My brother in law is very introvert by nature..
By subhojit10
@subhojit10 (7375)
India
October 19, 2012 2:29am CST
Hey guys, the day my sister got married i knew she would have a tough time at her in laws house as my brother in law was very introvert by nature. This is because my sister is very much talkative and friendly. He hardly speaks any word and whenever i speak to him over phone then most of the time i get confused as i am unable to hear his words.
I have absolutely no issues in people being introvert by nature but there is some limitations in everything. When u tie a knot then it not only means meeting of two souls but also of families and he should understand that his nature might nit be appreciated by many. I do not know but i feel at times that i should avoid him and not talk to him at all. But because i love my sister very much i have to stay in touch with him.
What are your thoughts regarding this? Please leave your valuable comments!
3 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
I can understand you my friend. But i guess, when one is reticent , the other one should be talkative. That way, the talkative would entice the reticent to talk more.
Just like me and my husband. I am talkative , while he is not. But whenever we are together we would laugh a lot, because of my talkativeness and my jokes. Though, he is reticent he is a joker too. When he is with me he gets talkative too, because i let him by barraging him with my questions. 
Just try to be with your brother-in-law. Initiate the talk and give him questions that can make him talk. That way he will also get to talk, not close his mouth and have bad breath. 
Just try to be with your brother-in-law. Initiate the talk and give him questions that can make him talk. That way he will also get to talk, not close his mouth and have bad breath. 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Your sister is unlucky for having a man who is that reticent and old fashioned mind. 
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
Your brother-in-law is so lucky to have your sister as his wife. 
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
22 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for your response again. i think i would rather say that my brother in law is lucky to have got such a woman in his life who has never complained or bragged about anything not even about her husband. He should have always appreciated and acknowledged her all the time which is his responsibility as a husband but even she cannot help either.
What say?
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
19 Oct 12
hi,
I can understand your situation. The same happens in my house. My father is an introvert ,he seldom speaks. My mother is very talkative ,i should say. I don't know how they maintained all these years. May be its easy for my ,other as she knows my father from childhood. This would have made the work easy up to some extent. But Not all the time.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Glad to know that u too have such kind of situation in your family and seriously hats off to your mother who has carried her married life with such patience and grace. I think may be the proper understanding and coordination between your parents who happens to be completely opposite to each other is the key to their successful married life. But that might not work all the time as u have said.
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
20 Oct 12
by the way what steps is your sister taking to work the relationship?
I hope she is happy.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for your response again. Well she is for most of the time gets busy to handle her 8 year old son and 1 year old daughter and that is the way she keeps herself busy in grooming them. My brother in law stays out of the house due to his touring job and hence gets very less time to talk to him during a week. But still she has never complained about anything and has left everything going the same way as it has been going on.
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@JinBinLai (52)
• China
20 Oct 12
It's really unacceptalbe for me to get such a very introvert man as my relatives. But the one marry and get along to this man is the sister, if she have chosen the guy she love,I would accept the introvert brother in laws then. If they are happy together, I would mind nothing else.
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
20 Oct 12
Thanks a ton for your response. Well yes i too even feel the same that it is very awkward to have introverts as my relatives too. But to be very honest, this was an arranged marriage and she accepted the marriage proposal without any qualms but it is only after the marriage that we all discovered that he is very introvert by nature. I am not denouncing him for being introvert but he maintains it at a very high level that is unacceptable.
What say?
