I respect and appreciate my MAN.
By iMamom
@iMamom (321)
Philippines
November 14, 2012 11:27am CST
My fiance is at his prime 40's and me on my prime 20's.
How do we keep our love with each other?
I know its hard to maintain a relationship especially when you are both a million miles apart. Our relationship is not perfect one, we had storms, ups and downs all through out.
I almost gave him up when he betrayed me and gave in to temptation. However my heart is soft and never had any chance that I disrespect him for what he have done. I did cry many times and but i dont beg for him to stay. I told him many times " If you feel like leaving me for some one else I will let you go". I love him with all my heart and I only wish him happiness and not loneliness.
I never broke up with him,never did he, though our relationship is very uncertain during those times. I remain strong and firm, I am not shuddered instead I continue to love him even we only talk when I need to let him know and when he send money for his daughter. I never stop working, I always believe that I can afford to raise my child.
I never nag, instead i wrote a long letter to let him know of how I feel but very few times I mention about how much I love him. I never swear even I hate him.
I do respect him on what ever decisions he wants in his life.One time he said he wants me to find someone else. I did ask why, he said he wants me to be happy. I just said FINE... and never mention again anything about it. I am feeling so exhausted and tired. My heart is too numb to cry anymore.
Then there was a chance to see each other again after 2 and half years. I came to visit his family and friends and show them our daughter. He wants me to stay with him and their he showed how much he loves me, I am still me, calm and willing to let go. My man end up begging for me not to live him. Now after all the patients and understanding I am happier than ever.
I hope my story inspires you all, especially the women.
CHeers....
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9 responses
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
By reading your post, I guess I need to change myself a bit. LOL. I will never nag at my man again. I'll just respect his decisions, too. I usually contradict his decisions especially when I think mine are better. I guess, I'd let him decide because he's the head of the family. I also would not swear or curse anymore. I need to zip my mouth not to utter bad things. LOL. I salute you. I hope you'll be happy for the rest of your life. Stay strong. Your daughter needs you. Thanks for sharing.
@angelkarah050182 (4980)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
@iMamom Oh, yeah. I am thanking him everytime he does something for me. I thank him for being my husband and the father of our son. I told him that I won't trade him for anyone in this world. He's the best for me.
@rog0322 I agree with you. We usually do our best to settle our arguments. I hope he will do what's best for us.
Thanks for the comments. Happy mylotting to you both.
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Nov 12
Acceptance of one's shortcomings and making ways to amend them is one sure way to a long lasting relationship. Most of the time, an argument starts when the two parties think they are the right one. Left unresolved, it leads to differences in opinion and ultimately, to the turning away of the vows that they believed they could keep for better or for worse.
But enough sermon, I am happy to see persons like you in this "modern" world. Keep it up ladies.
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@Undyingpain (16)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
you are a very loving compassionate woman with such a big heart! he is so lucky to have you in his life :) same as you i do love my fiance very much too... our relationship is almost perfect i must say (if that word exist!)... i couldn't ask for more...he is the greatest gift from up above. your story is quite inspiring despite of all those things happened you remained strong...bravo!
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
14 Nov 12
What a wonderful love story and a strong person you are. I admire your courage, loyalty, and love. Truly, this guy you chose is a very lucky guy, and must realize this. I hope that you both continue to love each other more each day and make and share good memories together. My best wishes for you and your family!
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
14 Nov 12
wow that is good because you certainly need to respect and care for him a lot to share nice rapport always
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
14 Nov 12
And thats the way it should be... I bet he respects you as well. That will make a great, growing relationship. Im happy for you.
@holyangels (121)
• United States
14 Nov 12
I never NAG to my husband not till we are married ;|. Its TRUE but that's a different story he he he. Anyways, I wish you both luck and happiness in your relationship.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
15 Nov 12
This is really very nice thing on your part which even I do my friend. By doing so we increase the confidence and faith in each other which automatically helps us to have and lead a happy relationship.
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
15 Nov 12
Thanks for sharing us your story, that is indeed inspiring. I admire your maturity and patience to overcome all the troubles you had being with your man. You must really love him to accept everything that happened and of course, to forgive and forget. Not all women can do that. I am happy that after all the hardships you have faced in the past, your relationship with your man is alright now. I hope that it will last forever.
