I love him truly deeply

Philippines
December 4, 2012 9:49am CST
Hi Guys, please help me what to do. My boyfriend for 4 years is starting to hate me. It is all my fault because every time we fight or we have some arguments, i always hurt his feelings and putting him down by the rude and mean words that i keep on saying to him. I shouted him when we fight, I called him "idiot, stupid, no direction in life, and almost all the mean words were already said to him. I cannot control myself sometimes when i am really angry but now, I felt guilty and i don't even know what to do. He told me that he is really hurt and sometimes he cried every time he remembered all those mean words i am saying to him but i love him so much and i dont really mean every thing ive said. please advice me what to do how can i prove to him that i love him and i dont mean every thing that i am saying and i will do all my best not to say those things again to him. please. thanks!
5 responses
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
If you grew up with that kind of behavior, I think it will be hard for you change but of course, if a person is in love- everything is possible. For now, you should ask for his forgiveness sincerely and try your best effort not to repeat those hurtful words again. If you feel like you're gonna explode, just walk away and have some time before you are able to say something again that you will just going to regret. Have some time to think again and the effects of what you will say or decisions before saying or carrying them out. They say men value respect more than love so if they don't see that their woman has no respect for them, then I think it will be very hard for them to stay in that relationship. Well, I think that even a woman will not last that kind of relationship right? Who among us would want to be called idiot, stupid or the likes? I hope you'll learn to control your emotions so that your relationship with him will be survived.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
8 Dec 12
Hi! I really get on how angry of a person you must be and that's normal, some are more than others but try to not think like you can't control yourself cause you can. Only by being aware of how rude you are is the first step you already took now you must change, when that explosion is coming try to control your self, you wont change overnight but you will if you put your effort into it.Happy Mylotting.
• Philippines
4 Dec 12
I guess you have to talk to him. You should tell him that when you're angry, you tell him bad things but you don't mean saying them. They were the results of your outbursts. Apologize to him and ask for his forgiveness. You should tell him that you would do your best to change, you won't tell bad things anymore and that you've learned your lesson. Tell him that you can't afford to lose him. Show how sorry you are. I hope it's not too late yet. You should not say mean things because that hurts him a lot. :(
@spicymary (558)
• Romania
7 Dec 12
You don't have any guarantee that you will not do the same at the next fight. So saying sorry it's not enough. You have to try to convince him that this is in your personality. But he can still feel hurted, even if he understands. You can achieve a compromise, but only by talking about this, without hiding anything and without trying to make the problem seem smaller than it is.
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
I can totally relate with you girlthing! My boyfriend and I were 2 years and 6 months in a relationship. When we were arguing, i also told him that thing. And now, we are not talking to each other. I miss him so much. I love very much. If he only know. Every night I cry a lot and wishing that he would come to our house. As an advice, you need to say sorry for what you've done and try to lessen being rude to him. I am planning to do that also, later he will come to our house. I hope, this day will not end that we will be together again :) Goodluck girl!!!