sometimes we love people even when they hurt us so many times?

Slovenia
November 27, 2012 7:55pm CST
have you ever wonderred why is it so? Like you're in a fight with your lover, but you can't refrain yourself from texting them the next day and wish asll would be good, even when you werent the one making mistake/hurting another with words etc. I'm in a LDR with a boyfriend and everytime we fight my days feel so down until we make up again, its like i have no joy to live, to do usual chores, I know its not healthy to be so much dependant on love, but what can i do when love plays such mid games with me? how far do you go like this, does it happen to you too? What all have you forgiven already to your love just because love was stronger than anger?
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@Sissi321 (131)
• China
28 Nov 12
everytime my ex-boyfriend hurt me, i will forgive him, once and once again...but he won't cherish my forgiveness, at that second, i realize that he think the frogiveness is he deserve, and he know whatever he do, i will forgive him. i think it is a big mistake, it only lead the one result, he will hurt me once and once again, because he know i will forgive him. Now we don't contact with each other, i live much more happier than before... sometimes give up something is to give us another way to live happier
• Slovenia
28 Nov 12
I'm sorry to hear that. However, when forgiveness is taken for granted then for sure its time to leave. After all, as they say, letting go doesnt mean giving up, it only means you accepted something isnt meant to be, no matter how much it hurts. But I talked about little hurts, like random fightss and you know sometimes you say words that hurt and other person doesn't even realize power of their words and then you're sulky for whole day and contemplate if he/she will contact and then you end up doing it most of the time..its a bit of a weakness too, isnt it?
@valerievy (162)
• Guam
1 Dec 12
I'm sure everyone's had some trouble with love and relationships. I can relate to how you feel. I have a similar feeling of being down when I get into a fight or argument with my fiance. And then when everything is good between us, the other parts of my life also seem like they're going well. Sometimes our arguments can go on for a few days, but we still keep in contact with each other. Even though we may not be getting along, we always let each other know that that doesn't change the fact that we love one another. Arguments are temporary things, and so are the emotions that are a result of them. But the love we have for each other is a forever kind of thing. I believe that love is definitely stronger than other emotion.
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
Yes, I guess if we really love someone there will always be a way to reconcile. It's just normal to have some arguments as long as you know how to handle them. It's good to forgive one another and keep the relationship stronger.
• Qatar
30 Nov 12
Maybe it is being fool for still loving the person who caused you so much pain.I am guilty of this too. But I am trying to let go of that person for I realized that I am the loser at the end.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
30 Nov 12
I have high tolerance over pain. I always hope that the person who has hurt me will make things better. And even if he has hurt me again, I try to forgive (and hopefully forget, too), then give him another chance. What we hate is the mistake that was committed and not hate the person who committed it.
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
30 Nov 12
i don't know. this to me is a normal thing. i am married and have been for nine years now. when we fight now, i am not the same until we make back up. it feels like you lost your best friend.
@doroffee (4230)
• Hungary
28 Nov 12
Love is blind. It can'tz be controlled. You can do something your brain tells you, like that leaving that person, but the feeling wouldn't stop. It's magical and unpredictable.
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Hi apolcayptic, exactly what I felt before. I've been through that twice. And it is true sometimes we become very dependent on love. The effect of fighthing with someone you love whose on a far away place is very difficult. Especially if they will do nothing to talk to us. And most of the time we end up being the one to surrender. Sometimes it is tiring. But it is up to the person whether they will continue to hold on with the hopes that everything will be easy and beautiful when you both are together. LDR is only for those who have brave hearts. Those who can keep trust, patience and determination. And those that can fight against doubt and fear. Having been in two LDRs already, I realized I am not for that kind of relationship. I wish you goodluck and hope that your relationship with him last longer and forever.
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Because relationships are all about compromising and forgiving. Sometimes it hurts but in exchange, our relationship gets stronger. I've been in a lot of relationships before, they all failed because I find it hard to forgive. My present boyfriend and I always fight about almost anything (because i'm so sensitive). But he still stayed for me. We've been together for two years now and I've realized a lot. I changed because I wanna stop hurting him for some stupid and unimportant reasons. I know i've hurt him a lot but his patience made me change my attitude towards things. As a result, we're stronger now. He became my best friend :)
28 Nov 12
I have a very good example for this. I had a friend who I finally just got rid of her out of my life that we use to be very close and hang out almost every day while our boyfriends worked and we took care of our kids. She used me a lot and stole from me and my boyfriend and other people a lot. All of my other friends and my family always told me that she was a selfish person and not a good friend at all. I gave her sooooo many chances to change and start acting like a better friend. She ended up stealing my diamond necklace a few months ago and I found out about it not long ago. I am so angry with her. I had to press charges because I wanted her to learn a lesson. I finally am not her friend anymore. I do believe in forgiving but if you keep on giving a friend a lot of chances and they keep hurting you then you have to realize to let them go.
@512771751 (1096)
• China
28 Nov 12
Hurt comes from love, when my friends tell they argue with lovers, I often tell them such sentences. But it is truely that we still love someone even they hurt us so many times.
@graysky (132)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
yes,i experienced that kind of feeling too.i've been to a long distance relationship before it was fine then until he did something wrong.i broke up with him.but then again he keeps communicating with me and everytime we talked all i do is to tell him how angry i am to him because of the pain he caused me.i wanted to hurt his feelings too but after we talked i can feel that i am hurting myself more.i know the love is still there and sometimes it hurts me more that i cant give trust anymore.
@cearn25 (3460)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I feel that always. It's good to love someone but that someone always hurt us. I don't know why we still love them . I just don't wabt to ve affected very much to lessen the pain. I open up to them so that they will be aware.