You overheard someone saying bad things about your son.

@jdalaqui (1074)
Philippines
November 1, 2012 1:07pm CST
Have you been in a situation wherein you need to ponder on how you are raising you kids? What does it feel when you overheard someone saying bad things about your son or daughter?
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@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
As a mother, of course it would be hard hearing bad things about my child. I have been through that. What made it worst was it came from my own mother in law! How could she tell something like that against his own grandson just so she would not be liable for something that had happened. That is often the reason what I would be having this bad feeling towards my mother in law. She could be so giving to his other grandson ( not my child), and when this grandson does something wrong, he would accuse my son of being the reason why her other grandson did such thing. It is really heart-breaking. I am just happy I could hold my temper whenever I am talking to her and that I still have this respect I have for her.
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@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
hi jenny, oh yeah, it is heartbreaking when our own relatives are the ones who rumors our children negatively. What should be done? I do investigate why and if my son is at fault, we keep silent and learn better.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
What pisses me off is that my son has nothing to do to whatever she is saying. She just assumes everything.
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@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
Well that's below the belt already. Confrontation is the next thing i know to stop the negative thing going on. of course we do it in the most civil way not to act the way the offenders do.
• China
2 Nov 12
If I heard such things alone, I would pretended not hearing. If I head such things with my kid, I would ask him/her why speak like that,and tell him/her that my child is a good boy/girl.
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@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
Hi Gretchen, its good to ask for clarification and if the comment against is merely a negative one without fair basis, we must speak up in a manner that we do not return evil for evil.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
1 Nov 12
I think is all depends on if what they are ssying is true or not. If what they are saying is true then all you can do is ask them to mind their business, but if it just rumor, then it time to set it off in defense of your child, sibling or family as a whole... I truly believe that people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones...
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@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
hi again bjc, thanks for posting in. It is good to ask the reason why there were comments or rumors against our kids or territory. It is always good to clarify things for the benefit of everybody.
• United States
1 Nov 12
If they are telling the truth about my child I will say nothing at all. I think people are free to speak their minds. If they are telling lies about my child I am going to tell them off and if need be I will do what ever else I have to defend my child. if I don't defend her who will?
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@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
2 Nov 12
hi giftsandbagscom. Your pretty tough huh (just kidding) yeah people are free to speak their minds. It is but normal for people to comment on any body including our kids when they observe bad attitude in them. I think we should also consider their comments as part of a reminder to us.
@meowchie (992)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
I am not yet a parent, but things like this I will be grateful if they tell it to me straight so I can give my child proper discipline. I would like it that way, than to know that other people would discipline my child. And lastly, if they think there's something wrong about my child- if they are really concern they indeed should be vocal and tell me honestly because gossips won't even help in this kind of situation =))
@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
Sure enough, the ones who are commenting negatively should go top the parents directly if they are really concern so that the child will be dealt with accordingly. However, people are not doing what is really helpful, most often
2 Nov 12
I actually don't have any kids, but having thought about it. I think I may feel angry because I know how I raised my kids, If I have one of course. I don't need to ponder on how I raised my kids. Sometimes people get insecure. Well, A lot of people gets insecure.
@jdalaqui (1074)
• Philippines
5 Nov 12
As parents we really are angered when people says something negative against our kids as if we did not raise or we are not raising them the right way. For me, I ponder on things a lot even though I know that raising my child the way that I should. I took negative comments the positive way.