Could I forgive you, I not GOD...

@Magz1989 (272)
Philippines
October 25, 2012 12:17am CST
This time i had my revenge to my husband and to the other girl. I decided to live alone and put back all the pieces of me which are shatter by this unrequited love. Then, I don't know what the hell had happened to him. He just sprout in my door asking for forgiveness. Well, initially I said " Did you really think I can forgive you? For those years you had cheated me and lambasted my dignity"I crack my voice and said I AM NOT GOD...I can't forgive. I have given everything but what have you done. He kneel at me and sob softly...he said " I am really sorry, now i know your worth to me, your my life.I reply: I said, really! but now you mean nothing to me...I was deeply hurt...lost and damages...though i cried silently but i hold on my resolve that i won't forgive him....Is that okay...i really can't forgive him...!
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11 responses
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
wow, how brave I salute you. however if you just did it for revenge. does that mean you still haven't recover from the hurt that he has done to you. does that mean somewhere deep in your heart you still have feelings for your husband?
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@Magz1989 (272)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Right...i do love him but he ended everything for me... I want to regain myself again.
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• Philippines
25 Oct 12
and you think after revenge you will regain yourself??? maybe its one step on regaining yourself again. but if you still have feelings for the guy. hmm :) i think you'll do something you didn't expect that you will do :)
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@Roserick (41)
• Philippines
26 Oct 12
my husband cheated to me also.. at first, I was really very angry. it took time before I finally composed myself and think of everything. I even decided to broke up with him, let him have my youngest child and mine is the oldest one. he asked for forgiveness, he said he still want to be with me and all of his children. thinking it over and over again, the pain that we could give to our children without having a complete family... i decided to forgive him. we are now a very happy happy family. i guess if you really have an unconditional love to your child and to your husband, you can accept him again. no one is perfect. there is no perfect relationship either. but its how you accept that reality that will make you happy and forgive those who hurt you...
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@Bhebelen14 (4561)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Maybe now you can't forgive him for what he have done to you and i understand the reason why but i am hoping that someday you can able to forgive him and set yourself free from anger. I know it hard to forgive someone who betrayed and cause you lots of pain but i think forgiveness will bring peace to your mind and heart.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
25 Oct 12
You can forgive if you want, it is a personal business between you and your husband, nothing to do with God, it is not necessary to drag God into this mess. If you refuse to forgive, then take whatever revenge you wish until you are relieved from his hurtful action. If you want to hold on to your resolve and punish him, no one can say otherwise, it is strictly your decision to make.
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@julyteen (13261)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Oct 12
You only value the things when it is loss from you. People might think that if I lost something I won't regrets, still I can manage myself. Well, don't say a thing that you are not sure. At the end of time you will swallow all those words to your mouth and it's annoying. The time that you are ready to fix the things, that's the time also the things no longer available or reachable. You will then regrets. Remember regrets always at the end
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@estremms (324)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Yes it's okay if you feel that way for now, it means you're not ready to heal yet. Don't force yourself to forgive your husband. As time passes by your wound will heal and the hurt you feel now will be no more then that's the time you know that you have forgiven your husband. But forgiveness doesn't mean that you want to be with him again. You can always forgive but if you choose not to be together with him again then that's perfectly fine.
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25 Oct 12
after doing so, did you feel satisfied? what does your conscience say? don't you think it is important to forgive for us to be forgiven also.?.. think about your relationship.
@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
25 Oct 12
Maybe you are still deeply hurt and could not accept him yet. But do learn to open your heart. He is your husband and you have vowed to stay with him forever. Yes, he made a mistake and yes he has hurt you so much. But learn to forgive, too. Give him another chance and try to rebuild that trust and the love that was lost. I am sure that you still feel something for him. But also, tell him to give you sometime.
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
13 Dec 12
hi, in your situation its really hard to forgive your husband,but you should finish that act because you need to forgive him so that you can set your free from that,forgive him but don't ever give him a chance again,or don't trust him again,to release what you feel right now is the forgiveness is the key of all.
@Dominique25 (9476)
• United States
19 Nov 12
When it comes to your husband cheating that is your decision to make. Don't let anyone make it for you. Either way it is up to you. I hope that your life will get better and if you do forgive him that you both can work it out. If not then I hope you will be able to move forward with your life.
• United States
26 Oct 12
It's ok not to forgive right away. In time, then you'll want to forgive to get rid of the anger and the hurt. You don't want to hang onto the anger and hurt to miss out on joy and happiness of living. What he had done was wrong and you have every right to be mad. If you don't think that you could ever trust him again, that's your right. But don't let his mistakes ruin your life. Eventually you'll want to let the anger go so you can be happy.