When Is A Friend A Friend

United States
October 13, 2012 1:20pm CST
Some people think doing small things for you is being a good friend. Although it is better than nothing, I feel a true friend should be there for you in your darkest times not just when it is convenient or because they are doing something in hopes of getting something in return. If you are the one everyone wants advice from or the one everyone is complaining to, where does that leave you when you need someone?
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@marguicha (106333)
• Chile
14 Oct 12
For me a good friend is a very complex thing. Sometimes you see the good friend in small things, sometimes at the times where you need someone to stop the universe from shattering over you. But this is a two way thing, just as it happens with any relationship.
• United States
14 Oct 12
I agree. Last week was one of those shattering of the universe type deals. Thank you for putting it that way because that's how it felt at the time. :)
@subhojit10 (7382)
• India
13 Oct 12
Thanks for sharing this discussion. Yes u are very much correct, a true friend need to do anything to prove that he is the perfect friend of another, it should happen naturally. The bond should be stronger, the love and affection should be even stronger. The one who is there by your side at all times is the real friend who will defy all odds to help u support your cause. What say?
• United States
13 Oct 12
You are welcome. Thank you so much and I agree :) It makes me a little sad because I have many friends who love me yet I still give other friends more attention then them when I should not. Now that I realize that, it's time to make some changes.
@celticeagle (121070)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Oct 12
I don't have friends with the thought 'what will these people do for me?' I do have some quality friends who are great people. I feel that it is important to live by the Golden Rule. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And you are a good person and live a good life you draw those types of people to you. I have a friend I have known for fourty five years. Another I had known for thirty. And one that I have known for over thirty. Complaining to and wanting advice from is all in the manner of friendship.
• United States
13 Oct 12
I agree and I feel the same but sadly others take that positive attitude as some sort of weakness to exploit. One interesting point you (Celtic Eagle) brought to my attention is the length of some of your friendships. Sadly, I don't have many old friends and I am sure the lack of that bond comes into play for some of my friends but not all. Sidenote: Because of facebook, even though it's boring as hell and I am often there via my site or others with facebook integrated, I have connected with lots of old friends but many are married and/or with kids so they don't really go out or do much. In a general sense though, I always try to provide a solution or help troubleshoot an issue with a friend without a thought. It is second nature to me however I had a bad experience last week which proved who was really there for me. So this discussion is based on that experience, lots of deep thought and what I am going to do to take control of the situation. This discussion will help with that process so thank you, all who have responded so far and also future comments that will assist in this process :)
@natliegleb (5184)
• India
13 Oct 12
only when he is ready to share everything and gives shoulder always for us to help in all sorts of troubled time and be with us through out
• United States
13 Oct 12
Thank you :)
@GemmaR (8526)
14 Oct 12
I think that it is very good to do small things for a person whether they are a friend or not. However, there are some people who do things for me but I wouldn't see as a friend because we just don't get on all that well with each other. If you have a friend then you have to know that they would always be there for you whenever you needed them to be; whether that is for small things or large things. My group of friends are very tight knit and I know that we will always get on well together because we all choose to support each other.