December 12, 2012 5:10pm CST
The first time I was homeless I stayed with her. I did the cooking at first, then stopped because my brother's ex wife is so unappreciative of everything nice that one can do for her! Things got much worse than where I had lived before that. I ran the dish washer, made their beds and did their laundry. Things got very bad. I thought I walked out of one nightmare into another. She was very controlling. One time, I cam back to Chicago to visit my fiancee, I reapplied for a job. When I got back, I told her. She did a complete 180 in terms of her attitude. My niece and nephew was in the car. She was yelling at me, cursing, saying the only reason I did that was to be close to my fiancee. I did that because I wanted to work. She told me that I could only look for jobs close to where they lived. Everything got even worse. She started saying I never did anything at all! The day I left she said to me that since I never did anything while I was there, with my brother coming home from another stint at rehab, I had only 2 days to show I do things, that I do not sleep during the day. Or I would have to leave when they leave. I got my things and left. She is extremely vindictive, a liar and very manipulative. She tried to turn my own mother against me by telling her nothing but lies! My mother finally realized how vindictive and manipulative she is.
13 Dec 12
It's better to live on your own. Maybe she's just saying those words because she doesn't want you to leave since you are a great help for her (doing all the things you have written above) I don't think I can stand another day living with such kind of people.
13 Dec 12
I've already heard of many instances that in-laws truly clash. It's hard to explain why it usually happens. But I guess, part of the reason is because of the different upbringing that they were exposed to and no one wants to humbly adapt to the culture of the other. But still I believe that nothing can not be solved with a heartfelt and sincere communication.
13 Dec 12
We just have to realize that some people are born to be that way. It is something that nobody can do about but themselves. Just ignore those kinds of people who might be turning you down. You'd be happier if you won't let them bother you no matter how much hurtful they say.
• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Dec 12
Wow, it is really hard living with other people especially people like that! I have lived with some pretty bad people too. It is never an easy thing, thats why I try to be as nice as possible to anyone living with us. I never want to make them feel the way I have felt when I lived with others. I am glad your mother saw for herself the way she really is.