What to do if your beloved is ignoring you?

@ivan88 (193)
Canada
December 17, 2012 8:09pm CST
We have been together for almost three years now. We had some really great times together, as many couples did, but we also had a lot of fights. Personality-wise, we're very different - she's got a softer approach, while I am more direct and stern. Based on that, we quarreled multiple times. It's been REALLY bad lately. She wanted to get out of the relationship and even tried to demonstrate it in front of me by deleting me from her facebook status. I told her: "I won't let her control myself like that." Hence, I simply went home. Once I arrived at my place, I discovered that she kept the status as it was - in a relationship with me. Thinking she wanted to work things out, I started contacting her, calling her, messaging. She ignored me for one day. Now, as it is the second day, she started responding in a weird way (sending me binary code as a response), but she is still going away from the main topic - she doesn't discuss anything, even though I keep asking to talk seriously about our issues. So, that has been about a couple of days of ignorance. Should I still give her time? When should I get "out of it," in your opinion? Or what else may I do?
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7 responses
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
18 Dec 12
The way your lady is behaving and responding to you seem she has no interest in you or may be she had got some other friend with whom she wants to or may be spending time and started liking that person more then you. Or she may have decided to go away from your life. I suggest you instead of waiting for her better asked about her behavior and also why she is behaving like that? I am sure you will find the answer for her such behavior
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@ivan88 (193)
• Canada
19 Dec 12
I don't think she found someone else. In fact, it's more of those differences that she's bothered by. Both of us decided to get some counseling from a local psychologist. I hope that will help us.
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@bluesea3 (167)
• Indonesia
18 Dec 12
The truly love is containing sincerity. What's yours? If it's only about body, the wealth, hobby, etc, it's not the truly love. Try to define it by listening your heart, then you will find the best way of your relationship.
@jaiho2009 (38994)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
It's just two days, maybe she needs some time. Just keep messaging her and don't be mean. Maybe she wants some space and so as you.
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@gamyam (572)
• Hyderabad, India
18 Dec 12
Don't worry about your relationships to maintain as usual. Just wait for sometime. keep quite for few days. Let her think herself for few days. Lessen your short temper and improve your patience. To develop your previous relations, just keep writing some good things which are most useful to her. You have to give few more days to realize that what she wants to do in future regarding your internal issues. Pray for god to improve your good relations always in your life and family
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
Well well! This could be very much my story from the moment! There's one big difference (although the feelings are the same) I'm a gay man. My BF is very macho and I'm not. Anyway, he had to move cause he got a big piece of farmland from his grandfather. I visited him there and all seemed ok. But being apart he NEVER informed me. Didn't reply on my messages on FB eventho he WAS online. 3 weeks ago he blocked me there. I don't know why. 3 days ago he sent a message on my cp: I hope you will be always here for me. I answered: No, not after what you did. You are not true and never will be because you're afraid to be true and honest with yourself. I've really had it with this guy. Approaching me, then move to the side, then again coming back and on and on it goes. I'd say "Enough is enough!!"
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@Dominique25 (9473)
• United States
28 Dec 12
Well three years is a long time to be with someone. You should try to keep talking with her. If she doesn't respond give her some space and time to think. Perhaps she will come to you to talk when she knows what she really wants to do. I hope that things work out for the two of you.
@jenny1015 (13386)
• Philippines
18 Dec 12
I think that yu ought to give her another week. If things are still the same, then you might as well just keep your peace. I do not think that one should apologize for something that one believes otherwise. You are both different. And you should learn to understand that your differences should bind you together and not to break you apart. And if these indifference is causing your relationship a blow, then you might as well just end it instead of "prolonging the agony". You both deserve to be happy like everyone else.