Is there possibility of falling in love to two person at the same time?

@bembzee (769)
Philippines
October 4, 2012 1:53am CST
I had a present boyfriend at the moment and yet i am very attracted to other guy. I love my boyfriend but i also cannot stop thinking of the other. I had this huge crush over the other guy way back then. I feel guilty for keeping that a secret to my boyfriend. It is like stabbing him at the back. Can i be in love also to the other guy? Or am i just mistaken love to crush? Or much worst, can i be in love to them both at the same time?
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@zhihao12 (364)
• Singapore
4 Oct 12
Personally, i think that it is very possible to love two person at the same time since love is not restricted to single. Neither is it wrong to have such a feelings since it can not be controlled. However, it is certain that the love for one is definitely stronger than the other, and that is how you must choose to give up one of them.
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@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Love indeed is not restricted to one. But letting go is an option if i choose to love and be loved in return.
4 Oct 12
I just want to remind you that if you love two at the same time is like just deceiving your self, because the each will learn and that will be the day the is going to die and you find all of them leaving you and that is a very difficult situation you can encounter in your life and you should not think of killing two birds with one stone you might end up loosing all.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
You are definitely right odiya. I don't want to end up losing my boyfriend. I just wish this feeling will stop and i will only see my boyfriend alone. I mean it's okey to like someone but not too strong attraction that will almost make me fall in love for another man. That's betrayal already and i don't like it.
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
The intensity of love can never be the same. It might be true that you love your boyfriend but I guess not the term "love" to its greatest and truest meaning of the word. Because if you really love your boyfriend there is no way you feel the same way to the other guy. Or maybe your still infatuated with the other guy which is just normal. But for sure, you cannot be inlove with both of them at the same time.
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@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
I want to enjoy a normal love story. You are right i need to know the intensity of my feelings to them both.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Yes, everything around me is beautiful everyday. Because waking up with much anticipation of love in the whole day inspires me a lot. I think that's part of growing up. Though, i can't weigh my feelings for both, yet, they brings too much excitement in my teen age life.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
I have been in that situation, but then after a long thought, I have realized that you just love one person, and the other person is simply "hanging" in your thoughts coz of guilt.
4 Oct 12
i agree with you because that heart is a small organ that can not be shared by two people,just love one and make sure it is a true love.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
My boyfriend gives happiness and so as he. I knew it is wrong to admire some one else especially if the feeling is a little bit deeper than ordinary admiration. But can't dictate my heart to stop beating fast when his near right? I know deep within me that what i am feeling is not normal and that i am being insensitive to my boyfriend. But the least i can do is be honest in myself. Yes, i love my bf and i think i am falling for another guy.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
That is a tough situation. Just think of what it is you love most about your boyfriend, how long you have been together. Has he done anything to you that would lead to your divided attention?
@andy77e (5170)
• United States
5 Oct 12
No. It's not love. Love is inherently exclusive. You can't say I love you and really mean it, if you love someone else. You can have a chemical attraction to hundreds of other people. It's chemicals in the brain. Male female attraction is normal. But it's not love. I can look a hundred women, and be attracted to each one of them, simply because the chemical hormonal response is attraction. That's not love though. This is why we are different than animals. We can direct our physical chemical "feeling" of attraction. And we should direct it toward the one we marry, the one we truly love. Love being a choice of the will, to pledge your life, your pleasure and emotions, to that one single person.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
You make me feel less guilty. You are my angel andy.
@andy77e (5170)
• United States
5 Oct 12
Just make sure you control your emotions, and don't let your emotions control you. You'll end up in a bad place otherwise. Best to you!
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
Copy. Emotions if not properly taking care of is very scary. So might as well control it than it controls me. ty.
• India
4 Oct 12
It is definitely possible to be in love with two persons at the same time, with the same intensity and not feel guilty about it. I have a met a classic example of this in real life. I like to put it this way , " Two be in love with two people at the same time is not impossible, but it is impractical "
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Oh my...curiouser, it sounds like a go signal to me, LOL. If i'm not thinking straight i would love to have two boyfriends at the same time, LOL. But i know it is not my cup of tea. I'd rather put it a secret than be a talk of the town and bring my mom a heart attack.
