Why are there shameless people on earth?
By aejey322
@aejey322 (1004)
Philippines
October 29, 2012 10:06pm CST
My husband surprised me with a ticket to the "Oktoberfest" of one of the hotels here in Davao last Friday. He named some of his friends who is coming too so I already expected who's going to be with us. While on our way, he received a phone call from his friend, and I just overheard he said "ahh okay" Then he told me "Marc will bring along Hannah with him." I do not know what to say so I just kept silent.
Hannah is the mistress of my husband's close friend. They are both actually our ex-officemates. Hannah worked as temporary-hire employee for a system project of our HRD department, while Marc is with the same department. Well, the girl is pretty. Boys have gone crazy over her. She became close to Marc. She already knows that Marc is happily married and with one child. After a time, rumors have spread that she has a relationship with him. The guy's wife even was having doubts because she noticed her husband was acting different that time. The guy's department head discovered his phone bills had majority of his calls to the girl's number. The department head decided to make the girl resign for morality's sake.
After how many months, the guy's wife had shared to me that she caught her husband still communicating with the girl. So she talked to the girl and as expected, she just received all the alibis and denials. The girl even told her that she was brought up by her parents with fear in the Lord. The nerve of the girl using the name of God! She also discovered that his husband is already lying to her, telling her that he has an official out-of-town trips, only to find out that he filed a leave of absence to be with the girl. To make the story short, Marc and his wife separated because of Hannah. Hannah got pregnant, and Marc stupidly chose her over his real family. Marc was also advised to resign from our company. I really got pity over his wife. He just wasted the years his wife had served and loved him. And I felt pity over their son too, who is too young at 3 y.o. to lose a father.
We never got to tackle about his life after what had happened. Yes we see each other occasionally because of my husband, but he never mentioned anything about what happened to his family.
So back to the incident last Friday, we arrived earlier than them so we just reserved seats for them. When they arrived, my husband was the one who waived at them and had their seats ready. They made the girl sit beside me. I just smiled at her. But I never went beyond smiling because I really just don't have the guts to play pretentions. I even wanted to slap her in behalf of the guy's real wife. I really hate mistresses. Especially when she already knows at first that the guy is married. Maybe I can understand if she got into the relationship believing that the guy was single, but it's not! I was thinking why did she went with Marc when she knew I was there? She is really has no shame! Well, the night ended without us talking, even if we were the only 2 ladies in the group. I knew Marc felt uncomfortable with what I've done. But I find it more sinful to talk to her for his sake. When the girl went to the restroom, He approached me and said that I might felt bad about seeing Hannah with him. I just said, well I just don't have the will to pretend to be good to her. I'm also a wife. I feel for your wife. I know I do not have the right to interfere with your family's life. But I just hope you understand what I also feel. I just don't want it to happen to us. He just nodded and apologized to me.
We just separated ways when the show ended. I bade goodbye to my husband's friends, but never to the girl.
6 responses
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
30 Oct 12
I'm also a wife, and I think I would have done what you did. You actually handled it pretty well. Good thing your husband's office mate apologizes for the discomfort.
I believe that if a person cheats with you, he can also cheat on you. If that girl have no respect for the real wife, at least she should have considered the innocent kid's welfare, she practically stole the kid's father! Like you, I really hate mistresses especially those who have the nerve to even act high and mighty as if they're the real wives.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I also hope he will still fulfill his responsibilities until the end. He actually is still seeing his little boy. I just also appreciated how his wife handled all that. Because if I am in her shoes, maybe I'll bring my children away from him. But of course I know children still has the right to be with their father.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I agree with what you wrote here- it could an excuse to forgive and understand the girl if she never had any idea that the guy is married or a family man.
But knowing in the first place that the guy is very much married- and by using the name of God- (for goodness sake)
I have many encounters with such mistresses- I am a victim of a broken marriages to those kind of girls.
I know I am not in any position to judge every mistresses as there are cases which belongs to "an exception" and yah- there are few cases of an exception to the rule.
