Do we need a training to love

November 12, 2012 1:39pm CST
What I have seen from many examples that many love relationship breaks after a smooth run of short duration and that happens even after the relationship turns in to marriage also. So like other intuitions where a training and learning session is necessary to make the effort successful is it similarly applicable to make a love relationship sustainable even in selecting and maintaining a better love relationship that will withstand for long against all odds.
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18 responses
@mariaperalta (19094)
• Mexico
13 Nov 12
I feel one does not need to learn to love... its in the blood. Maybe ones needs to learn how to use love. But I think love comes natural to us all.
@riyauro (6428)
• India
13 Nov 12
yeah the world will become stereotyped if training for love is given. their won't be much fun..Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
12 Nov 12
If love has a definite manual like how appliances and other gadgets works and to avoid it from damaging- maybe then, we will know what to avoid and how to make every relationship lasts forever. Since there is no manual on how to keep a relationship last forever, therefore we only rely from our own experiences and basis from others experiences and shares.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I love your ideas Jai ! So very true , no guidelines , manuals , bible for love.
13 Nov 12
Yes my friend if in the mortal world there is some thing which never obey any rule, strategy, police, barrier, guideline and manual then it is definitely LOVE. But if that is so heavenly then why so many people suffer with it? That is the point where we have to search the answer.
• United States
12 Nov 12
Personally speaking, I'm wishy-washy when it comes to love training and classes for love. How can a 'teacher' teach you and your mate to love? Don't you automatically know in your heart? With my sister and her husband, every other day of the week we hear that 'I'm done with him! I'm divorcing her!' Eleven years of marriage and things don't and never will change. I really don't understand it.
13 Nov 12
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13 Nov 12
No, seriously it is not about having one or two lecture about what is love and what are the ways to make love. rather it is about why and how should you start to build your love relationship if it is started. The cause is it is better to avoid making relationship other than bearing it with pressure and bondage through out the life, because my friend life is for once and there is no guaranty for the next. What you think.
• China
13 Nov 12
Everyone naturally has the ablility to love and to be loved. so i think there is no need for training and learning. what matters is the way he or she behaves or expresses in a love relationship.That is the essential point.To sustain a love relationship, we should just keep improving ourselves throughout the process.
13 Nov 12
Ok dear is not it better to learn some thing that hovering around some fate.
@urbandekay (18312)
12 Nov 12
I think there are two questions here, can loving be learnt? Yes Can it be taught? I am not sure all the best, urban
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Anything can be learned even love but it can not be taught ! It have it's own ideals , desires and reasons which only thyself know. It can't be commanded by anyone not even the brain .
• New Zealand
12 Nov 12
A very good and a very thoughtful question.I hope this thought crosses every body mind who are contemplating marriage.I think often people who are in love think they can overcome any obstacle with the strength of their love.Unfortunately this is not so .You overcome issue with the strength of your charter.But yes people who like me have no idea are never taught what to do how to be after marriage should undergo such trainings.The biggest boon will be that they will realize as to weather they are ready for marriage or now.And also to evaluate whether they have the strength to take constant up and down,disappointments.Marriage is and never will be a bed of roses.
• United States
12 Nov 12
Unless it is a bed of roses...since roses look great on the outside, but when you get into it, it is thorny and stubborn! :)
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
Yes I suggest counselling too. Many relatioships have lots of problems and an expert or good counselors are needed. In the part of couple, they must be both open to counselling and obey what has been advised. Thanks for this.
@sync202 (18)
• Kenya
13 Nov 12
In my opinion,i don't think it requires training it comes from within the heart.
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I don't think it will be a good idea if we have a training to love. It will lose its mystery. And it will become boring. Most relationship fails because one or both parties become too comfortable about having each other. Knowing that they love each other and did not make a much effort to make it work. Or it started too fast without getting to know each other first if they can compromise most of the things or not. The contentment also is one of the most important factors. We tend to look at other people's relationship and compare to ours. Loving is a matter of choice, a matter of getting ready, sacrifice and belief. I myself have been into failed relationships. It taught me a lot about life that nothing is permanent and there's no assurance even in marriage.
@riyauro (6428)
• India
13 Nov 12
If there is training I don't think it will make any effect because it should come from within a person how to love. I have seen my hubby's brother and wife go for counselling and all to help better their marriage but seems to have no effect because they are fighting still and have no love. and the man has extra marital affair. so it is not gonna work if one is not ready and this love thing comes from within a person and rather no need for training. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful day ahead
• China
13 Nov 12
as far as i am concerned, a man who has experience to take care of his girlfriend make me feel better. Love is a inherent ability, or need, however, that is not equal to say everyone has the inherent ability to love in the right way. recalling my puppy love period, I can't not help but restrict my lover's space of freedom, setting up for the strong emotion of love.
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
love comes and we cont need any training to be expert for love.love sometimes failed it hurt but we love again and forget the pain
@Manasha (2311)
• Pondicherry, India
13 Nov 12
IT WOULD not be natural one if we get training in love. IT is sensational and instantaneous
@Mavic123456 (12855)
• Thailand
13 Nov 12
I think, love is as natural as breathing. Bad relationships happen because people involved are not really serious or committed to their promises. Sometimes, it is just a bad love and it is not really not meant to be. Love should be a two way interaction and understanding. It's a give and take. You give and you take. No effort is necessary when it comes to love. It's love, it's like oxygen it's there. We breathe in.. we breathe out.
@Shavkat (65130)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
We trained fro having failure relationships. Eventually you will learn what makes the relationship last forever. That's love, we need to gamble and learn from it.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
13 Nov 12
I think experience is the word to describe it. We learn a lot from those experiences from our past relationships and hope that we can do better for our future partners.
• Bangladesh
13 Nov 12
Yes Jaiho there should be a training academy where people will go to learn outlooks and responsibilities about life, love and marriage. Many a times people dont have enough outlooks as to maintaining a sustainable relationship. I think break up is so frequent happens now a days. And its a problem of our modern society. Even our kids becomes the victim of suffering caused by break up. Trainimg is badly necessary.
• United States
12 Nov 12
I have never been married, but it seems to me that the strong marriages I have seen have been the result of two people trying to improve themselves and being committed to making the relationship work. I don't think this is relational training, but I do think that it involves some emotional maturity. People need to work on their own issues, self-esteem, conflict-resolution, etc. to have a better relationship with their partner.