Indian Women
By rubyroy
@rubyroy (824)
India
November 22, 2012 9:58pm CST
When she is born,the parents think of her as an additional expense to the family,She is most unwelcome,because the family has to spend money for her dowry and ornaments.The parents sometimes deliberately snuff the female kids life,if she is the second or third in the line of birth.She is given the least amount of food and clothing and care,when compared to her younger or elder brother.She is considered the outcast,the dispensable one that creates misery to the family.After the marriage,if she doesn't bring the expected dowry,she is tortured,mistreated and even burned.She becomes the unofficial servant of her husbands family.Her husband lords over her.Her mother in law abuses her,even her family rejects her saying it is her fate.Then the working middle class women,she is another story to be recounted,although she is as educated as her husband,she has to finish all her housework and children,before she leaves for office,whereas her husband can sit and relax.He gets his clothes and meal ready at his whims and fancies otherwise there will family discord that may reach up to physical and mental abuse.She never gets to handle her salary,or to give opinion about her ideas.Though slavery has been abolished,it exist in the form of wife in the Indian household.Do you agree?
8 responses
@wishjui (271)
• India
23 Nov 12
I just want to add up that it is not about the country or religion but about the culture , education and awareness!
I am an Indian women and can say this very confidently that I have being treated with pride and love in my family,given equal importance in my life.This happened because I have being blessed to take birth in an educated and intelligent family ( here education and intelligence means good human with good culture).
Yes ,this issue is much highlighted in our country (India) and the whole world gets an idea (may be partial) about us.
Dear ruby, I beg apology before saying this that if we our self portray us always in 'Black & white' then the whole world can't see our 'colors'. We should stop pitying us and just ignore the evil doers.
God Bless!
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@prashu228 (37526)
• India
23 Nov 12
I agree too. There is so much good happening here. The way he wrote it makes people around the world think that Women from India are good for nothing and that's not the real truth even.
If that much bad is happening here and we don't have any freedom then what about the freedom fighters during those days especially the women.
I am given much importance in my family .
@Ramsonakiya (5)
• India
23 Nov 12
wow, you really sounded like you have been through hell. who are you, what are you? from your words it seemed that you are full of negative vibes, are you? all what you said was true and may be it's still true. but change is the key of all things. if all you described is true then in India, no women will ever be in any position other than becoming slave to her husband. but it's not like that, there are number of examples showing women coming out slowly slowly from the shades.
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@vamsimajeti (934)
• India
23 Nov 12
rubyroy,
gone are those days which you have given a description of. These days women are having more power than their husbands. They are scolding in laws and having control of their husbands.
@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
23 Nov 12
Sorry I am not Indian but I cannot resist your topic. Inequality also still exists in my culture. I am appalled when a mother tells me good so your daughter can help you with the housework.
I grew up with 2 other sisters. we have no brothers. My father always says he did not care for a son and that is how he and my mom raised us to be 3 confident women.
I cant say the same for my husband's family. I think his is raised traditionally with the girls born to do work for the boys. But I can see that my husband loves his daughters alot and sometimes my son feels that he is loved less.
Slowly my culture changes. People are more aware that Islam (most of my race are muslims) encourages both gender to be educated. An educated dad can bring home more pay and have the educated wife stay home with the children and help them with their schoolwork at anytime.
In Islam a good husband is described as one who helps out with the housework. In fact once I heard that an Islamic male teacher says that a man should do more than the woman because he is built stronger.
I hope your culture will change like mine.
@momof3kids (1894)
• Singapore
25 Nov 12
I read your comment before I wrote so I understand but I think the person who post this is concerned by the ones who are treated unfairly so that is why I said that I wish the situation will change like mine.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
23 Nov 12
Thanks for your concern. But that's not actually happening with everyone here. Only seen in some cases.
As you can understand good and bad happens every where. Unfortunately some people only raise and see what ever bad is happening and ignore the good one.
Don't think that we don't have freedom in our country . we and women here are far more better than many countries.
No offense meant at all. I just want to make it clear to everyone that by seeing the topic people get this wrong feeling about Indian women. It's not like that at all.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
23 Nov 12
hi friend,
I don't agree with you if you say all Indian women are facing the problem. I don't think so, my grand mother even though she belongs to the older generation she never faced any such problems she is the one who decides what is good and bad for the family.
This kind of things what you mentioned exists only in some families. I am so sorry no offence meant.
@asif179 (22)
• Thailand
23 Nov 12
In fact problems are everywhere but if we talk about indian women so it is true that indian women facing much more problems as compare to the world, there is only one main issue that these women don't know about their rights as well as they are not well educated or not well equipped to fight for their rights. if we talk about some of the indian community which is very rich, well educated and have good resources so they are getting their rights properly because they know how to resolve issues and society follow them.
Every women even indian women can get complete rights just by having some knowledge of her rights and encouragement to talk, definitely resources are required but with the passage of time it can be managed.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
23 Nov 12
hi asif.
do you think still women are not aware of their rights? I mean women in the olden days are not educated so they don't know about them ,but now women are well educated i feel.They know about their rights.
@wishjui (271)
• India
23 Nov 12
Prashu & Asif Hello! Yes, there are some rules and rights for all of us but if we discuss this then we have to discuss other topics too like politics, corruption ,superstition,history,mythology...etc.
Women and men both make a great combination ! Both are incomplete without each other,both are equally efficient and important.So if one feels that one of us are deprived then it becomes other's duty to help,( it can be a woman or men). So instead of discussing that,'' what could be done?' , we should discuss 'what has been done till now'!!!
For this particular topic I will suggest( if you all don't mind)that we should quit and start a new topic like 'Progress Of Indian Women' or 'Powerful Indian Women'.
We can set example and highlight our achievements which might not yet been discussed in this platform! We (Indian-women & men) believe in bondage,unity,love & forgiveness.
Do you agree friends?
@5mahi05 (666)
• India
23 Nov 12
hello friend, it is sad that there exists such things in our Indian society and the worst thing is that, these things are accepted to be a very normal thing. No one even want to think that a women is an individual, she has a mind, she has a heart, she wants some freedom to speak, think and live her life her way. She has to always think about what others need and what is good for others rather than what will make her happy and keep her peaceful.
In spite of all these, in between such slavery, she has learnt to smile through her worries and she still takes up this sort of slavery with the at most love and tolerance as much as she can and she gives her best she can to her family and the people around her.
I again would not agree if this is the case with every Indian women, because people are changing a lot now a days and the mentality about the girls that they are only meant for sacrifice is being changing. People has started to change their perception about girls and women and there are a lot of people who do respect women in the society and give her identity that she deserves.
I hope these things change even more faster than the pace that it is changing so that one day we can also say that, Indian women are the most blessed women in this world! Fingers cross.
@cgicale (137)
• Philippines
23 Nov 12
This is really sad to know. I don't know much about Indian culture but I have watched several Indian movies. When I watched 3 idiots, the poorest friend of Aamir Khan belonged to the lower class of society. I was shocked to know that Indian women needs to pay dowry to be able to marry. What if the family can't afford it? So that means she will never marry. OMG, that's not really good. In our country we don't have that, men and women are treated equal.
@prashu228 (37526)
• India
23 Nov 12
Hi,
That's not happening with everyone here i mean in India, only some are like that.when ever people read such things they think that all Indian women are facing such problems but that's not true at all.
My mom didn't give any dowry for her marriage and she never keeps my dad's clothes for wearing and all , i mean it's my dad who selects what he wants to wear. She has every freedom what she want to do and she is given all respect.
I wrote this because all Indian women are not facing the problem.