• India
4 Oct 12
If you want both of them , and if it is okay with both of them , I really do not see a problem :-) After all , what the world needs is a little more love :-) Always :) But , usually , it does not happen that way :-| One of them or both are usually hurt :-( Unfortunately .
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
The problem is, the world will be the one condemning you. But yes, what the world needs is a little love...love...love.
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Oh, I guess you have to double check your feelings. Is it love that you feel with your bf? Are you only attracted to the other guy or are you already in love with him? It's really puzzling but only you can solve that problem of yours. Try to observe your feelings towards them. Goodluck. I hope you'll choose the right one. Happy mylotting.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
Having attracted to another guy is a total puzzle to me. This is new to me and as new as having a first boyfriend. That makes me confused. I felt lost and don't know where to start. All i have in mind is making my relation work and avoid the other guy.
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• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Yes, that's better. Just avoid him so that you won't be confused anymore. It's better to focus your attention your boyfriend. Goodluck. :)
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
4 Oct 12
Dont make a chain like "Tu nahi to koi or sahi, or nahi to koi or sahi" this is not love but only attraction. You are thinking about looks only so you think about other guy. You are doing fraud with your boyfriend. Why you need two person for love here I cant bear a one ehhe...just kidding. I have no experience of boy friend and two is danger..
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
My mind says, it's too bad to look at someone else beside my boyfriend. But my heart is betraying me. I can't help admiring the other guy. Why do i feel contended just watching him from afar? This is crazy but that is my problem. I can't make up my mind. I love my boyfriend yet my crush make my day even special.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
6 Oct 12
Thank you balipromo, i can flirt as much as i can but i am sure i wouldn't dare forget my limits. I am against premarital s, And i don't want to gamble my future by engaging into teen age curiosity. You are right, prevention is better than cure. May i add up, curiosity kills the cat.
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
4 Oct 12
personally I don't see attraction as love it can be physical, mental or emotional attraction but it certainly is not love while I can be attracted to someone else, I will never leave the man I love for him and if ever the two need me, I will only be available for the one I love are you willing to leave your bf for the other guy? if not, then you don't love the other guy. it's just attraction/crush maybe you'll go for it, but you'll want to return to the one you love
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
I am physically attracted to the guy yet i am not willing to let go of my boyfriend. I kinda enjoy the feeling even i know it was wrong. I am a selfish romantic teen ager.
• India
4 Oct 12
I think you are in some attraction on them. just think if your boyfriend loves other girl at the same time like you are doing right now.We can't share the people someone we love most. if this was known to your boyfriend defiantly he will be hurt more....
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
I swear if ever he will be attracted to another girl he will regret it. That is unfair. I'd rather don't wanna know it. So he better be a good keeper, LOL, like me. Just kidding, i know i'll be hurting him if ever he'll discover.
@odiya86 (13)
4 Oct 12
I just want to say falling in love is not a crime, but the question is how? you have to be very careful when you want to fall in love because if not you will be like digging your own grave of which i do not want it to happen, just chose the one you love most and you think can take care of you and make you happy for the rest of your life and go with that.And you should not also fear telling the other lover about it because if not like that you can regret it for the rest of your life. Good luck.Thanks
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
As much as i want to understand my real feeling, the more i couldn't get a straight answer. I cannot choose the other guy because he was not an option. He is not courting me, i only had a huge crush on him that i almost wish him to be my boyfriend. I'm crazy, alright. But i am really in love? Am i?
@GemmaR (8527)
4 Oct 12
I don't think that you can actually love two people at the same time, but there is a chance that you could have feelings for them that you're finding a little bit hard to understand. However, these are more likely to be feelings of lust rather than love. If you are with someone and you have been with them for quite a long time, then you should think about whether everything is alright between the two of you if you are able to have feelings like this for other people, because you might not be as happy with them as you think.
@bembzee (769)
• Philippines
4 Oct 12
I understand your point GemmaR. I think, I've been too comfortable with my boyfriend since we are steady for almost two years. The spark lessen because of too much familiarism. Almost everyday we are together, can this be one of the reason?
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
9 Oct 12
I don't those are kind of love if you feel the same with two person. That what I called greediness...because your not contented enough to see what is truly your heart love about. I don't believe that having that feelings is love. Maybe love struck in different places but the other is not. It might a love of friends and a love that something special the other way around...