before he addressed me as lady , angel but now he just addressed me as 'you "

@Angelpink (4022)
Philippines
December 11, 2012 11:33pm CST
Before , my special one used to address me lady , queen or Angel but recently have observed he no longer address as such . He address me now as 'you ' ! Does it make a difference ? Yes, for me there is but a big difference. What do you think does this gesture imply ? Is he cold already or don't like to be more attach or just too busy thinking of his work or what ? Friends are you like me being so particular about this thing ? Do you have some experience like this thing ? Share it please so i would be enlightened also. Have a blessed day everyone !
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@Lovegreen (376)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
For me there's a big difference of course, it does mean something. My husband and I call each other "love", but when we have a fight or a misunderstaning we call each other by our names. It really hurts me when that happens because I'm not used to being called by my first name when it's from him. I'm used to that endearment name so when he doesn't use it I know there's a problem. He feels the same way too.
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@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Haha ! What you are saying are the things i have seen with my friends or relatives . That when they fight with each other , real full name were used but when they are so sweet , you will hear a very lovely words. You are right , might be there is something behind which he isn't telling me. I wish to ask him , but i guess he won't also tell me because if am not mistaken his favorite answer would be -simply ! I wish to ask but never mind ,it will be just the root of a fight. I guess i will also call address him as 'you' so we'll be equal , hope in this way he will realize also.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
If I were in you place, I would wonder too. We can't tell what's really happening with your special one because we have not met him and we don't know how he is acting lately. If you notice through his actions that he is colder, more distant and grumpy, find out what is causing them. Find time to talk to him at a time in which he is not stressed or when he is in a better mood. Ask him about this question. Only he can give you the answer.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Yes that is true , i need to ask him else , i would be kept on asking myself so many questions ,which i can hardly explain also or i would be thinking things which i want to hear and know only. It is wise to ask him one and for all , i need to recheck it with my intuition.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
7 Jan 13
Be open and straight asked your partner about his behavior and I am sure you will get the answer or reason as such . I am sure you will get the answer from him. All the best
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Sriroshan , recently i have asked him and he said , there was no changes in his part , its still same as before and it was just like that because so busy and many things going on his mind . I hope i am one of those many things. Glad for your shared time here..Have a good evening !
@challs12 (549)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 12
I think his heart has change maybe. I use to call my love one with honey, but when I'm made with her, I will call her 'you' instead of honey. Then when we are ok, then I will call her honey again. This is the way I show my disagreement or frustration with my love one. Usually she will change and try to discuss what my disagreemnet and after that we back to normal situation.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Yes might be he have a change of heart..that is the problem now ? he have change ? so what about me ? Thats very hard on my part , bec it is not like a mistake in writing which i can easily delete , it's a different thing. My heart will again suffer. Wooo God created me so weirdly and uniquely .
@challs12 (549)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 12
Try to find out what make him change about you. In this case, maybe he's not thinking about break but just not that warm as before. This situation still can be improved, never give up. This is just a small matter in one relationship. I believe you not making big mistake right? Or do you think he has something out of your knowledge or poorly because of work load? Do investigation. I don't see your relationship is about to end just from the changes in calling you. So, never think of negative. I always change the way I call my love one almost every month because I'm high temper person, but we didn't break up.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
15 Dec 12
Maybe that is what he is up to also ,work load , many responsibilities home and office. Like you hot tempered also. You give me an idea now , i need to consider this also. Maybe just change in style but not in feelings. I hope so ..anyways time only can tell.
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
12 Dec 12
Hey in this case I can say I am the luckiest lady. This is because when we met frist time he called me by name Roshan and even after getting married to him he is still calling me Roshan. He had never called me darling or madam or by other name. I had seen in some movies that when on bed and when husband and wife are doing Romance, they called each other honey or darling and blah blah blah.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Indeed you're lucky ! You call him some romantic name , might be he will be surprise and will love to hear it But whatever you both used to call then have it , it sounds music to our ears.Right ?
@sriroshan (2586)
• India
7 Jan 13
No I don't like to hear any other pet name as such for me, I like to hear my name only from his mouth. It's makes me like some sort of motivation
@zurichann (235)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
I don't really want to jump into conclusion as I might be wrong. I don't believe I'm an expert though I have several relationships from the past. For me, It will make a difference if your man used to call you with sweet endearment before and changed as time passed. It can be or can be not sign of coldness. He's probably too happy before that he uses these gestures. Whenever me and my partner were having an argument we still call each other the same endearment that we're using . But if I got really really mad that's the time I will just call him by his name.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
16 Dec 12
The other side of me said the things you told me. It is but so painful to hear but there might be some truth on it ! Good that i 've been hearing this at least i can tell myself that what i might be my feeing is true or my intuition is right .
• Greece
14 Dec 12
I would not worry about it too much. Some people are always saying 'I love you' but they have an affair behind their partners back. Personally i would rather have a man who only said this on special occasions and meant it, than a man who said it often and did not. The same could be applied to this situation where he calls you by your name. It does not mean that the relationship is cooling off and you would be happier if you did not judge him so much by his words, check out other ways in which he shows that he loves you. There is a book called 'The 5 languages of love' which points out that we have different ways of expressing our love. His language might be changing but only you can discern if his heart is still the same.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
14 Dec 12
Yes each man expresses in different ways. Might be i am just too paranoid of small things that i am giving some meaning. He might have reasons which only he can understand so prefer not to share to me.
@Shavkat (64964)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
That's really unexpected in your part. Is he having problem lately? Some people believed that if a partner addressed their partner with the usual endearing names. There is something wrong, you might as well ask him about it.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
That is what i suspect friend. Hope sometime if i can no longer manage i will ask him.
• United States
12 Dec 12
Are you two still together? Have you broken up? Why does he address you as "you"? Why doesn't he call you the names that you want to be called? Is there trouble in the relationship? You should talk to him. Ask him what is going on? If he starts calling you these names, and then refers to you as "you", then there is something wrong there. I would want to know what happened. You didn't do anything to him, did you? I could understand if you did something to him, but if that is not the case, and I am not implying that it is, then he would have no reason to be cold towards you. Talking to him might help because you need to know what is going on.
@Angelpink (4022)
• Philippines
12 Dec 12
Together and this is the thing i have observed from him. Yes there might be something which he plans to do or he just don't want me to be very attached to him. I didn't do something something big that could turn him down just those petty fights we always have. Yes sometime i need to talk to him about this matter . I just need right timings.