Judging people without even knowing.
By Erynn14
@Erynn14 (357)
Malaysia
December 30, 2012 10:32pm CST
Hey guys.
I am a little sad and felt angry about this situation. Well, my parents love to judge people they do not know just on hearing what they heard from people. I realize it today when they talk about my cousin's boyfriend who has the same age as me.
Well, they always talk bad about people without knowing anything of that particular person. Talk about my second brother's girlfriend. They always judge her that she is this and that. Some is bad, some is good. But mostly they complained. But they only do it at the back. Say bad things behind them.
While today, it's my cousin's boyfriend. I'm like, they aren't your girl, and you still care so much for what? My mother talk things about her boyfriend that she heard from my cousin that he did not study anymore and yet he is only 19 years old and already start working and somehow want to change job again. While they are saying, they laughed, and tease about my cousin that they are match because that my cousin was bad in studies and that guy didn't even study anymore. What's the point on judging people just like that? And even talking bad things behind people?
Is it just because we are still teenager so they can talk bad on, complain on, and tease and look down on the one person we love? Why do parents do such things? Maybe it was for our goods, but do they really need to judge people that way just listen to whatever they heard?
I dislike parents who judge people with their own thinking. It is rude! Why must they? And even worst, other people which isn't your child you also judge them by result of studies when their own parents did not say anything about it?! What on earth are they?!
5 responses
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 12
My parents do over protective and think something worst might happen between me and my boyfriend that they know. Something like they was aware that we might do something bad like having s*x or something like that that might cause me to be pregnant before I finish my studies just because we get caught on kissing. After that, they wanted us to break up. I didn't break up with him but I didn't tell them that I was still with him either. For me, they will just judge something like this. But, the matter is, they even judge my cousin when she is not their child. That was really rude.
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 13
Alright. Just then, I felt annoyed about the way they judge people. Since they ever gone through the teenager life, they should have known the feeling during being a teenager. Or probably when they were teenagers, during that time it was still those sort of traditional time that they do not feel anything about what we felt now. Hopefully, they will just don't give me so much stress over things. After all, too much stress only make people lazy to do things and easily get frustrated about this and that. But they still do though. Asking me to study and do homework every day. Quite annoying somehow because it isn't one time each in one day but it can be more than one time. Sad things. Just have to get used to it after all.
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
4 Jan 13
This sometimes happen in the family, I havn't heard my parents judging us or my cousins. But I always here my aunts talking about everyone of us (their children, nephews and nieces, even the neighbors children). I think they are comparing their ways during their times to ours. It also annoyed me but I just ignored them. My big brother and sis were more over protective to their younger siblings than my parents were. So it was hard for me to do something stupid 
because their friends were everywhere. But I still managed to do some, but I also wanted to have a good future for myself so I was also very careful not mess my life up for some stupid decisions. I know it's hard to understand how your parents wanted things for you, but maybe you should also reassure them that you can be trysted and will not mess your up your life. They are your parents after all, for sure they only wanted what's best for you.
because their friends were everywhere. But I still managed to do some, but I also wanted to have a good future for myself so I was also very careful not mess my life up for some stupid decisions. I know it's hard to understand how your parents wanted things for you, but maybe you should also reassure them that you can be trysted and will not mess your up your life. They are your parents after all, for sure they only wanted what's best for you.
@ShyBear88 (59285)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 Dec 12
So people just never really grow up so the only thing they can do is pick on other people and judge them on things that they shouldn't be judge on.
I'm a parent and I don't judge people when I don't know them especially my own kids.
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 12
That was a good thing for your kid. I do not know why but they love to judge people without even getting know them. Do they think that just because of we are teenager so they think the love will never last long so they can laugh at and criticize on when they never think that it might hurt their feeling? Even I'm listening to it, I felt sorry for my cousin and her boyfriend who get criticize on by my parents. The way they act, makes me afraid on telling them the truth that I am still with that guy that they ask me to break up with him. They never trust their children even they said that they do trust, but the way they act and the thing they say, makes me think that they never trust and never support their own child.
@ShyBear88 (59285)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 Dec 12
It sounds like my kids great grandparents they like to judge people too. My kids are very little but I always do my best not judge them and there behavior because they are children and I don't want to hurt there feelings but what I say.
I try hard to listen to everyone and I even watch people before I judge them because I know what they wear or the way they look doesn't always mean what they are.
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 13
That surely is a good thing. Well, my parents might have the same age around your kids great grandparents. For me, they have quite a lot of traditional thinking. Too much of traditional thinking that they judge people by their thinking on anything even something like having a boyfriend during teenagers for now era's children. They still judge them and laugh at them on having relationship during these period.
Is that so wrong about it? Having a boyfriend or relationship during this kind of period within this new era? Their mind just never change. They never wanted to change. Even using a smartphone or go on Facebook, they think that Facebook isn't safety and thinking 'Why must I share out those picture into Facebook like I do not even own my own privacy?' Sometimes they even ask us to not tell anything on Facebook that people will think it wrongly especially those who you do not know. What on earth? I do know how to get my own privacy of course those who aren't my friend can't even read what I wrote. And they do not know and never wanted to try it out.
That is why now, I do not own any privacy when my mother got on Facebook even though she is not that active. But I can't say anything. Even sharing some love quotes she thought that I wrote it and ask me not to post something like that. TRADITIONAL-MINDED PARENTS are what I dislike the most!
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
31 Dec 12
I can say that you should talk to your parents regarding this matter. Personally, I am telling my mom if I can see something that is not good. It is our obligation to remind. Judging other people is not a good thing to do. Many things can happen. We don't know what lies ahead of us.
Have a nice day!
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 12
If I am able to change their attitude, I would have told them that. I had once told them the thing that they shouldn't complain anymore. Like the thing about my dad went so far and work so hard to build an extra sofa with no hand place one. The type of square sofa thing. My dad went use wood to do a space to put the cushion or some sort of sofa "pillow" that we sit on it. But it wasn't what my mother want my dad to do. She want something different. She kept complain complain and complain. I told her to stop complain already. At least the sofa is able to sit and it doesn't look that bad. It is quite nice. But when dinner they talk something related to it I think, she complain it again. I know I can't change their attitude about it. So it is useless even I talk to them about this matter.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 13
Yeah people always do that in this society. Not only people who has role as parents but people in general. Although if it's parents, it may just mean that they want the person who become boyfriend or girlfriend of their children is the best. But of course people have the flaws, and that made them judging without thinking. They talk badly behind them, although I really don't like this kind of behavior but it can't be helped that people love doing that.
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
5 Jan 13
It's true though. Most of the people love doing things like talking bad about people behind them. Just saying things they like without thinking about the possibility of the other people's feeling around them even though it wasn't talking about them. But it is still a bad idea on talking bad about people behind them especially when me and my cousin are the same age teenagers. Sometimes I felt quite sorry for them.
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
Parents are always like that and sometimes I hate the way they act. The are over reactive. they judge and say annoying words in criticizing others.
@Erynn14 (357)
• Malaysia
31 Dec 12
I agree. They always criticize people without knowing them. The way they act is just too over. They never think of those people who heard it from their surrounding. They never even think that they way they say it out loud in from of their child is making a rude example to be learned. They did not even think about their child's feeling who is also the same age when they talk about it in front of them or around the age. Just because of we are still teenager, all our love with our boyfriend is something that they can laugh at because it never last long? What a rude act they had.
