do you feel tired of love?

love hurts - girl crying while holding boy she likes
Portugal
October 19, 2012 11:10am CST
hi guys you know im someone that always believes in love. and always want to think that someday we find our prince and be happy. but thanks to all the disappointments i had till now im starting not to feel so happy anymore. we all need love in our lives but what can we do not to expect so much from the guy we like? what clues can be given to us that he is the wrong guy so we can end it before we fall more and more? guys please share your experiences
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@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
I do get tired of love too. Especially when both of you are arguing. Before, me and my boyfriend always argue, like almost everyday. Soooo tiring. But eventually, it decreased to every other day, then once a week, then twice a month until finally once a month on the average. We usually argue with our differences but you cannot change that in a relationship. No one is alike, right? So when you are not happy with your relationship now, do you think you will be happy on your next? It's like a cycle. If you are not happy now, you will definitely not be happy on the next, and on the next, and so on. What stops a realtionship? CONTENTMENT. We should be contented if we want a stable realtionship. It depends on the reason why you broke up I guess. But with reasons so inconsiderable, you should think twice. You cannot change what is in you and you also cannot change what is in your partner. You should accept one another no matter how different you are. Hope this helps.
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
thanks so muchy for your advices^^ i understand what you mean. we should accept our boyfriend as he is and he should do the same for us. i always accept the guy i love even with his flaws but the problem is that sometimes guys act so careless. but i guess its normal cause guys are not as emotional as us girls^^ i wish soon it appears a cute guy in my life that loves me as i am.
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
ahah i wish he can appear before i get too old^^ im not in a hurry that a guy appears into my life^^ but i would like to. im already 22 years and i see other girls my age with boyfriends even some with kids already. so i wanted the same feeling you know^^ im waiting for the right one. i say cute as a guy that is sweet and loves me for who i am^^ not handsome or something^^
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@adnileb (5256)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
If only I could do some magic, I'll let a cute guy appear in front of you now. Poof! Nothing happened, right? Love isn't like that, you just have to wait for the right one. But what if you have gotten too old but still that cute guy is not appearing? What would you do then?
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
Open your eyes and be more observant, that's how you find if the guy you are with is the right person for you. I'm sure you can also feel it within you. I didn't love my bf when we first met, we got to know each other and I see his sincerity, I felt his love. I didn't allow my emotions to think but I let my mind decide. And to answer your subject, no, I don't think I will feel tired of love
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@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
22 Oct 12
Thank you! You have always been one of my friends here that knows my situation. Distance makes the heart grow ponder they say, and it also keeps it more stronger
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• Portugal
22 Oct 12
im happy you told me about it^^ its good to have friends like you^^ i agree when you say that distance can help some relations^^ but others are destroyed by it. so it makes me very happy to know that you and your bf found a way to make it work no matter what
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
im very happy that with time you felt for him. its great to know that you understood he was the right one for you. im happy you are not tired of love. but keep loving him even though its hard to be away from him. i wish that soon he can find a job near you. that way you can be near him everyday^^ i guess it must be a hard situation for you but if your love is strong^^
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• Mexico
21 Oct 12
Hi swet love forever: At some point I have felt this way. Try to think that romantic love is not the only way a human being can love and the more you think about finding a person that worth you the more you'll feel depressed. Try to live your life and you will find the one and even if you don't you have yourself and you have your friends. I think we should not try to force things because this only make that we take the wrong decisions. ALVARO
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• Portugal
21 Oct 12
thanks alvaro for your advices^^ yes sometimes i think we get so into the idea of having a love in our life that sometimes we dont see that the guy is the wrong one. even he shows us that we are not his first priority. i will just wait that a sweet guy appears into my life. without worry about it. people say that love happens when we less expect it. so i will believe in that.
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@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
I am one of those who still believe in fairy tales and prince charming :$ honestly, for quite some time now, I don't look at anyone for special reason. I am just waiting, when he comes then ok =) I don't try to please or attract others. LOL By the way, sounds like you are in love.. Are you?:O
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• Portugal
21 Oct 12
im also like you^^ i also believe in true love. in prince charming^^ but sometimes i think im just dreaming. because i see sweet guys with girls that dont value them. and i think i really wanted a guy who loved me so much. and the girls who have it dont value it. its so unfair. anyway i think you do the right thing. just wait and the right guy will appear when you least expect. i will do the same^^ just sometimes i feel sad and really wish he could appear soon^^ anyway no im not in love. i got hurt so many times that right now for me to believe that a guy loves me he would need to show he cared for me. by doing some things that didnt let me doubt of his love.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 12
I am not tired of Love, actually it is really good to learn more things about love so you are not ignorant for what your lover is doing to you. I have encountered too many cheating and lies, not only in my own relationship but also with some of my friends and my sister too. I felt like there will be no escape when you get involved but as a suggestion, don't be tired of love, just learn and explore.
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• Portugal
21 Oct 12
im happy that after all you been through you still believe in love. thats all we need to be happy. we should keep believing always. love is what can makes us happy in this life. without it we can be alive but we wont be completely happy. even though we get hurt many times in life we all need love so we can live well.
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@naveed00 (58)
20 Oct 12
most of the people think they r in love while its only a crush, love is unconditional, there r no expectations and u don't have to go out and search for love it will come to u, n when u'll fall for it that feeling will never go away
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• Portugal
21 Oct 12
i understand what you mean. that love happens without us expecting it. i just wish that i have the chance to be loved soon. im tired of loving guys that always stop caring about me after some time. would be good if we could know in advance if the guy really likes us or not.
