can you add , please , to your command

@SIMPLYD (86530)
Philippines
November 28, 2012 3:12am CST
I am one who can be easily asked to do something for them, like put a paper in the printer near her. But it has to be in a manner where you have to at least say please and in a nice way. Even hearing an employee ask for a favor from another employee without saying please really irks me. My boss whenever she commands me always says please. That’s why I love her! Your opinion please friends?
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16 responses
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Yes me too... I feel like saying... "what? are you the boss now? am i your slave?" Even when the person has no intention of making you feel like a slave, sometimes it makes us think that it's a little rude for them not to at least say please... cos like you, I am a person who would do something when asked for a favor.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Saying please or even pwede before a favor, cannot make you say No to a favor. One more thing i hate , is the one asking the favor has her hands on her hips! Nakapamewang!
@enelym001 (8333)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Uhmm yeah or some would asked in a loud tone. which makes you really feel like they're being very bossy.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
Oh , even if one would say please but his/her voice is booming, i won't give him/her the favor he/she is asking.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I also find it impolite to hear a command without saying please... I can even praise my 2-year old son more than the adults because my baby knows how to add please when he wants something (and it's cute to hear it) And I get more annoyed that the one asking gets angry if they do not get what they want. In my personal opinion, it really should start within the family that parents should teach their children to say please and thank you as well. Because if these are not practiced at home, they will not learn to use them and practice them outside.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
You are a good mother my friend. Worthy to be emulated by others. Indeed, children's good manners starts at home. And it is polished at school and by constant use. It's so nice to hear children who know how to use please as well as thank you. It's music to our ears actually.
@aejey322 (1006)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Thank you. But I think we should praise my mother too Yes it's really nice to hear children say those words. It reflects how they are being brought up - and yes not only within the family, but in school and surrounding as well.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Thank you is such a two simple words but it says a lot. This is the thing i am so particular with. One must be grateful always even for little things. If a person say thank you , i presumed then that this person lived a life full of values. It reflects the whole personality of a person.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
So what about saying please? It seems you are a bit far from the topic, my friend.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Haha oh my , as i am reading so many things , i thought you , you are talking here about saying thank you , oh sorry but same right ? Thank you and please are magic word. It tells us the kind of person you are facing. It tells us the value that the person holds. Simple words but means a lot !
@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
3 Dec 12
I dislike commanding voice, even if it is my hubby; while i was working as a lecturer in 1968 my principal once talked as if he was commanding me, i told him on his face, Sir please talk in a decent manner..this i told in front of others there, he felt ashamed
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
Indeed it is annoying if we are commanded in a loud voice. Our tendency is to get annoyed and would speak out our annoyance. Didn't he take it against you after that?
• India
2 Dec 12
There is no harm in adding please, it might be courtesy, but it makes one feel good, my juniors and even some seniors always address me as Sir, thanks for sharing
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
3 Dec 12
Yes, professor, there is really no harm in saying please actually. But to arrogant people, it seems that they will be demeaned saying that.
@AmbiePam (50434)
• United States
29 Nov 12
I totally agree! It was ingrained in me as a child to always say please, thank you, or your welcome. But when asked to do something thank you or please can be so easily added that it makes no sense not to just add it. People will respond so much better if you add those words after your request.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
But though, they still have to say them in a nice way.
@bjc66bjc (6745)
• United States
29 Nov 12
Hi SIMPLYD, I totally agree with you...from the time I was able to understand and take lessons from my Mother and other adults, I have been taught to say Please and Thank You.. and if you forget that magic word, I really will remind you Its just a great part if mannerism... Thank God my 13 year old grandson gets so many people telling him how mannerable he is because he ALWAYS says "yes please and no thank you and Thank You"...I am really proud of him....
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Me too just like you, learned how to say please and thank you from my parents. I think it should always be the case, because parents are the ones who should be the first teachers of our children. Your grandson must be so proud of you too, for raising him up well.
@STOUTjodee (3486)
• United States
28 Nov 12
If you don't say "please" before you want me to do something, I'm probably not going to do it. When not saying "please", it sounds like you're demanding me to do somthing and I don't like to be demanded of doing anything. I even taught my grandson the magic word "please" if he wanted me to do anything for him.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Yes, please is indeed a magic word. Some people just don't know how to say them. It's good that we teach our children at an early age in saying this magic word. But they should constantly monitored about it, so even when they are grown up , they will still use the magic word.
@robspeakman (1705)
28 Nov 12
Please and Thank You should always be used when making a request. One thing that I find unforgivable online is the lack of the P&Qs used. We get asked things without a PLEASE and are seldom THANKED - Pure ignorance Thank you for this post
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Yes, my friend please and thank you goes hand in hand always. But it seems these words are difficult to say.
@airasheila (5458)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
A pleasant day to you, I can't explain why other people do not use the word "please" whenever they asked for a favor. Hence this should must be said automatically whenever a favor is being asked. I guess, some people should be given a tutorial on how to use it. As they usually forget. Same as you are, I am also annoyed whenever somebody told me to do something without using that word.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
Yeah you are right, aira. Maybe their parents didn't train them to say please all their childhood life. But isn't it being taught in school? I feel annoyed and a bit hurt that i should be commanded without saying please. I think this is what others feel because some even quarrel about being arrogant since they don't know how to say please.
@Raine38 (9193)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Saying "please" is something that is taught at an early age. I remember back when we were still little our parents will always make us repeat our statements properly with "please" or "may I". Otherwise, we will be ignored. I also know that in school, we have GMRC and we were also being marked for good conducts and the like. In all those years of being in school, being polite must be instilled to us all those years. When one still fail to be courteous enough to use "please", that must mean that that person is hopelessly rude.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Some people intentionally do not say please, so as to feel superior with the other person. But when they do that, there is a great chance that what they are asking will not be granted. That's true, at an early age our parents teaches us already how to say please. And just like what you said, we say the word please, whenever the child forgets to say it.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
28 Nov 12
Please is a good word and anyone can ready if we are saying as request manner if we needs others help and using like command words then I think nobody will ready for it. I like to say please and sorry many times if I needs others help or some wrong happened due to me.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Yes, to say please is to respect the feeling of the person being commanded. It softens the command to the person.
@ardoy0731 (6865)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Yeah it is really important to say please. I am always like that with other people. I guess part of the culture or teachings that my parents thought to me. Saying please especially when asking favor to someone is really important.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
My husband taught me how to ask a favor, ardoy. To say pwede before the command in a nice voice. That can be used in lieu of please. Pwede bang makiprint? That's nicer!
@beamer88 (4267)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I'm also bothered when someone asks me to do something without even saying please. I feel it's impolite of them to do so especially if these are requests which I'm not obligated to do. I do however don't mind if it's work-related like a set of instructions given by someone in a higher position than that of mine. Getting bothered with such might affect the quality of work I do.
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
It isn't really a bother if it is your boss who is giving the instruction without please. But for others of same job levels, i feel annoyed too.
@Jenith (1382)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
I'm so silly with this, when someone ask me a favor without saying the magic word "please" then you are sorry coz no matter how loud you are, I can't hear you!
@SIMPLYD (86530)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
Correct! There's no cause to carry out the favor they are asking us actually.
@STOUTjodee (3486)
• United States
28 Nov 12
If you don't say "please" before you want me to do something, I'm probably not going to do it. When not saying "please", it sounds like you're demanding me to do something and I don't like to be demanded of doing anything. I even taught my grandson the magic word "please" if he wanted me to do anything for him.