marriage, relationship, inlaws conflicts, money problem

Philippines
November 9, 2012 3:55am CST
what we have i would say is the ideal relationship i have always wanted to have, we are definitely so much inlove with each other...although the first stages of our marriage was fine, and as we go along, we get by, although we can't help but encounter money problems because we had two kids in a row, 1yr old and 2yr old - it's really a big expense in terms of diaper, milk and the like; on top of it I am the only one earning because he takes care of my baby because we could not find a babysitter to trust our kids to, although he really wanted to start working. the thing is, before we were asked to stay with his brother's family and rent just one house, we were getting by pretty well, we had a cheap rent, and we barely experience scarcity, but when they told us to rent a big house that's when we started to have problems with budget, because we needed to shell out a big amount of money. there we started to have bunches of debts, up until suddenly they decided to leave us at a short notice, aside from the fact that they have always been delayed for paying the house rental. all this all boils down to following what my inlaws wanted, and apparently this time, this was what they wanted as well...so stressed out...thanks mylot for letting me vent out here.
2 responses
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
No problem can be left unsolved if both you and your partner will be together in facing them. It is all part of life. No one is spared with the problems that life give us. The most important thing is you have each other to face all of these trials.
• Philippines
10 Nov 12
i definitely agree with you. it is really a good thing that we have open communication lines always.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
That is the most important thing- having an open line of communication. Coz if you don't, well, a lot of problems will arise.
@Raine38 (9050)
• United States
9 Nov 12
Hey babyretzel, so sorry to hear about your situation. I am also married for only a couple of years now, and while we still don't have a kid, there are lots of problems that we have tackled. Mostly because we are still adjusting. It is good though that we don't live with or near our inlaws, whether it's his family or mine. We already discussed before marriage that we will decide for ourselves and we wouldn't let anybody, even if they're family to have the final say if it's about us. We also made sure that our finances is in order, if not at it's best. But still, there were always problems here and there. I think these problems wouldn't be completely gone in a marriage. I know it could be overwhelming if they all come at the same time. Be strng for your kids, and always remember that this too shall pass.
• Philippines
9 Nov 12
thanks raine38, I most definitely agree with all what you said. that is exactly why this time, we will really make sure to find some place far from them and build our family on our own, although we respect their comments suggestions but final say should be from us.