Funeral- loss of words/what to say

@rs1982 (99)
United States
October 5, 2012 5:06pm CST
I never know what to say at a funeral. How do we condole someone who lost a special person? I mean, we tell them we are there if they need anything but that seems so fake. After we step out, we get so busy in our lives that we forget to call and ask how they are doing. How do you tackle such situations? What is the right thing to say when you attend it..
5 responses
@GemmaR (8527)
6 Oct 12
It is always hard to know what you should say to people who have just lost somebody, as there is nothing that you can really say that will make them feel any better about it. I always find that saying "sorry for your loss" is the best thing, as there is nothing better. They will then know that you are there for them if they need you to be, yet you did not have to be pushy about it so they don't feel forced to speak to anyone about it. It will always be hard, but they will not blame you for not knowing what to say because everyone else will be in the same position as well.
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
There are exactly no words can condole a person who just lost a loved one. I simply hug the person tight and I think thru that the person knows how I am feeling for her/him.
@beamer88 (4268)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
Yeah, it is really hard. I myself had been at a loss for words in a few occasions. I guess the best thing is just be sincere and true. I mean, say what you really feel and make sure you do whatever you promise. Like if you say you'll be there for them if they need anything, then make sure you are there when they do need it. If however you're not that close to the deceased, or for that matter, you actually hold some grudge or something, then just say your condolences and that's it.
@SunGlow (48)
• United States
5 Oct 12
I feel the same way on not knowing what to say. It is a difficult time but I usually say 'I am so sorry for your loss and that I am here if you need anything.' It is best just to be there and listen to what they have to say. They need to know that you care about them and will be there if they need you.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
5 Oct 12
I think the best way to do is just to tap the shoulder of your friend who lost a dear one....words cannot help in their times of sorrows and I think words that we utter are just fake because like what you said, we will be busy with our schedules and that we will forget to check on our friends on how they are doing...