Still cannot recover from the breakup

It is really hard to forget about our beloved persons after the break up, but we must be practical and try our best to forget about them if we come to know that there is no chance to get them back. No one likes break up and every one is interested in keeping their relationship with their beloved persons forever. But some times we are in need to face the break ups due to various reasons. It will be good if both of us are interested renewing the relationship and there is nothing wrong with it, but if we are not interested in renewing the relationship, then we must forget about our ex completely after the break up and concentrate with other work. Some times we may think about them and get their remembrance while seeing their name in online sites, shopping places, magazines and other resources, it is hard to give up their thoughts while seeing their name. We started to cherish the past and think about the moments which we spent with our ex partner while seeing their name. We have the ability to come out from this kind of thoughts and try our maximum to come out from this memories. There is no use in thinking about the past, it will increase your sorrow and you are wasting your time. We have lot of sources to divert our self and find the proper one which help us to forget about our past life. If you are interested in music then hear a good song to divert your self, if you are good in writing, then write about some thing for your peace of mind. By diverting our self, we will forget about the unwanted memory as well as using our time in a good manner without wasting it. We all know time is precious, so we must use it carefully and avoid unwanted thoughts in our life. We all know time is the great healer and it will heal all the wounds, Some times it takes a long to forget about our past life fully. Try your maximum to forget about the past in day by day and one fine day, you will forget about it fully and ready for a new life. Our thoughts and attitudes are the reason for our activities. Avoid unwanted thoughts and fresh up your attitude to be active.

Do something you love to do... something that makes you happy. You know have an opportunity you didn't have before, to move your life in a new direction. When you feel you are ready to open your heart again,find someone else to be with. Speak to friends.They have all been through the same and will gladly help ease your burden of dealing with a broken heart.

Emotional management is the only challenge that brings out all our guts and strengths. Whether it is a break up or loss of someone in the family or anything else, One should be able to balance his/ her emotions and carry on with life. Depressions and low in spirits are common. Don't get carried away with your feeling of pain. If you feel Memory is poison, it is. If you think it's a bad memory, it's just bad and not painful. Pep up your spirits dear and don't let yourself down. My suggestion is not to start any relationship yet. Enjoy your loneliness and breath the free air that is sweet without him. Remember that loneliness is something that keeps you yourself without shrinking yourself to please someone. Love yourself first, as much as you love yourself, the stronger are you.

Pain from a break up can be huge, especially if you have dedicated years of your life to some you thought was THE ONE. It's individual, but it really takes a long time to overcome someone you have loved so much. Many people give different advices how to move on but it's up to you to decide how. Some people deal with the pain and memories by getting rid of every single photo and phrase that remind them of the good times and this relationship. Others just dive into another relationship and live through it day by day. Some people fill their days with various ways of entertainment that don't let them fall into thoughts about the past. Different people, different ways. I can't give you any advice for starting a new relationship right away, but if it's really and inevittably over, you may try and get rid of everything that reminds you of him. What you can't get rid off, you can try to ignore and really move on. No man deserves your tears, even if he was the knight in white armors.

love takes time to heal and you should not rush your heart into jumping into a relation to get over your ex.Try and move on with your life ,let his memories stop being pain points to you,hard as it is accept its over and start rebuilding your life and with time the pain wont be so bad till you will get over it.

Letting go is different things with forgeting. I think you just try to forget him but don't let him go. If you try to forget him, someday you see something which is remain you about memories with him and it will hurt you over and over again. But if you can let him go... no matter he standing on your front it will not give efect to you. Don't to push your self but also don't close your self. Time will heal everything, just let it flow. Everyone has their own sopeed to recover, just take your time you will be allright.

for me, entering into a new one won't erase the memories you and your ex shared..those memories (happy or sad) are kept forever.. moving on is a choice..if you want to really move on, then you'll do everything just to move on..entertaining new suitors might help also..but never enter into a serious relationship if you're not yet ready nor has fully recovered from the past..it will be unfair to your present.. Just remember that time really heals all wounds..you just need time for yourself to fully recovery..and of course, forgive you past lover even if he/she hasn't asked for it..

