Meeting a possible love life online
By LinaSummers
@LinaSummers (25)
October 20, 2012 8:56am CST
I'm turning 28 this December and still looking for the love of my life. I did had serious relationships and my recent relationship with a guy for 4 years did not work out. Believe me, I tried to keep it for us but there were things I cannot control. So I am back to square one, a searching single. Been trying to move on and I think I am healing from that bad breakup. So here is the story. I met someone through chat and we had so much fun conversing. He is friendly and smart. In my point of view, he seems like becoming interested in me but who knows really, have not met him in person. I also find him very intriguing but here is the catch. He looks like my ex boyfriend and dressed like him. Scared as hell to fall for him. What would my ex say of me if for instance he sees me with this guy. It would really make me look as if I had not recovered from him. Plus, I met him only on the net! I know people get married through net but I am one of those who would say no no to it. It's just unrealistic. It's plainly a waste of time but I just did it, chatted with someone over the internet out of boredom I guess. I once read an article on how to find the love of your love, basically it did not advice to go on your computer. Mylotters, would you date someone you met on the net and who terribly looked alike with an ex boyfriend?
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7 responses
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Oct 12
It is hard to say whether or not we would date a person online. It is very easy to start talking with a person online and then start to develop a relationship. Talking with a person one time can lead to talking to them every few days. This guy isn't your ex so don't feel down that he looks and dresses like him. And don't be concerned about what your ex thinks. You have a life without him and are free to live it as you please.
@LinaSummers (25)
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20 Oct 12
Totally agree with you. I would keep that in mind that he is a different person. Yes, we have been talking and it is a friendly conversation. Who knows but its still too early to tell. Thank you Dominique25.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
22 Oct 12
I hope that things work out well for you. Starting a new relationship after being with someone else for so long can be exciting and make you nervous as well. It does take time to get to know someone and start developing a close friendship together.
@Mattxu (62)
• China
21 Oct 12
I should say if you love a man who looks like your ex, it doesn't mean you still couldn't recover from him. That only means you like the men who have the same character. You can't refuse this type of boys. Even if you love another man, it stands a good chance that he may also looks like your ex.
So I figure that if the guy looks like your ex is not the problem. If you think you really like him and want to meet him, you should go and meet him. Though you meet him online, you can't give up this chance. Net is a tool to recognize other people, So is a party. So you shouldn't have prejudice to the people who you meet online.
DON'T LOSE THIS CHANCE!
@GemmaR (8517)
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20 Oct 12
It is possible to meet somebody who you will later love by talking on the internet, but this is not always the way that things go. One of the things that you have to remember is that not everybody tells the truth about who they are when they're behind the computer screen, and this might mean that they're not the right person for you when you meet them face to face even though you thought they would be when you were talking to them. By all means try and give it a go, but don't be too upset if it doesn't work out for the best.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
Hello LinaSummers! :)
First of all, if you are not really over to your ex, don't fall to easily to a guy whom you see so much about your ex. I guess, having the same features will always remind you of your ex, and your feelings for your ex.
Don't go too far if you know deep inside you that you still long for your ex.
In some cases, maybe it's just all in your mind. That you are seeing him as your ex, but really, he's not. Think deeply what you feel between the two persons.
There's nothing wrong with friendships, right? SO, you can start by doing that. But don't expect too much. Just enjoy talking and chatting with your new friend.
If you find something special about him, that's good. a plus point for him.
Remember, they are two different persons, so treat them differently as well.
In the end, if you truly knew the new person, you will see what you really feel for him. and not just another one who will break your heart...
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
21 Oct 12
I think there is nothing wrong if you give your trust to that chat mate.If you think that guy is serious with you then I think it is not that bad that you give him that chance to show his love for you either be in chat or in person.You should challenge him to go to your country or place and meet each other for both of you to know better.I think it is not an issue also that that guy is a look alike of your ex. We can never tell whom to be in love with again and maybe that was just a co incident.
@rollingrock (8)
• China
21 Oct 12
It is not a easy way out. And meeting someone like your ex boyfriend is not a bad thing, isn't it?
@bhabycatch013 (9150)
• Philippines
20 Oct 12
hi Lina,
The idea of having a boyfriend that looks like your ex boyfriends sounds not good to me cause you will have a chances of comparing him to your ex.
Meeting someone online and falling in love with him is a risky one I mean he can be fraud unless he can prove he is not there are success story and there are not
Well just weigh everything and think about it many times
Don't worry I am single too for many years my 7 years relationship did not work out but I become a better person after that
happy mylotting
