves. She does not want to be obliged into a marriage for convenience. Do you think that love can be developed if one marries without it?
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@riyauro (6428)
• India
2 Oct 12
i can understand your friends situation. some people are like that and they want to get rid of the girls by making them get married as soon as possible. it is like traditional to them and they follow that. It is bad because it is the girls life and she cannot be forced to o that. i would go any extent to get out of such situation. I would not mind if i have to leave home because i would not want to be dragged with people and their tradition and become sliced with them. it is my life and i have full right. i would say this. And i hope your friend face the pressure the family is putting on her. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
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• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Me and my boyfriend also a bit pressured by his and my family to get marry. But we both still financially unstable. His plan for us to get marry will be is when we both reach the age of 28 and it will be next year. I don't know what will happen next year. Whatever God wants to happen it will.
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@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
Never gets married because others wanted it for you ! You marry because you wanted it already and heart and soul you are ready for that. Married life is never easy , it calls for sacrifice , commitment , maturity and many more . Remember you are joining a person and a clan you only know for a matter of month and years , having different upbringing , practices and beliefs. Think hundred times and pray hundred times also.
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@natliegleb (5184)
• India
2 Oct 12
it is there in most of the families and they pressurize us a lot to get settled with their arranged ones,but its not about that,its about sharing love.we have to talk to them to know them better
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@GemmaR (8526)
1 Oct 12
Before I got together with my partner, my family were always asking me about why I wasn't with anybody, and whether there was anybody that I liked. I was quite relieved when I got my partner, hoping that this would allow me a bit of a break. However it only gets worse when you're with somebody, because then they start to ask when you're getting married, and friends have recently said that we should start thinking about having children. We know that we want to do both of these things, but we would like to do it in our own time rather than because of pressure.
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
marriage for convenience is a big no no. it usually does not work. why marry when you do not love the person? in some cases, love can be developed but most of the time, it's not.
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@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Oct 12
Hi pogi Well, your friend is in a dicey situation. And only time is the best healer for her. Personally, I belong to a country where Arranged Marriage has been the preferred way to get married. But given the fact that today's women think different and have different preferences, the arranged marriage couples dont give much of time to each other at the start and hence the love which could happen sooner happens but late. And amidst the delay, chances are that you have more of misunderstandings between
• Philippines
1 Oct 12
hi pogi, I don't believe in arrange marriage, force marriage etc If ever I want to have a love marriage I don't believe that love can be develop maybe it is for some people. happy mylotting