How would a mother understand what was implied and said by kids
October 1, 2012 8:22pm CST
a mother was in the kitchen when she heard her two boys fighting. when she rushed outside, she was shocked to see them exchanging blows. when she asked the older one why he was beating up his younger brother, she was told he had called him a stupid person. "Did you say your brother was stupid?" "No, I didn't." "Yes, he did." She had to rush to the kitchen to do some tidying up. A minute later she had returned and asked them again. "Tell me, did you say your elder brother is stupid person?" The boy shrugged. "He implied it." "How?" "By the way he said it." She turned to the younger one. "How did you say it?" "Ask him!" How does this mother pick out the lies and the truths in this discussion and discipline both boys accordingly? She's just a single mother and we happened to be talking.
• United States
2 Oct 12
the way i have dealt with it, with my own two children, was to separate the two of them for 5 min. then i would sit down with both of them and let them know that calling someone stupid or even imply it is not nice. then i would remind them how they feel when/or if someone was to call them names. if they don't like feeling that way, why would they want someone to feel that way? they've learned to be more respectful to each other and to others. they even get upset when they hear someone else call other people names.
2 Oct 12
thanks a million. I really have little experience with kids. I'll pass it on, but I do remember that they used to drum it into my ears...spare the rod and spoil the brat. It would be foolhardy for her to start meting out punishments when both kids think they were right; and their faces showed they were innocent. Your advice is kind. Thanks angelwithkids.