hi, Crystalan. It is normal for people to saw their ex's name and have those memories they had back into their mind. Not just you, but him too. But what is the truth is, memory cannot be wash away from your mind. I know it is very frustrated for you to have back those memories when all you had now is alone without him. Just like you say, time is the cure. I would say, time is the best cure for things like this. No matter how long it takes, your heart cannot be fully cure. That is also another truth. But if you learned to let go, you would feel better and appreciate the memories and lessons that you got from him, from the relationship that can make you become a brand new you on changing your mistakes in the past. Yes. Change your mistakes. Take the time to change your mistakes and be a better person in relationship when you are single for now. Take those memories as a lessons and change those you shouldn't do. Maybe it is hard and it takes time, but it is better than doing nothing and make the same mistakes on your next relationship. I would suggest you not to start a new relationship just because of the reason that you wanted to forget about him. It is very unfair to the one who start the new relationship with you. And as well, it is also a lie to yourself that you do not love that guy anymore, but this guy. But if you keep lying to yourself, you will only hurt the new guy, just because eventually, you might find out, you still love your ex instead of him and think about your ex everyday. Even though starting a new relationship will somehow help you to forget about him, but it is not a true feeling to the new guy, so it is not a really good way. It is better for you to keep yourself busy on the things you are interesting in, like your job, your hobbies, your studies and so on which will lead you to a better life. Once you keep yourself busy, you will eventually forget about the past without even trying hard to forget them. Once you are ready and get used to the life without that him, maybe you can start thinking back again would you like to have another new challenge in relationship? Are you afraid on having another broken heart? It all depends on you. But, if you are afraid, then you should be a friend, best friend to the guy you think you like and get to know him better before starting a new relationship. Anyway, good luck! I am sure, after a long time, you will eventually get used to the life without him and feeling relax, and no worries to get close to any guy just because you are scare that he might be jealous. Or even, you can use all your time doing your things, instead of having times spend with him and sort of wasting it instead of doing some other important things. Good luck again!

Are you ready for a new relationship? Or this is just a rebound from the past failed relationship. It may not be able to suffice the loss but add more heart break not just for but for the other person you are going to have. it is your choice. if you are ready and there is go.. if not.. let it pass for awhile and enjoy being single again. Hmmm courtship is great don't you like to feel that again, like having a lot of suitors?

Be in a new relationship when you're READY, NOT when you're LONELY. It's a common reminder to anyone. To be in a new relationship is not a solution to your problem. Take your time to heal. Don't be in a hurry. Don't rush things out. That's why time is the cure because you need to wait for the right time for the recovery period to take effect. Be glad for the good memories you have with each other. And for the pains and the scars? Well, they'll always be there to remind you of something... that when loving, you've given a piece of you're heart to someone which they might not return again.

i suggest for you not to get yourself in any relationship yet unless you already forget everything about him. because if you do so, you might end up being broken again because you will just to look your ex into him. as for now enjoy yourself being single. have fun with your family and friends and make yourself busy.

You still need time to heal... Sorry that you had to go through this trauma. Do not rush into any other relationship just to forget about the other person, but do not shut new friendships out either. New friendships will help with the healing process. I think you should take your time before you get emotionally involved again. Good luck!

What ever may be the reason,however inevitable the end of relationship is breaking up is hard to do. No one like to be dumped,no one likes having to be the one to end it.Dealing with break up is very difficult.Its the time where you should do what you really want.Your friends are valuable resource at that perticular time.Supporting people through difficult times is what friends do so do not hesitate to talk to them in this regard.Do not get depressed and think of a new relationship.

I would not start a relationship until you do not feel pain or heartache when you think of him. I know that this may be a long time, but you are cheating yourself as well as the other person you are with if you still have feelings for someone else. And yes, as much as it may not make sense, being hurt or angered by someone else is still having feelings for them. You cannot let someone hurt you so badly or be angry at someone without caring about them.

No! You are definitely not ready to be in a relationship. You are insulting your new partner by not being fully honest about getting over your ex. So, if his name frustrates you, think of all the things that you have gone through together. If you want him back, try getting him back, if not move on. Find a proper closure. You don't really have to forget him. Because trying to forget him will make you think of him, no? So accept that you and that guy are done and if you can't accept that then you are clearly not over him. Accept the break up, appreciate what you have learned from that failed relationship, look at how this thing can help you become a stronger person. That's how I got over my break up. I realize I don't need him in life and I'm strong enough on my own if he was not such a good guy to begin with. If you are angry at him for some reason, reflect on it and do resolve the problem.

Well firstly I think you should change your mind and move on,saw his name is OK and actually you can take him as your normal friend,then you should get over him and move on,pls always remember,next is best.

sometimes having a relationship to forget someone works.. it did work for me.. but i realize also that before entering in a relationship you must ask yourself if you are ready to be committed again after a hurtful relationship.. don't hurry things.. take time to be sad it is normal.. go on dates and have fun do the things that you cant do when you are still in a relationship... it is true that time heal all wounds... so just be patient for the time that you will no be longer hurt about your past relationship..

you can refocus on things that you always love, or chat with your friends. you can go out for travelling, you must believe that we will meet many wrong person before we meet the right one.

Starting new relationship is not the answer that you can move on. Just enjoy every single moment in your life with your friends and family.. maybe he is not your destiny ..there is someone that deserves your love...