In this life, Is it really possible to completely forget someone?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
December 24, 2012 7:28pm CST
I think not... I thought i would never ever think of him again, that person who has broken my heart twice over. I thought that if i am able to forgive him, i would be free.. that i would never think of him again, i thought that if i have a new set of friends, new partner (new boyfriend) i would be free of him already... but there are times (unintentional) that i would think of him of him unwillingly and i would be reminded of the times we shared both good times, and more of the bad times that he made me feel... I really hoped with all my heart that i would never think of him again, but here i am... even writing about him. =( I wonder if i have really moved on? I think I have... but maybe i am just trying to remember... memories are memories and it never really goes away... but how do we know for sure if we have moved on completely?
3 people like this
5 responses
@tshihmin2 (186)
• Malaysia
25 Dec 12
Yes, of course. Throughout our life from when we were small until our working life, for sure we will miss out someone. Especially our long time ago of our school classmates in every stages of education, some of them, we will sure to forget. As time goes by, we tend to really less or no keep in touch with them. In the end, we actually lost them. Sometimes in life, we would able to recall someone, but we can't get to reconnect him or her. In other words, we lose contact.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
thank you for your response, yes throughout time, we make friends and best friends, we create different kinds of relationships with different people and hopefully not make so much enemies. ;) ha as we travel our road, some people gets left behind, we go and see others and meet new people.. and as you have said its pretty normal to not stay in touch with people as well. But sometimes the memories we create with them, as we grow together, or separately are very hard to leave behind.
@sjvg1976 (41132)
• Delhi, India
25 Dec 12
Yes Chiyosan its not that easy to forget people who were closed to you once.I know people would say we should forget them who betrayed us but its not easy to do that. People who had been our friend once always remain in our memory however bad they have done for us but still we remember them for the good things they did for us.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
thank you sjvg for your response, i thought that if i had time and if i kept myself busy and and is in a new environment, i would forget him, and all the things he caused me... but no it did not happen =( i am just as heartbroken and i would even cry as i remember those times i feel so much pain. =( maybe its not really that easy to forget someone especially those whom we shared so many things with...
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
25 Dec 12
I dont think so.. But I know many who would like to forget someone. i once wanted to forget my ex husband. But now, he is so good for my son. Im glad I didnt. merry xmas to you there.
@ashishyash (40)
• India
25 Dec 12
Firstly make yourself believe that you have forget him and dont be confused. I dont think but i am sure that one can forget a person in this life as this life is full of incidents and new things always wait for us. Talking about that person does not necessarily mean that you think about him. I think this problem lies with you only because you dont want to believe that you can forget him. I am writing this with that confidence because i also faced this in my life and i successfully get my life back just at previous state or may be better one just because of my will power.. I was that much serious that i could easily die but i just thought about my dear ones and my life. Nothing can be bigger than your own life. If something or someone comes in between your life and your happiness then you must leave that thing.I think it requires the will power. One only remember old days when he's not satisfied with his present life so make your present as much good that you forget your past. If you think you can do something then definitely you"ll...Love those people who love you...Live your life at fullest as you wont get it again...Quit all the people and bad things which can spoil your life like smoking, drinking and cheat people...Grow up and live your life happily. Good luck....
@kitana710 (53)
•
25 Dec 12
I think it's just hard to stop thinking about the people who have had a lot of influence on our lives. I don't think that you necessarily haven't moved on. It's just that you can't really just forget about people you've loved.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
Thank you kitana, i have to admit that there have been a lot of times i do not think of him, and i do not even remember he existed in my life.. but sometimes i am unable to control my mind as sometimes a car, or a song would remind me of him... and what he did, and so on. maybe the good memories weren't enough to cover the wrongs and even if i have said i forgave him, maybe i really didn't that is why i am still feeling this way...?
