how would u react if an important person in ur life blame u unexpectedly?
@colorfullife4all (41)
Singapore
October 30, 2012 6:59pm CST
in the middle of our conversation, i never expected that words will come to his mouth and said it to me! blaming me for what he had done is all because i am with him. its not a positive one. i had over shocked. thinking, why me? am i bad? i didnt do any force to let him decide for that matter? at first its his decision, why now that is turning unwanted results drive the issue and blame back to me? maybe im a burden? whats the reason of staying? i turn back my head trying to control my emotions and hold my tears not to fall. it is hurting me...i dont know how to explain but it hurts me so much! what it is in my mind, this time i'll be more carefull; this time i dont want to have a conversation with him; this time i have to let go! is this time the right time to do this? i know the answer is still NO... but better be YES.
3 responses
@Gretchen522 (715)
• China
31 Oct 12
If he is your beloved and it was the first time blame you should know why,if he often blame you, you also should know why. Knowing why such things happen you will understand and know how to do.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
31 Oct 12
I always hear that we tend to hurt the ones we love. But I think that if we truly love someone, we will try our best not to cause them any pain, not if we can avoid it.
If my husband, for example, unexpectedly blamed me for everything and told me hurtful words, I will not hurt him back with equally poisonous words. It wouldn't do any good, it won't erase what happened and I'm sure it won't make me feel good. I will just say nothing and I will distance myself a bit long enough for him to calm down. When he's ready to talk, I will open this to him and ask him why he said that. I need to know what's running on his mind, and I also need him to know how his words affected me. Otherwise, we will not be able to be to the root of the matter and we will not be able to solve the issue on time.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
31 Oct 12
I think it would be much better if both of you would cool off a bit. Let both of you have some time to think about what happened. And when both of you are no longer feeling enraged, then talk it over.
