Is it worth tobe empty-handed for your family?

I would not go broke to help; my family. I am not a martyr. It is a hard call, but unless you are in front of someone and take the bullet meant for him, it is not worth to go broke. You can only do what is reasonable and if you do go broke, you will resent it the rest of your life.

This is a terrible choice many have to make. The first thing I would do is make sure I knew the wishes of the person who is ill. Many times it's the family that puts the pressure on not the patient. I then think that you must look after your imediate family first, and then take a look at the future, that is very difficult. But throwing yourself into proverity helps no one, because others must then rescue you.

When a loved one has an uncurable illness a person will do everything they can to do what needs to be done. There is hardly any illnesses where there isn't some kind of treatment. But even if there isn't a person can stay by the sick persons side and show them they are loved.

Very interesting question Shavkat. It is to me a very personal decision. I mean it depends upon how much you love the person, how much you need the person, and what your abilities are to earn again. Of course, none of us would like to be poor. But none of us would like to be alone in life either. So if I had to do it, I would spend the last penny on my father, even though I dont get along with him that well. That is because without him, life would seem so empty..

If this thing did happen to me and I am the one in charge, I would definitely do everything to prolong the life of a loved one. I really do not want to happen what has happened to my dad's mother before. She has diabetes and her condition is not getting any better. My dad's elder sister was the one primarily helping for my grandmother's medical and hospital bills and she was also the one who tell my father and the rest of the family that they will bring my 'lola' home because they are already running out of money yet my grandma is getting worse. I can still remember how we all cried as we can not really do something about it. But I do tell myself that if this thing happened to my mom, I won't really care if all my money would be spend by her hospitalization. I just can't forgive myself if I will just let her die at home. I don't know if I can live a peaceful life after that.

I can say yes I would. My dad has a medical condition that will never be cured. It took years of doctor visits and seeing specialists just to find out what was wrong with him. The family has gone very far into debt and it is ok because he is here with us. He is able to see his grandchildren grow and got to see his youngest son get married last week. I have taken over a couple of the medical bills to help out, but I don't mind because my dad is still with me

I would only want my life to be prolonged for as long as I was able to live an acceptable level of life. If I am unable to move, enjoy myself, or become too much of a burden on my family, I would not want my life to be prolonged. I actually do have a Do Not Resuscitate order on my medical documents, stating that I do want everything possible to be done to SAVE my life, but if I pass on do not bring me back. I feel that if I pass away that was God's will, and it isn't man's place to interfere. Also, I believe that if I need to be on life support, am a vegetable, or anything similar, I'm not bringing anything to my family or society as a whole. So yes, please let me go and don't spend unnecessary money on me, since the sickness is incurable and I will end up dying anyway.

I think you are talking about spending money to take care of somebody. There is a cost of what medical care can charge but if its too keep somebody alive who has no brain activity then its usually one of the hardest decisions to make. To know that you did everything you could to keep them in your thoughts are prayers goes way beyond what money could ever hope to do.

If doctor can't cure it I guess I can only pray that miracles will happen maybe I will try to cure it by medicine. But I don't want to borrow some money for it I will give some.money for charity and some money to seek a medicine

I think that these are things that cannot be decided until you are in the case. We are all going to die and from that point of view, we are incurable sick from the moment we are born. When my grandson had cancer, every member of the family, friends and people from my daughter`s work gave money for his treatment. At that moment there was not the help there is now in my country for that kind of illness. He had all he could have the 9 months he lived after being diagnosed of cancer. He also had the love, care and toys to make him happy. We never thought about the money. And we do not regret it.

hi, if that will happen to me of course i will try to prolong the life of that person or member in the family,but not to the point that i will sell or put all my savings because i still have family who still need my help and they are still my family.

theoretically, if it is really that uncurable, we might consider stopping the therapy and cures. maybe we'll allow medications that at least lessen the pain and swelling. however, being in a close-knit family, letting go of someone is not that easy. some would have to sell their soul just to keep someone alive. though it may seem illogical, there's still that hope that remains. and when the inevitable eventually comes, you'd say that you have done all you could until the end. that may make you comforted just thinking about it.

If a loved one of mine had an uncurable illness, I would spend some money, but not all of it. If there's generally no treatment available to cure their condition, I would spend enough to keep them alive on life support or any other type of treatment for a couple weeks to get a chance for some relatives to visit him/her. But not much longer afterwards because I do not want to prolong their suffering from the illness.

Uncurable, well, of course, it is hard for us all to think something is impossible, in this case a cure to a sickness/disease. We want HOPE, we want that small percent chance, even if it is just 1%, it is something. So, of course, we are going to spend money, but then you have to realize, that why are pushing them this pain of more needles, tests and lack of ourselves. We then decide to make them comfortable and happy and peaceful, letting them do whatever is on their bucket list, wish list, or whatever you might call it. We are all just selfish in something, in this case, we don't want them to go, when we should realize, the suffering is just being prolonged, in some cases killing them faster. Instead we should them to be selfish, and let it be about them. Majority of families, have someone suffering from an uncurable disease or sickness, many we can't see, and many we can still live a long life. Many you have to endure medicines daily and watchful eye, but we all just want to LIVE HAPPY. When we know it is a deadly one, we don't want live out as if we are on our deathbed, but as if we everything to be proud of, because we feel blessed for each day. We do want our loved ones, taken care, but we also want them to enjoy LIFE and each other, with what time we each have. God Bless.

My call is to go to God. He will do what is best.