How to keep friends?

China
November 22, 2012 6:16am CST
I'm a student from HuZhou Senior High School. I have a problem. I am not good at keeping friends. I can make friends quickly but I will also lose them in a short time. I really want to have a longer friendship but I don't know how. I would be grateful if you could give me some advice.
5 responses
@alberello (4755)
• Italy
22 Nov 12
Well, even when I went to school, I was not able to maintain a friendly relationship with my classmates. It will also be the fact that I had some strange behavior and I was so easily dismissed. However, the best friends, in my opinion, are not in school. This is because at school there you go with the educational purposes, or to get a diploma or degree, the rest is all secondary. How to make friends? Well today we have digital technology (eg Facebook), or maybe I know..., attend a club, an interest that you have in common with other people. In all modes there is always a way to get and maintain good friendships.
22 Nov 12
depending on what kind of a friend that you want. Friends that make bad influence on your life, friends that sometimes interest your company or they are your friends because you have a same interest in sports or any issues in life. You must first ask your self what kind of a friend that you really want to be with. Second is to find out if you have the same interest e.g. music, sports, shopping. Third of course you must be a reliable friend. Almost all person seeks trust to a person (a friend) that is reliable no matter what the circumstance is. Do all these things and don't lose hope on finding a good friend.
• Romania
22 Nov 12
I think it's about human being and this thing will comes with age. I was like you in the highschool and I had a lot of friends. Now, Im in college and I have one friend. Oh, I have a lot of people that I have some fun or chating or something like that but no more else. I can give you an advice. If you ever meet anyone that you trust and you spend good time with him, don't let it go.
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
If you want to keep friends, then you have to invest time and effort on them. Getting long term friends does not come easy. You have to work for it. At the start it will be awkward, but as time goes by, it will get more and more fun to be around them. Then, someday, you'll feel like family. It just takes time and bonding.
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
22 Nov 12
You have to be there for your friends no matter what. Stay in touch with them, Listen to them try not to go on and on about your own problems. Listen to what your friends has to say. Give advice if needed. Spend time together.Stay a true friend. Don't ditch your good friend one day for someone else. Don't talk about your friend with someone else. Be trustworthy and supportive and offer a hand or an ear to your friend when he/she needs it. Show interest in your friend's life by holding into significant details that are meaningful to you and recount those things again. It means you are making a concerted effort to share joyful moments and make meaningful memories with your friends.
@margies (128)
• Indonesia
22 Nov 12
maybe u can try to have some community, find the same hobbies that can make your friendship will be longer, spending time with them, watching films together, hang out together, try to find something that can make you connected with them, etc