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
20 Oct 12
Dont expect anything when falling in love just allow it to happen naturally . Only expectation you should have its that the person will love you and treat you with respect and I mean if you find true love then all the other perks will come with it such as , honesty , kindness , caring , and the list go one . You are young it will come no need to be disappointed everything is trail and error in life . I think the clues that the person is wrong for you , they lied to you , cheat , rather to be with friends , love to drink and make a fool of themselves , you juts dont like being around them , they dont fit with you . I guess those would be the clue I look for . We all have different things that float our boat , sometimes the bad person we walk from are the ones that would be nice for us , rather than the wolves in sheep clothing .
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
i agree with you ^^ i think that those that seem to be bad sometimes can be a good guy. but those who play too nice are the ones we should be careful with. anyway thanks so much for your advises. you are right im young yet. but im just sad that every time i like a guy i always end up disappointed because i expect too much. i will try not to expect much from now on. but let things happen and then see if is worth to expect or not^^
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@GemmaR (8517)
20 Oct 12
I have to say that this is a feeling that I have struggled with a lot, especially when things get hard. When you argue with people it can sometimes seem as though nothing is going right and that there is no point in love, however you have to remember just how good things can be when things are working well. I know that my partner and I have rough times, but this doesn't mean that I would ever think of giving up on him unless he did something really bad to me. I love him and that means that you have to take the rough with the smooth.
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes gemma^^ im happy that you accept him as he is. with good and bad things. i just mean that sometimes we get disappointed when we feel that a guy loves us so much and in the end he doesnt love us so much as we think. that happened to me before. thats why i feel sad sometimes. thinking that no guy will ever do everything for me. and thats what we all girls wish.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
20 Oct 12
For many people, due to our custom and tradition, we had to spoil our life for nothing. Mainly, we all are bound to coop with our culture, faith, and such many more and after spending time for it. Still I am telling everyone that we have to live the way how we like. There is reason for it. Our life is only ours and the count down starts the day we born. If we don't do what we like in our life as and when we desire, will get lost for ever and never come back or get back. It is more attached to love and life. Only because of being a women, if we can't life life the way we like, find a person who wish to live the life in such a way and make him as the life partner and live the life with full of love and energy. Regards
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
we must live our life as we want. i dont like when people are forced to have a life they didnt choose to. but sometimes things dont go as we want. sometimes we think that a guy loves us so much. and then we find out he didnt love us that much. and we get disappointed. thats why i created this discussion. because sometimes we get disappointed with our love lives.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
27 Oct 12
They say that expectation always leads to disappointment. When I was young, I had experience being disappointed in love too several times because I expected too much. The moment I learned how to stop expecting and just enjoy the moment without any worries, I was free from disappointments. There will be no clue but the actions of the guy that we love. Just don't love too much that you have nothing left for your own self. A friend once told me that if you don't love your own self, then others won't love you as much as you expect them too. The more we put value to our selves, the more the guys would love us too.
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• Portugal
27 Oct 12
thanks toni^^ you are right. for now i will stop expecting things from guys. if i like a guy i will just let him show his love. if he doesnt then, i can let him go. you know i used to blame myself sometimes like im not interesting, not pretty enough, not good and thats why they didnt show care. but now i realize that i did all i could. i loved them honestly without cheating so i didnt deserve their attitudes. so for now i will value myself more and stop expecting^^ thanks
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
24 Oct 12
Well, I am a guy too and I have a girlfriend for three years. Though I must admit that there have been quite a number of girls fell for me during these years. Yet I decided to stick with my girlfriend. Tired of love? yes, love is really tiring sometimes as we would have conflicts, misunderstandings, and differences in the love we have. But I can say that if a guy values you more than anything else. Then he is definitely the right guy.
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• Portugal
27 Oct 12
im happy that even other girls were interested in you, you respected your girlfriend. i agree when you say that if a guy values us more than anything he is the right guy. i think the same too. even sometimes is hard to have a boyfriend like that. anyway i wish you keep loving your gf very much and keep understanding her^^
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
No! Because I already found my love. And I really felt like that I'm the luckiest person in this world for having him! :)
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
im very happy that you found the love of your life already^^ i wish that he is always good to you. and loves you so much. i wish someday i can also find a guy that is sweet like yours. its so good to know that you are happy with him. happy love stories is what its needed to be heard when we are hopeless about finding a true love. thanks wish you be happy with him.
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• Romania
19 Oct 12
No, I didn't feel tired of love. In fact, I don't know what mean love, but I can say that I'm in love with my girl and I love her more and more. Some advices? I don't know. Depends of you. For exemple, I met many girls and none of them don't satisfy me. not physically. I need a girl who really think. A smart one. A bad guy is recognized after one week. I'm sure about that because I was one of them. The way he talks, behaves, walks. Everything. Then, I notice you, girls, forgive too much. One, two, three mistakes. But there's no limit.
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• Portugal
19 Oct 12
im happy that as a guy you admit that we girls forgive too much. and that you think thats a mistake. thats true. would be good that guys showed their feelings more before we could forgive them. anyway im very happy that you appreciate your girlfriend very much. and that she can be with you for a long time. be happy and thanks so much for your comments^^
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20 Oct 12
I never tired of love its love makes me happy and makes me feel complete.There might be some disappointments being in love but when you in love its normal to get hurt. We need to accept both pain and happiness when love is involved.
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• Portugal
20 Oct 12
yes i understand what you mean. but sometimes its hard to accept that a guy doesnt care much for you when you are so sweet to him. but sure we cant control our feelings. but i just wish i had more luck with guys. cause it seems that every time im the one who cares the most. and for once i would like to love a guy who puts me in first in his life.
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