Have A Friendship With Your Ex...

There,s nothing wrong to be friends with your ex,,but you should not be in so close,just try to tell him that you and him are friends only thats all,

I think you don`t have to be friends with your ex for now.. it`s not really necessary after all you have other friends right.? being friends with your ex will make you think what if`s and eventually might lead you in some temptation.. Maybe you can be friends after a long time of not seeing or communicating when both of you finally move on.. this is just my opinion girl..^_^

If your not hiding the fact from your current partner I don't see anything wrong with it. If you still have feelings for the ex in that special way than yeah maybe its a bad idea. If not, than I really don't see an issue with it. My husband is friends with his ex, and I met her when I went to where he was born and raised. I don't have a problem with it, I know he loves me and only me. He does not want anything to do with her in that way so I am not worried about it... He was honest with me about it from the beginning. That helped a lot. =)

I've known someone who has communication and friendship with her ex-boyfriend. They are both married. However, his ex was separated. I think my suggestion is that it is better to avoid him because you'll never know what will happen.Emotions are very deceiving. I'm sure this will create turmoils emotionally and your marriage will be affected. Just a suggestion.

Hi Bluebell18! You've got yourself in a very complicated situation here. I mean, it's ok to be friends with your ex for as long you are REALLY sure about your feelings with you current boyfriend. Otherwise, this spells out trouble for all of you. Also, let your boyfriend know that you still have communication with your ex. That way your boyfriend knows that its really clean between you and your ex. Also give him the assurance. If can't do this, then stop being friends with your ex. You know what they say, its a bad idea being friends with ex's, though for some it works, but most of the times it doesn't.

If your ex still wants to be more than a friend, I would limit your friendship and contact with him. He needs time to get over you and move on. True friendships with exes are few and far between. There are a whole lot that turn into headaches and points of conflict. Don't revisit issues such as why you broke up and problems in your relationship.

Ugh! You are just asking for trouble, I take that back, you are begging for it. An ex should stay an ex for all the reasons they are an ex. A tiger cannot change its stripes and a leopard cannot change its spots. Slowly cut off communication with your ex, your current boyfriend doesn't need the hassle of him in the picture because the frame is only made for two people.

It's very rare that you can remain connected to your ex in a positive way, and have it be completely platonic. It's not to suggest that it can't happen, it does. There are some who are able to have friendship with an old flame, that remains a friendship. However, the majority of cases, once that 'switch has been flipped', once the relationship turns romantic, it's it very difficult to have it be a regular friendship again. What typically happens is that one person, or the other, will still want that flame between them. They'll keep probing and probing for the moment when the other is weak, and then the fires will burn again. The fact he keeps telling you that he misses you, and "blaw blaw blaw blaw" as you say, means that he hasn't lost that flame. He wants to rekindle the fire. If you keep in contact with him, at some point when you are weak, and vulnerable, he'll show up with his sweet words, and you'll make a massive mistake you won't forget the rest of your life. And it's not like he's devious either. (although he could be) Instead he'll just be wanting to get back together. And don't think you won't fall for it either. I've heard way way too many people who fell for this, and say "I never thought I would do that". But even the best of marriages has down times. And it's right at that point when you are most in danger, that this old flame shows up and sweeps away everything you've worked for over the years. If he wasn't saying stuff like that to you, and you were not thinking of him, then maybe you could still be friends. But that is not how it is, and you need to move on for your own good.

Regardless of what others may tell you.. When you break up, the heart does not just stop loving that person.. It is just the relationship is over for what ever reason.. It is still a chapter within your life; granted it sounds like you are worried that something may develop again.. You have to create boundries between you and your ex.. Let him know what they are and stick to them yourself.. It will seem weird being around your ex for a while.. But if the boundries are respected it will get easier over time.. Unless your ex is constaintly trying to push the limits; then it is time to reevalute your relationship with your ex.. If he can not respect your wishes; then it might not be a healthy relationship to continue.. Good Luck

Bluebell: I say that the fact that you are asking for advice on this matter is a clear indication that you should not continue to have a friendship with the ex. If you feel that it is wrong to think of the ex, then, it is wrong to think of the ex. I think you are setting yourself up for disaster if you continue to listen to the ex talk about the "good ole days" and say that he misses you. I think that it would be much safer and wiser to continue a friendship with a longer distance between the two of you.

Honestly, we've been in the same situation. In the beginning it was purely being friends. But somehow, ex's seem to want to reconnect even if they are no longer "available" and yet hoping that they could somehow be what they used to be. I am guilty for falling to the person, too. But now I have learned to really stay away from that. Although we remain friends, I try to veer away from the conversation when he talks about "US". Better off as friends. If he doesn't want it that way, then get rid of him completely. He would just be the cause of your broken relationship with your boyfriend, which might be not really worth it.

hi blue, it depends on the situation and partner if you both parted ways in good terms that will be fine and if both of your partner don't put malice on it then that will be fine also. happy mylotting

well having friends with your ex is not bad, but don't stay so close to him, because he is still your ex and i guess that would be a bad situation when you are having your boyfriend now,if your boyfriend is open minded then good, but if he is not then better stay away.. coz it will only cause trouble.. it depends on your partner if he will understand and accept that you and your ex are still communicating..

Perhaps you should sort out your reasons for keeping in touch with your ex. Do you do it because you like him as a friend or have you some doubts about dropping him as a lover? It could be that there are some sweet memories that just don't go away. You have been straight with your ex and told him that you are with someone else, but have you told your present boyfriend that you are still seeing your ex?

hi, for me there is no problem to have a friendship in our ex partner because even we avoid them thy have been part of our life,and its more right to be friendly rather than nothing,but of course we already have own life now and that friendship also have limitation.

It's good to hear that you both still contacting and still friends despite of what happened. If both of you has the feelings so, reach for it ! Just follow your heart and mind ! You can.leave your current boyfriend if you don't love him.

it is okay if your current boyfriend has no problem, but if your current boyfriend does not like it that you should not be friends with your ex. that simple.. Thanks for sharing and have wonderful day ahead

I also still have contacts with my Ex. This is a bit tricky. Make sure first how you feel about your current relationship before you keep going with your Ex. If you don't have a strong foundation, this will create problem. The first thing you want to do, think about what made you split with your Ex. Was it just an impulsive break up, or something fundamentally wrong. If you think that there will be no future due to fundamentally or chemistry not coincide, than that's ok to maintain friendship. We need friends, in good and bad time. He may know you better than your other friends because of past relationship. So when you need a shoulder to hang on, you can rely on him. Sometimes, we can have a friendship but can't be a couple. Whether your Ex is gear toward on friendship or lover, is totally depends on you. Then you can go on with whatever decision you made. Good luck!

Hi Bluebell18! You mentioned "my current boyfriend", so it means that you're not yet married. And you also mentioned that you're still thinking of him. Hmmm....your question can be answered by you and you only...but before making such a big decision, you should think a million times...weigh your feelings...compare their good traits as well as their bad traits...think hard which of them can really make you happy...or are you happy now with your current boyfriend? These are only a few questions that you should ask yourself. And always remember that this is your life...your feelings that will be at stake. Good luck...

There were several reasons and shared interests that brought you together once. After you split, those same interests don't dissapear. That's why I always remained good friends with my ex's. Yeah, that's right, I have several. I can't see why it should be wrong. Because more narrow minded people say it is?? Let them live their lives and I live mine.