A Jealous BFF

Philippines
November 28, 2012 8:19am CST
I have different groups of close friends,like friends from grade school, high school, college, co-workers, etc. I hang out with them on separate occasions. But I have a best friend who is very much different compared to others. She is very jealous. We all have FACEBOOK accounts and whenever she saw that I uploaded photos of bonding with my other friends, she gets jealous although she usually denies it. Even if i already explained to her that it was unplanned and that I also need to bond with my other friends not only to her, she ignored me. I also told her that even if I invited her to come, she won't make it because she's already married and have 3 kids to take care of, besides she's also working in the city. She ignored everything that I said. Then I just learned that she blocked me in her FACEBOOK account, her husband's and kids' account too which she all knew their passwords. I didn't see the point of doing that since I did nothing wrong. She was just acting like a little kid. She has a little understanding or a narrow-minded person. Another problem is that her husband is a very good friend of mine since childhood. The husband became my close friend first before the wife. The wife who is my BFF at the same time, is a very brave woman. She has bad issues in dealing with many people including her in-laws. It was like they are mortal enemies. There had been a lot of times that she faced legal complaints about her doing public scandals. I've decided to stay away from her, since she didn't gave importance on our friendship. We've been best friends for more than 10 years and just because of her misinterpretation of FACEBOOK photos, she easily denied our friendship. I forgive her, but I'd rather stay with my other close friends than to be with her. What do u think I should do? Do i still need to hang out with her? My other concern is that I don't want this to affect my friendship with the husband. He was really nice and I don't want to be the reason for them to argue.
4 responses
• Burlington, New Jersey
13 Jan 16
That sounds almost like Frenemies Love. Ask yourself if the relationship is worth saving...
@nani4ajay (108)
• India
30 Nov 12
Hello I say it's better to stay away from her, because narrow minded people can cause anything to you, they even lose a relationship to win their argument. So it's better to stay out of her. I think she don't respect your interests. So better stay away.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
28 Nov 12
It sounds like she does have problems and although it's sad that such a long time of friendship could actually end abruptly because of something so petty, I guess it's heading that way nonetheless. I'm not advising you to just end it, it's just how I see it going, but I could be wrong. It's still up to you though. A for your friendship with her husband, well, I guess that when you decide to stay away from her, you have to stay away from him as well or it could cause troubles and misunderstandings. You yourself have already said and know how she reacts to certain things, and when she no longer sees you as a friend but rather as a threat, she would definitely treat you as one.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
28 Nov 12
Some people are just not a 100% good friend material... she sounds like an energy vampire, really demanding and really clingy. You should sort it out again. But I think, if she wants to block you from her (well, virtual) life, and act that childishly just because of you meeting other friends, she's just not worth being friends with... that's my 2 cents.