Until now- this big question mark ? and WHY- is still hanging on my mind where are there shameless mistresses in this world.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Oh I'm sorry about that Ms. Jaiho... I never had any idea that that's what happened to you. Maybe I just had an idea that you don't have a husband now by the way I read some of your posts and comments.
I feel for you. I actually am afraid of my husband being a close friend of that guy. You know, he might be influenced to at least "TRY?" So I was always reminding him and giving him like an ultimatum that once I caught him even just for once, he must say goodbye to his pet. I told him I am a calm and silent person. I still do not know myself what I can do if I'm in a high level of anger. But just by imagining him doing it makes me also imagine that I CAN cut "it", or at least make "it" paralyzed. And I know I can also do something physical to the girl. I just hope I won't get in prison when that time comes.
But I didn't prevent him from becoming a friend of Marc. I myself also has no right of neglecting him. I just hated what he had done to his family. It was just the most stupid thing that he had ever done. He was actually given the chance to choose between his real family or that damn Hannah. But he chose the damn girl.
I actually have asked his wife how she's going with her life now. She said it's more peaceful to have Marc out of her life. She was already tired of all the lies and hurt she got from him.
But Hannah? wow! she still really has the nerve to show her face in the public!
I also do not understand her. She's pretty, she's educated... But she just ruined her life by stepping a level down and making herself a mistress.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
I trust my ex (hus) that much and I never ever imagine in my wildest dream that my marriage will turn out into the worst nightmare.
After many times of betrayal and cheating - I still managed to forgive him for the sake of our kids.
I've talked with all his mistresses through phone and expect those girls to deny the truth.
I have faced two of them (girls) but I never go down to their level (never I will).
I was able to keep my composure, controlled my temper and act as cool- like a hypocrite heiress as I am (because I don't want to show those girls any shameful action that might give them reason to bash or say something rude)
I want to show I am respectable in many ways compared to them.
I only had one dialogue to those girls (they're all my ex's secretaries) " I am your boss's wife- how'd you feel"?
None of the two whom I face in person ever say a word- and the next day they resigned from work and never heard of them again.
But for the other girls whom I happened to talked through phone- they're like tigress invading other territories.
Until one day I find myself feeling the strangest feeling of emptiness- "love is gone"
My decision (Separation) gives me peace of mind and contentment.
I found myself, regain my self confident and self respect after separation.
I never think of revenge or hurting them (my ex and any of his girls)
I know there's judgment above righteous than any human law- and let it come to them.
I have lots of typo error above, I got carried away with my emotion while responding and reading your post 
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
There are just some people who are shameless. I also hate home wrecker because I have seen one before almost ruining our family. I am just lucky that my father still choose us because my mother never left him even at the hardest point. I know in time your friend will realize what he is doing is not right. Although, I know it always takes two to tango and there might be issues between him and his wife. But nevertheless, this isn't right and to let the mistress join is definitely a no-no. The wife might think negatively about it too.
@aejey322 (1004)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
Well i cannot judge them as well if they are having any personal issues. But as per my personal view, by the way I see them, the wife is doing all the best wife could ever do. The husband was even always proud of her and shares to us what she had done to him. Well the guy is really somewhat a "chick boy" type, but I never had imagined that he could really go beyond that. I just hope he will realize and regret what he did. Maybe it still has not sinked in to his system because he's still enjoying his triumph for boasting to the other guys that he now owned Hannah. 
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
30 Oct 12
To be the cause of a family's break-up can be a big sin and source of shame. Hannah should have thought better. She had committed a huge sin against the entire family and I do not know how she will be able to cleanse this sinful act as damage had already been done.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
30 Oct 12
There are people who have the nerve...
I know that some marriages don't last forever, and new loves can come. If this happens, divorce is the way to go (even with a kid - for a kid, it's horrible to grow up in a family which always has tension because one or both spouses don't liek each other anymore). But it should be done without cheating first! I have no respect for cheaters. And for them to drag along the girl to your trip and then kind of expect you to be super-duper nice... you behaved in the best way you could. You were really diplomatic.
