Ungrateful

United States
October 13, 2012 5:07am CST
I was searching for a new discussion to respond to when I found one that really upset me needless to say.. A person was complaining that no one was responding to his posts.. He had written a couple discussion talking a little bit about the situation... But didnt get anything back... So he wrote another discussion asking for help.. Some of our fellow mylotters tried to help this person.. What does he do?? Degrades all of the people that were nice enough to respond to the discussion and was using language that was clearly against mylots policies.. So I reported it.. my screen froze up.. but I am back now;-) Anyways to anyone that is having a rough time; if someone tries to help you and all you can do in return is cut them down... WHY ASK FOR HELP? WHY SAY ANYTHING AT ALL?? I hope mylot does read the discussion and take it down.. sorry for the fellow mylotters that wont be paid for it.. I just dont think it is right for it to stay on this site wasting space.. This is suppose to be a place where people all over the world share experinces, thoughts, etc.. Not create unneccsary drama and chaos.. Go to another blogging site.. ITS NOT WANTED HERE!!! So for my fellow mylotters if you come across a discussion that the person that started the discussion clearly is breaking the rules would you report it or pass it by?
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13 responses
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
13 Oct 12
SJVENDEN We have different types of people in the world, in the community, in the forums. some talk loudly. Some talk nicely. Some weep always. Some laugh always. Some wants friends and accept immediately. some take a lot of time to decide about friendship. Some accept newcomers friendship easily. Some accept old members friendship easily. We are getting along with all people. Similarly some members will report violation immediately. Some may hesitate to report immediately. I have not reported any violation so far. Is it a credit or debit , I do not know. good day.
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@ravisivan (14051)
• India
13 Oct 12
sjvenden: I am not getting email notifications for the last nearly 2 days or so. Are you getting email notifications for replies made, discussions started?
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@deazil (4605)
• United States
13 Oct 12
ravi, I have not been getting notifications for 2 days either. It's very annoying.
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• United States
13 Oct 12
That what makes this site so great.. There are so many different people from all walks of life on here.. That is a gold mine in my opinion.. Sharing new ideas, explaining the old and supporting one another... Now do I think we all should get along a play nice all of the time.. NO!! Thats never going to happen we are different have strong opinions about certian things... and will not change our minds.. Thats cool.. I do not think it is right for someone to attack someone else for any reason!! You can express yourself strongly mad whatever; thats everyones right! But to put it on someone else is wrong!! I havent been getting any email notifications either.. Hopefully they can fix that soon..
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@echoforever (5192)
• United States
13 Oct 12
I believe I know which posts you're talking about. I read briefly over the one he was asking for help over... he did get some response there but for me it didn't seem real? I didn't know what to say there so I didn't respond but I saw that one and he had some who helped. Then the next day I did see the one he's upset at everyoen and even used a disguised curse words in his topic starter. Calm down its just myLot?
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@mysdianait (63976)
• Italy
13 Oct 12
I missed that one... maybe youcould oblige?
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• United States
14 Oct 12
I am ok now.. I was just upset with what was said.. granted when I wrote the discussion there was proably more to it.. Then it doesnt help that my words were not totally right and conflicting.. Just dont think people should attack people when there trying to help.. It reminds me of things and its not a place I choose to go on this discussion; its off subject..
• United States
15 Oct 12
Oh i wasn't meaning that last little bit about you "calm down" I was meaning for this other person who wrote this: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2710465.aspx That's the person i was talking about. I'm unsure if you're talking about the same one or not. He had written a discussion a few days ago about indian government conspiracy trying to poison his food or something and got some helpful response then comes back with that one up there. Crazy guy...
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@fannitia (2172)
• Bulgaria
13 Oct 12
Hi, Sjvenden, I have the same feelings about myLot as you. I've never reported a discussion so far. But I want to enjoy everything that is interesting for me here without any troubles. Maybe you did good reporting the rule breaker. Maybe we should just ignore users like him. If we don't communicate with them, they will go away. Have a nice time!
