Strangers can have more intimate conversation, while travelling.

India
December 28, 2012 9:32am CST
I was searching for the word "conversation" in the internet and I read in the world's biggest encyclopedia that strangers can have more intimate conversation while traveling, which they don't have in other normal situations. For example people have intimate conversations while traveling through buses, chances are more if one is mental health professional and the other is looking for help in the personal relationships. I also think that it is true from my past experiences. what ideas do you share about this topic?
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• China
29 Dec 12
I think it is correct, we prefer to open our heart to a stranger met in the travelling rather than talking with our friends or families.
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• India
29 Dec 12
It happens, but remember if you someone really loved one, with whom you are totally comfortable then it can be more intimate also.
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
28 Dec 12
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. yes u are absolutely right, while we are traveling, many of us either get bored or find ways of entertaining ourselves. It is at this time that many strangers look out for the co passengers so that they can spend time with them and while interacting, some get personal while some try to maintain distance as strangers. I have always maintained distance for strangers especially while traveling but i love to exchange ideas and thoughts with them during my journey. What say?
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• India
29 Dec 12
You are welcome, it is advised to maintain some distance to strangers and that is natural. It is advised because people have fear of getting their children kidnapped or someone fooled in other ways. But in almost every cases the situation is like this that both people will have some kind of fear but in real no one want to harm no one. This fact becomes more clear when we start talking while sitting on the seats. Once conversation started, both will feel the fear getting away.
@nezavisima (7423)
• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
this is completely true. I say it because to me it happened. when you know someone you can more easily relax and be who you are. as familiar to people because you're worried that you can say that as anything else. and you can not be yourself at any point. so this is very true. on a journey with a stranger you can find new features of character. nice day!
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• India
29 Dec 12
Hi, I agree to all you said, and one more thing that I feel is, mylot is like a bus where everyone of us is travelling. I have seen that I talk to almost everyone that interest me here, and it gives me similar pleasure like a pleasure of traveling. I can talk to anyone here without any hesitation. If you feel same way then please tell. It is not difficult to start the discussions here and I have seen people discussing so many personal things here. When I am here sometime I feel like I am traveling on a slow running bus.
@celticeagle (85268)
• Boise, Idaho
29 Dec 12
I think that we may not have actual intimate conversations with strangers but more indepth ones. Why? Because we meet a cross section of life. Different personalities and different likes and dislikes than we have. I do question the 'intimate' part of it. And conversation is an exchange of ideas.
• India
29 Dec 12
Conversations are more intimate while travelling, and if it is your partner then it will be more intimate then you have felt it before, and chances with the strangers are also there. I think if we have in depth conversations it can result in the intimacy also and it depends upon the kind of topic that you discuss. Now the intimacy comes if you discuss the personal life problems or happiness, so if you have in depth conversation about your personal problems then it is called an intimate discussion. So don't confuse between the in depth conversation and intimacy.
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@celticeagle (85268)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Dec 12
I still think the in depth conversations would be normal. Not sure what you mean by the other.
• India
30 Dec 12
Intimate means when the talk is about your personal life. It is advised to not mix up the personal life with the professional life. This is advised to not to talk about your personal life in the office hours, that is why people put guard on themselves in the office hours and at many places. But while traveling people are more open to one another.
@hereandthere (13715)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
it's the same thing while attending a free seminar or even while waiting in the bank or a government office. though in my case, it's kinda one-sided. i tend to ask questions and encourage them to talk. i always learn something afterwards.
• India
29 Dec 12
Okay, it can be like that, but even for that you need another person. So it is always two of you.
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
of course. what i meant was it's not only during traveling that you can have intimate conversations with strangers. sometimes it's a happy coincidence because you happen to know the solution to their situation or vice versa.
• India
30 Dec 12
Of course it is not only while traveling by bus, otherwise in the times when there was no bus people could never have make personal relationships. But I was talking about traveling only. Thanks for your share.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
6 Feb 13
hi, i will agree with you about this,for me i would rather wanted to have conversation with stranger/s so that i will never feel the boring while on traveling especially when the travel will take 8 to 10 hours and when i am alone in the bus.
• India
8 Feb 13
Hi, I think that is what I also think, if you love to travel to different places then I am sure that you would love to talk about many things while traveling. There are some boring people who love to sleep while traveling, and if someone like them sits next to me, I hate it. I love to discuss something very meaningful when I am traveling.
@JenInTN (27570)
• United States
30 Dec 12
I think that can be very true. People are sometimes more open when they are around others that they think they may never see again.
• India
31 Dec 12
Hi, that can be one of the reasons also. If you know that we are not going then they can have some unexpected talks also.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
29 Dec 12
If you connect with someone while travelling, yes it is very easy to have an intimate conversation with them. I think the reason for this is that we feel that a "stranger" is more objective and less judgmental. As humans, we tend to judge those who are closer to us for some reason. We also have a harder time being objective.
• India
29 Dec 12
I agree to you, people are less judge mental while traveling. They are more open and are more willing to know the new things or new places, which you know about. It can start from the place of your living and may end up in some more meaningful personal conversation. While traveling the person is not able to put their eyes at a single place because it is moving so their conscious behavior may get to some lower state. Some feel like sleepy , so they get relaxed, some get relaxed by talking to each other.
@jricky1 (6810)
• China
29 Dec 12
The feeling is so nice when you guys know each other on the road and share the experience,and that's also why lots of people love to go independently.This made the world more interesting.Hope you enjoy and i can totally understand this situation when you are alone.
• India
29 Dec 12
I think the discussion becomes more intimate because while traveling the two people look the same direction while sitting and it gives them the platform to share something, and if the thinking matches to each other it can turn out to be a memorable journey. Sometimes it can also happen that the person sitting next to you will look constantly away from the window, which tells that there is some conflict in your ideas. But generally people are open to talk while traveling.
@cherigucchi (3384)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Honestly, that intimate conversation I had with a stranger before led to a marriage! It was really unexpected and though we had been seeing each other in the area, we were not formally introduced and we never had the chance to talk to each other. But fate played a joke on us and we found ourselves sitting side by side on our way to work..then the rest is history.
@squallming (1778)
• Malaysia
9 Feb 13
I believe this is not unusual at all. People tends to initiate conversation and talk about a lot of things including personal and intimate ones. As they tend to think it's save to do so especially when they have the intention of making friends or searching for a partner or just fooling around for a while as they think they wouldn't be held responsible for it. Aside of that, if people are travelling, they may just be in the good mood to talk, share and play with words.
• India
30 Dec 12
Hi sanjay. Well it did not happen to me. But it might be true. Sometimes people want someone to talk to, with whom they can share things. But they do not want such people in their life because they dont want the information they shared to be leaked to someone they know. And travelling is the time when you come across people with whom you spend time only for few hours. Anyways have a nice day ... ~=SuperShames=~