My best friend's mom... hoards

@dee777 (1418)
South Africa
December 5, 2012 4:05am CST
My friend's mom prepare nice food, but is always looking for new recipes. This had gotten out of hand the past ten years. She goes to libraries to buy old magazines, tears the recipe pages out stick it in a file (there are so many of them) then she would stack the magazines next to her bedside.Everywhere in the house are little mountains of magazines... for 'just in case I need to look for something'. The house are dusty, because of all the magazines, and files with recipes. There's little space on the couch, or at the dining-room table...My friend feels embarrassed. How can we get her mom to stop??
6 responses
@Mavic123456 (15212)
• Thailand
5 Dec 12
I would like to think her mom is just disorganized instead of being a Pack Rat Disorder or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. But the all other symptoms are leading to that. I mean no offense here, please, just to give a clearer view of what is this all about. Pack Rat is a continuous acquisition of same items, thus, not disposing those items if not going to use anymore. Hard to let go of the items. they have a thought of "I might use this someday." Although there is no thorough study on Pack Rat Disorder yet, it is commonly associated with OCD, because of Obsession in nature. http://www.ehow.com/about_5376998_pack-rat-disorder.html Pack Rat Disorder By Ily Goyanes, eHow Contributor Well I just hope that this will be put in attention before it leads to a more serious hoarding problem. thanks .
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Dec 12
Wow Mavic123456. Thanx so much for this info. This woman should get serious counselling.
@Mavic123456 (15212)
• Thailand
7 Dec 12
I hope she will be seen immediately. Have you read the link? then it is good if you do. yes, quite dangerous.
@Mavic123456 (15212)
• Thailand
27 Dec 12
miss dee thanks for the BR hey how's you friend's mom? Has she seen a doc already?
@francesca5 (1344)
7 Dec 12
it sounds a bit like a sort of perfectionism, and she is trying to have such a large collection of recipes because she thinks without them she can never be good enough at cooking. she probably does need some professional help as just telling her how good a cook she is probably wouldn't work as everyone has probably been doing it anyway, so the problem probably lies in some deepseated insecurity. maybe she feels that being a good cook makes her a valuable person, or something.
7 Dec 12
i just thought after i posted that comment, maybe they should try complimenting her on other things, so that being good at cooking becomes less important.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Dec 12
What you say makes so much sense - thank you francesca5
7 Dec 12
i recognise myself a bit when you describe your best friends mom as i tend to collect too much information on something, but i have this feeling that unless i know loads and loads about it i will never be any good at it, and then i sort of collapse with exhaustion, as i can't handle all the information i have got together. i've got a bit better now, and it doesn't mean her situation is exactly the same as mine, i just think there must be some insecurity underneath it.
• India
7 Dec 12
Hi friend, sad to hear about this, so your friend's mother is very much addicted with her activity and don't have the ability to stop her new recipes, as you mentioned she collected a lot of magazines and it takes a lot of space from the home. Your friend must talk with her regarding this issue and made her to realize her fault, it will help to stop her activities
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
13 Dec 12
Thanx. Yeah, this will have to be sorted out very soon. It's so unhealthy and affecting everyone she's in contact with.
• United States
5 Dec 12
Well in my opinion your friends mom will need professional help. She is only going to accept this help when she is ready to. You cant force someone to quit something they are addicted to until they are ready much like smoking. My advice is to give her comforting words and encourage her to seek help.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Dec 12
Yes, I agree with you. She needs professional help asap!
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
5 Dec 12
I think she better ask her mom to apply as a Chef in a restaurant and that she can apply what her talent and skills in cooking.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
13 Dec 12
You know, I do not think her problem is the cooking itself.... It's the collecting of the stuff that's driving everyone nuts.
@pomwango (1355)
• Kenya
5 Dec 12
this sounds funny but i think your friends mum is having an addiction or else this habit is as a result of some issue she is going through.does her family appreciate her cooking,do they praise her meals?maybe she needs to go into catering so that she exhausts this crave,can they get her to open up a small cafe or do home cooking for peoples functions it will probably get her busy and she stops running around buying recipes.or teach her how to download recipes on the internet so that she doesnt have to keep papers all over the house.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
7 Dec 12
Thanx pomwango. This is a weird addiction and drives everyone nuts!!! You gave good advise!