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• United States
13 Oct 12
Yes we could do that.. But... I am not sure how much you understand about computers and networking... All of the disscusions that have ever been written is saved.. They are not deleted, and yes you can still respond to them.. There are over 200,000+ users on this site at any given time.. You you can just imagine the about of discussions that are actually out there.. First thing bad discussions take up space, granted there are proably several 100s of servers that are used for mylot, and most of the information is proably backed up (meaning lots of spaced wasted on negative discussions) thus the admins have to spend more money on more servers, there for that money doesnt come to us mylotters.. I would rather take the time to report bad discussions and possible have more cash in my pocket or my friends because we can follow rules and regulations; second if new users see that partical post within their first ten posts they may draw the wrong conculsions of this site.. Meaning they could either leave because they disagree or figure its ok.. Regardless of what the regulations may state... This hurts the integity of the site.. But for the most part I dont say anything when the converstation is tip toeing on the lines.. I mean it is easy to start saying stuff that is not right.. but it was clearly all over this discussion.. and the comments made by the author to other mylotters.. Its just not cool in my book.. Thank you for your comment;-)
@mysdianait (63976)
• Italy
13 Oct 12
New users should not be able to see any discussions that are violating the guidelines, not just those where there is abuse. Those topics with referral links, plagiarised content or whatever else should all be reported as they are all violations. There are no good or bad violations. They are either violations or they are not and we should help out by reporting anything which should not be here. Admin will then decide whether to remove it or not.
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• United States
14 Oct 12
Yes this is true.. I will start reporting all content that is against the rules. Now I understand where you are coming from.. I didnt totally understand before;-)
@deazil (4605)
• United States
13 Oct 12
If I see something I think is quite offensive I'll report it. I've only done that twice, someone was baiting me and they were really rude. Another time someone was being just rude and insulting and very argumentative. You're right, this is not a place for that kind of behavior. We can agree to disagree without treating others in a demeaning or derogatory manner.
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• United States
13 Oct 12
Yes Thank you! I was just trying to get that acrossed.. I would rather have mylot full of people that know how to respect people; and not full of people that just do not understand that people do not need to be treated poorly..
@deazil (4605)
• United States
13 Oct 12
Thanks for commenting! I do appreciate it.
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• United States
13 Oct 12
Your welcome;-)
@ajk111 (2527)
13 Oct 12
i take cyber attacks with a pinch of salt. it is very easy to be aggressive online so i seldom bite back. i say the discussion you refer to and find it very co incidental that it went up on friday night when admin are usually gone for the weekend so it will achieve maximum impact. a bit of a cheap tactic but effective none the less. the author does seem extremely agitated and it did occur to me that he may have been on some kind of substance abuse as he appeared eratic and difficult to understand what his problem was. i expect by monday his account will have been deleted and i expect that will be no bad thing. hopefully he will be calmer today and express some form of remorse.
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• United States
13 Oct 12
Yes it was that discussion.. It caught my eye when I was trying to find something new to write about very early this morning... I actually walked away from my computer for a couple mintues and then came back and reread the discussion.. I wanted to make sure I was reading the discussion for what it was and not something else.. I am not quite sure when the admin is on or off.. It is possible the discussion could be gone sooner.. Yes it would be nice if that person came on and aployized for been rude.. and explain his problem better so othrers can help him... I would respond too. I really enjoy helping people; I have been through quite a bit in life and would rather share my experinces as a learning tool then dwelling on it.... And sometimes I learn something new which is awesome!!!
@ajk111 (2527)
13 Oct 12
i agree about how good helping someone with a problem is. it costs nothing to show a bit of warmth and human kindness.
@flydog99 (25)
• China
14 Oct 12
Oh,i am a newcomer in mylot.I havent meet such violation,i think mylot needs a harmonious atmosphere.People who degrade the ones that try to help them is really infuriating.We are different persons,we have different thoughts,hence we may have several debates and arguments,and its not a big deal if we respect each other.Respct is of the essence,if we dont repect the rules and other people then there comes a problem,a violation.Personally i will report the violation if i find them ,i think maybe its a duty for me.
