old people married
By ungu89
@ungu89 (1999)
Malaysia
December 1, 2012 12:59am CST
it just come out about this after i read discussion post about arrange marriage or love marriage??
they asking what your opinion on it.
its make me realize one think.
how can some arrange marriage were last longer, even there is still some is not longer for long enough.
i'm not the one experience it, but i have see it .
some of my family more to arrange marriage, especially from my mother's side.
i have 2 cousin that already get married, there were arrange by my aunt. my aunt had a friend and her friend introduce my aunt to her cousin. it just so many friend that i cannot remember at all. haha..
my cousin know happy i think, there were both already have 4 children within 7 years being married.
even my grandparent also arrange by my grand grandparent. but my grandparent already pass away few month ago, i dont think to ask her before this.
how magic i think there were still be each other until the end.
compare to younger today, sometime it easy for them, just get divorce if there is no understand between each other.
so,what do u think? how they took care of their married, even they were not know each other before that,
6 responses
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
1 Dec 12
Love grows. If both had accepted that they can not go away with the arranged marriage, accept each other wholly, I think love between them will grow and the "courtship and engagement" will just happen after the marriage. but if an arranged marriage, even one repulse to it, nothing "growth and development" of love will happen because whatever one does, (good or bad) still taken as bad actions because of the "hate feelings". Do you know the dance Tango? It takes two to tango and no one dances tango alone. It should always be danced by two people
@Mavic123456 (21898)
• Thailand
2 Dec 12
yes, and it can be learned .. as long as you have an open mind
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 12
Well, they already have years of experience from each other pass marriage and i think they are good enough to take care of their marriage. My grandfather just get married and he is happy, that's all i care. :D
@superbadx (484)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 12
He is about 80 now, but still can live on his own with no problem, looks young too. His wife is way younger about 35-45.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
1 Dec 12
Since I am sure where you are does not believe in divorce at all, what choice do they have but to make it work?? I do not think arranged marriages are good or right. I think the person should choose who to be with and should love the person before marrying them.
They probably just deal with each other because they feel stuck in the situation...
@subhojit10 (7375)
• India
1 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i can understand your point and i think the institution of marriage was very much revered and respected those days be it an arranged marriage or love marriage. Before couples used to find love for each other but the scenario is completely different now. I find no love among the present day couples as they hardly make any efforts to keep alive the spirit of their relationship, they only look out for the selfish and materialistic needs and if they are not fulfilled their only solution would be divorce.
What say?
@hlfbldmom (743)
• Philippines
1 Dec 12
During those times of our grandma's The value Marriage so much it is sacred for them even if it is arranged. My grandma got arranged married also and she told us that she didn't really love my grandpa when they get married. But grandpa loves her so much. Grandpa did everything for her even grandma is so harsh to him. As times goes by they got kids grandma learned to love grandpa. There are still some women in this generation who believes that marriage is sacred and they will follow the vows. They learned to love each other when they are together for a long time.
