Have you ever felt losing control of your emotions?

@chiyosan (29383)
Philippines
December 25, 2012 12:37am CST
I have had this happened to me. when my bf cheated on me and i learned of it. It was almost so real that i can see glasses shattered in front of my face and those glass pieces piercing my heart. Not an exaggeration, pero that's what it really felt. Whenever i would walk my way home, i would just cry remembering how he could have done done to me, then i would even had my eyes filled with tears i am trying to control when i am in the office... it sure was really hard coping, and every time i would start crying, i would just have myself tell "me" i can get over this, i would be able to overcome this and will be smiling soon enough... and laugh at this thing...
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@caopaopao (2429)
• China
25 Dec 12
We human are creatures who have emotions. I can feel what you said, as I will do the same if I were you. It hurts . I always feel losing control of my emotions. When I met some problems which make me sad, I can't help myself and burst into tears at home, my husband always comfort me, then I'll feel better. I find sharing with others really help me to get over. Maybe you can have a try.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
You are blessed to have your husband with you and there to comfort you whenever you feel that you are feeling sad, or that you are unable to control your emotions. i have had such emotions and encounters and all i can do is keep them from people so they woon't know... i hate to let my mom see me cry as i know it is going to hurt her as much as it did hurt me.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
When my ex cheated on me, I lost my emotions too. When I confronted him if he was seeing a girl and he finally gave in, stopped lying and told me the truth. Everything in me changed. I was no longer the nice and quiet girl everyone thought I was. I was shocked myself how I stopped myself from hitting him with something. I cooly asked for his cellphone to hand it to me with a creepy smile and then I threw his phone four storeys down. We ended up in the counselors office afterwards. The whole situation made me the bad guy when in fact... I was the victim. But my ex was a coward he was scared of me. Don't worry though. Time will heal it. That cheater is not worthy of you anyway. Let him go. You'll thank him for making you a stronger person someday.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Hi Aja, thank you so much for sharing this with me and the mylot through the discussion. It is indeed hard, to know the truth. IT got to me too, losing the emotion. I remember this, when i also got to know of the truth about my ex cheating on me... i got his phone (given by the girl as a gift, which he told me was a gift from his sister)i basically had the phone cut in half in front of him - i did not even have him save all the contact numbers. He sure was surprised i too was caable of doing something he never knew of me. And well the best of it all was that I was out of his grasp.. that i ended the relationship. I will never forget what he did... and just as you have shared... i agree with you. When such things happen.. it will change you. that is really true... this changed me too... and it changed my view of the person. I guess this meant i will never be able to look at him the same way again, all good things have been overshadowed by the deceits and lies and cheating.
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Gotcha! though the truth was very painful, it made me stronger when I began to face it and accept what happened. I was grateful I found out sooner what kind of a person he really is. I have always looked at my ex as a flirt and I don't trust he will be faithful to me always... so I came up with many reasons and gathered the courage in order to try and break up with him and see how he acts afterwards. He was a little more distant after our cool off. I wanted him to think that I am still thinking our break up through. I still wanted to be with him but I can't trust him anymore. So that cool off, was indeed, another test my mind set up unconsciously, in order to know the truth. My, my, I am so into testing people, is that bad?
26 Dec 12
I understand what you feel. It is not easy to overcome that experience.I think the best thing to do is to let go of your boy friend. Do not think that you cannot live in this world without him. It's good you know him ahead of time. It is more hurting if he will cheat you when you are already committed to him forever. Say ________________ I will let you go. Go in peace.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi there cometa. i have, its been a year that we have broken up already. i ended the relationship and never looked back, not wanting to go back to that kind of relationship.. i do not want to always watch my back being with him. I just really hope to go in peace, yes be free from all the memories of him, to move forward.
• Marikina, Philippines
26 Dec 12
I have a bad experience too. I didn't feel myself crying. I feel hating myself and I feel hating him. I also felt lose control. I remember myself lose my way of home because I always remember him. When I was at home alone, I always planning to kill him and I almost kill him because of too much hatred, but then, I change my mind. My gosh. Love is really dangerous if giving too much to one you love. I don't want to feel that way again and after that, I don't want to have a boyfriend anymore. I want to focus to God because I'm afraid to become evil and to lose control if I love someone too much.
• Jacksonville, Florida
25 Dec 12
My husband and I have been losing control of our emotions lately due to stress. My husband got hurt last December, was out of work since then. Found a couple on and off jobs but has been out of work again for months now. It is really hard with 3 kids to take care of. We are struggling very badly and we are both stressing. We have been fighting more than usual as well because of it. We don't know how were going to get food in the house or pay the bills... We are worried sick. Everything is bothering us that doesn't usually bother us so much. Our hearts hurt every time we look at our children who we are struggling to provide for right now. It is just a really tough time.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi there lovingmybabies, stress is really something that can help us blow our head over the top. oh when we are stressed, we are always at that point where we might just not be able to control anything at all.. whatever we have in our minds even if it was the past hurts, it just might come out if we are unable to control our emotions.
• India
25 Dec 12
I realize your situation as I also came across similar situation where I completely lost my emotion but fortunately not because of my partner,in fact we are amongst the happiest couple.One day I was traveling by a bus to nearby town to meet one of my friend.I saw an old man nearly the age of my grand father got inside the bus on the stop next to my stop.He was very old and may be suffering from fever as his body was trembling.As there was no seat at all in the bus I offered my seat to him.The ticket collector came and asked him for ticket but unfortunately he dropped his money somewhere and told the same to the ticket collector.Immediately TC dragged his hand and threw him from the moving bus.TC even did not give him time so that he could have arranged money from someone else,even I was ready to pay for him.When I saw such an extreme cruelty I was not able to control my emotion and got involved in a heated fight with the TC.I was not able to understand what I was doing.As I was alone and there were three bus staffs I was very badly beaten up by them.But I never repent what I did that day as I fought for that poor old man.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi there kunu, there are a lot of things we are faced with on our day to day struggle with this life we are given, we have to take heart and have a stronger will to overcome these emotions - whether these were forced to us by our partners, family through arguments, and so on... we have to be able to control our emotions too even more so when faced with strangers... ha. sometimes others are just as unreasonable, there is no point in trying to make them understand...right?
@lifes97 (885)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Dec 12
Yes that is normal to lose control some times, it depends on the situation and the mood you are in, it depends really on the person and his intelligence too
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi there lifes. it really is a case to case basis, same problem but can be reacted to differently by different people.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
25 Dec 12
Sometimes we can't get control about our emotions.But i think time really deals with that.Just try to convince yourself and life is so wonderful,it seems very little thing if we came back to look at the thing.So good luck on you and attitude really important.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
thank you jricky, yes, attitude is the key... time will heal the wounds.. but then sometimes we can never be free from emotions, it is what makes us human afterall... right?