The person who always attacks me is my true friend

@HuaZhao (457)
China
December 18, 2012 6:41pm CST
Hi,mylotters,how are you? One of my friends always attack me and point out the wrong with harsh words.During the time he criticized me, I felt very upset and unhappy. However,afterward,I felt a kind of love from my relatives. I felt warm inside. I think he is my true friend with deeply love for me. Although he never help me directly. Hi,what's your idea about that? Do you have this kind of friends in your life?
13 responses
@Mavic123456 (12395)
• Thailand
19 Dec 12
May be it is not an attack, but a challenge for you to have a second thought on something very crucial. You just misunderstood him that he is attacking you that is if he is your true friend. May be he just plays, your alter ego so you will think the other options. and come up with the best one.
• Malaysia
19 Dec 12
Yeah, totally. Those who always criticize us are true friends. They really care about us. It's not easy to find those friends tho.
• India
19 Dec 12
well I don't think so.A true friend will always stand with you. He will make you aware of good and bad things.A true friend rejoices in your joy and sorrows over your pain.He/she won't defriend you if you disagree.Most importantly friendships are tested when there is disagreement.True friend never let you down.I don't think attacking verbally or physically should be the property of a true friend.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
A real friend does not have to agree with you all the time. He should be someone that can point out your mistakes, too. So, even though he would be saying harsh words to you, his intentions are very pure. Congratulations for finding a true friend!
• St. Peters, Missouri
19 Dec 12
Are you sure it's meant to be an attack? I have a friend like this. He criticizes me. I feel he is attacking me when he does. I've talked to him about it. I've come to realize that he does care for me, but this is just his way. He was genuinely surprised when I told him I feel he is attacking me. In fact, he doesn't even see what he says as criticizing - he sees it just as him stating his opinion. He talks to everyone that he cares about like that. Since talking with him, I've noticed him making a concerted effort to be more tactful when he "suggests". Maybe just try to let your friend know how you feel. If this is a true friend, your friend will listen to you and will respect your feelings.
19 Dec 12
yeah your right even my friend is the best to believe. he can be trusted and he is a goodperson
@jpso138 (7869)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Well I guess your friends just have a different manner of correcting you. Perhaps he does not know that you are hurt by the way he does it considering that you are a friend. Perhaps in a way, he has good intentions. Just open it up to your friend and say what you feel and perhaps adjustment can be done. After all, you said that he is a true friend and with that he can surely understand.
• United States
19 Dec 12
Then this person is not your real friend. A friend should help and support his friend, you doesnt have to be best friend. This person is mostly someone you know, but not friend.
@Shavkat (64964)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
That's not a real friend or he tried to do such if you never tried to confront him about it. He might think it is fine, you should try to talk to him about being hurt. Great day!
@edvc77 (2143)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
They say that an open rebuke is a sign of love. Your friend might be concern of you not to do wrong or something that will get you into trouble. Sometimes we need to reflect when we are corrected. It is good when someone tells us we are wrong at times. Have a nice day!
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
True friends can tell each other evrything, might it not always be nice. But when he becomes harsh or rude I wouldn't call him a friend.
@berting600 (3458)
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Hello HuaZhao!You are right there that your friend always hurts your feelings,because he was your best friend.You are always in company with him before,yet now he always quarrels you because he knows all your secrets,as you also know him from head to foot that you know where are his moles around his body,that he also knows your secret like your scar in your body or you may have body odor.You must take not that both of you would always have a quarrel,because both of you love each other as brothers should be caring each other,so be careful about your friend,spreading bad words against you that only you can stop him by also spreading bad things against him,until both of you realized you care both each other,so then you should have some reconciliation,so that both of you could become friends once again.
• Philippines
19 Dec 12
Well, no.. I don't have friends like that. Wait, let me rephrase that i don't have "true friends" like that. My true friends criticize me in a serious way and not an emotionally driven way wherein you show anger while saying the wrongs in you. They say it softly one by one...What's the use of criticism if it'll just make you sad and not accept it? You have to understand criticism and know how to correct it and that's how my friends deal with my faults. Another thing, how can you say it's your true friend when he/she always attacks you? Maybe you are referring to a bitter friend of yours? Or maybe a jealous friend of yours?? I'm kind of confused.