My Aunt who is a hard-hearted

Some of us are born into families that are anything but functional.. I come from one of them.. My mothers side of the family is this way.. We have a big family but most of them will not talk to my mother.. She did and has done things that caused the distance betweeen them.. For a long time my aunts and uncles didnt want to get close to me because of the old saying an apple doesnt fall far from the tree.. I got close to one of my aunts, she was the one that really open the door for me.. But they were still skeptical.. I had to prove to them that I was not there to fix the past or be a spy for my mother.. I just wanted them to get to know me and my little family.. It was hard at first to keep them separate; but it has gotten easier as time as passed.. Basically; my suggestion to you is this; if you would like to have a relationship with your aunt you have to go to her with an open mind.. You may want to defend your mother at all cost, but you may not find out what caused the rivet in the first place.. Second it is between your mother and your aunt.. Playing match maker or anything like that is only going to hurt you in the end.. I been there done that.. It might be a good idea to keep it to yourself for a bit.. Until you hear her side of the story if she is willing to open up and talk to you.. The rivet could have started long before you were even born.. I have learned that somethings are better left alone.. But if you do prosue your aunt go to her with an open mind and with love.. Some people that have been hurt so bad by family do not believe in family.. Their friends are closer to them; and they are more like family then blood.. And if that is the way your aunt feels you have to respect that.. May be in time you and you alone might be able to change her mind about you.. But it will take time and patience..

The attitude of your aunt might be because of an issue which was left unresolved over time. Maybe during her younger years, she felt that she has been an "outcast" from the family where she belongs. Maybe there were issues between your mother and her. But, do continue to give her the love and respect. She just might one day realize that there are people that loves her more than she knows.

There are people like that,you only have to learn to ignore such supposed wicked person.The world is full of such people.I can say that their wickedness will find them out.The sweetest revenge you can give to such people is to ignore them,behave as if they do not exist.If you care for them expect nothing in return such count on God to bless you above their expectationS

Would you know if your mom and your aunt have some issues between them, and your aunt is just taking it all against all of you? I think that if siblings have some issues between themselves, the children and the res of the family shouldn't be involved nor the issue be taken against them. Has anyone of you tried to talk to her heart to heart just to try to get to the root of the matter or where this feeling of animosity is coming from? I know it ward to accept that your aunt would rather care for her friends than her own blood but unless she is vocal or she also tries from her end to fix it nothing will happen.

We treat our aunt as our second mother.We do this because she our relatives but in return,she is not kind to us.She did not offering food or other to us when the time that we are in her home,even entertain us did not as well....we had full disappointed on that,But,despite all those characters she had still we love her and we care for her.

I know that it's hard to have an aunt like that. Probably there's something that happened with and your mom that makes bitter towards your mom and her family. I suggest that your moms should talk to her and asked her her attitude is like that. Probably your aunt will open up and things would be good.