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• United States
14 Oct 12
Well said flydog and welcome to mylot;-) These discussions at least from my own experince do not come up too often.. Just really had a problem with that one the other night.. I would agree it is in a sense a duty; its like keeping trash picked up from the yard.. So everything looks nice as people swing by.. Show people that it is a new place to be.. I know that if some newer members seen that post it might of discouraged them from continuing to come back...
• Philippines
14 Oct 12
thank you for your advice.I must say i need such advice because I'm new here.I'm really looking forward to learning more about mylot.
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• United States
14 Oct 12
First of all welcome to Mylot!! This is a really great site to interact with many people all over the world.. There are so many opporunities to learn how others live, what they believe in, and lots of extra things.. The best advice I could give you would be have fun, just be respectful of others.. All of us will not agree about the same things all of the time which is great, can cause some health discussions/debates.. Happy Mylotting;-)
@natliegleb (5188)
• India
14 Oct 12
the atmosphere over here is most important and we need to be cheerful not sad ,this needs to be changed for sure
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• United States
14 Oct 12
I have found though my own experinces when something needs to change the first person that I should look at is myself.. I thought I was doing the right thing.. Mylot is a great site; and I hope it sticks around for a very long time.. Just following my instincts.. Letting people know what happen and how I felt about it.. So then maybe someone that has the same tendences or had did that in the past they may change the way they express themselves on here.. Over all its not right and not needed here...
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
14 Oct 12
there are people like that sometimes they pretend friendly so we like them and keep responding to them be friendly back and so forth, only to find out the truth that they have been talking behind our back and even post discussions about it and this happens on mylot and a few other forums I report anyone using derogatory responses or responses that have nothing to do with the post but the two-faced, I just let what comes around goes around I also sometimes respond to them as if I didn't know
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• United States
14 Oct 12
Oh yes karma can be great or can really hurt you.. Depending on what you did or didnt do.. I guess mylot is no different to some degree then our offline lives.. There are some that are straight forward, others two faced, or quiet ones...
• New Zealand
14 Oct 12
Whether i will report or not that i may decide when i read one.but i would like to avoid as much as possible.
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• United States
14 Oct 12
Thats one way to handle it, not melding in someone elses affairs.. Not trying to be mean or anything like that.. Everyone has their own ways on here which is cool...
@GardenGerty (91055)
• Marion, Kansas
14 Oct 12
Yes, I report people who violate the guidelines. No, I do not waste my breath or my typing on people who are obviously negative and planning to stay that way. It is their loss if they do not try some of the suggestions of people on the lot who have been here longer than they have.
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• United States
14 Oct 12
Yes it is that persons lost; turning away help is not something that I would do at least not on purpose.. Thank you for your comment;-)
@sync202 (18)
• Kenya
13 Oct 12
Even if people are different, the one you described is very hard to understand, being given a response wasn't enough he/she had to throw tantrums.SAD
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@grkelly (1218)
• Malta
13 Oct 12
I have never reported a discussion but i would do so if I noticed something thatwas truly wrong or immoral. On another note, I really cannot uderstand people who come here and expect a reply to a discussion that is either silly or without any need to be discussed. There are several 'stupid' subjects which I cannot understand due to improper wording or lack of explanation.
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• United States
13 Oct 12
Now if you disagree with what the person is writing... Its kind of hard to explain so bear with me please.. Ok we are having a chat about the color of the sky for example.. You say the color of the sky is royal blue, I say its baby blue.. and we disscused it... in the end we can not solve our difference of opinion.. Thats totally cool.. Whats not cool is if one of us (example remember) sit there and say words that are a personal attack on you, putting you down, degrading you... THATS WRONG AND I WILL REPORT IT!! but a simple disagreement over the details of a subject is great.. This creates a debate which creates more interaction and we all get paid more $$.. But we can walk away from the computer may be a little frustrated that we couldnt agree... But not hurt or degraded.. Hope that clears things up for you ;-)