He will not even try to get an interview

United States
January 2, 2013 11:04pm CST
Since we moved to our new place, in a new town my husband has been complaining. Complaining about how we can't afford to live here because he has to drive so far to work. He has to drive 45 mins to and from work every day. So I have been looking for extra work and keeping an eye out for anything around here that he might be interested in. In the paper today I found the job that he is doing that is hiring in this area. And that it said they will pay based on experience which is great because he has close to five years experience in this area. If he were to get this job it would be great in so many ways. One he would be right in town so he wouldn't have to use a lot of gas. He wouldn't have to leave so early or get home so late. I would be able to keep the car if I needed to because I could drop him off and pick him up which is what we did in the other city we lived in. And I wouldn't feel so pressed about trying to find another vehicle. When I told him he immediately said it wouldn't work. That they wouldn't keep him because he takes too long (he's a perfectionist). He is not even willing to try and get an interview or call. He can always discuss with them their expectations and ratios they would want from him. I think he wants me to be stuck at home all the time, and that he just likes to complain about not being able to pay for things. Because the opportunity has presented itself and he is turning it away. So the next time he argues with me about not being able to afford gas I'm going to tell him not to talk with me about it.
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5 responses
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
5 Jan 13
Maybe he doesn't like the type of work or he probably just likes it where he is right now. Maybe the reason why he don't want to go in for the interview. I'd say just let him search for another job himself and if its really that important to him and he wants to make more money and work closer then he will be on the search for a job just so he can get what he wants. I agree though tell him you don't want to talk about it any more when things are not working out for him or when he is complaining about money. Because you tried to help him anyway.
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• United States
21 Jan 13
He likes the work he is doing it's just he likes where he is right now. The problem with that though is he is often complaining because he has to drive so far. Since there was another option available I just don't feel like hearing all the complaining because he could have changed things. Yeah I'm going to let him try and find something locally.
@jenny1015 (13389)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
I think that it is your best option now to avoid any misunderstandings between the two of you. If he doesn't do anything, how does he think your family can survive? A man of the house should always be thinking about what is best for the family and not his convenience. That is exactly what my husband and I have been fighting about for so long. He doesn't want to work for somebody and yet he refuses to put up his own business. He just has lots of excuses!
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• United States
22 Jan 13
Sorry to hear that your husband does things like that as well. It is really frustrating when they complain about something but then don't take the actions necessary to make the change. I did just let it go and hopefully I will not hear him complain about the distance he has to travel to work.
• United States
3 Jan 13
I think that will save you a lot of stress over it as well. I sure wish I could find something for adrian in town and he could really save some gas. sometimes he does not have gas and his boss will hold his pay till he cashes all the customers checks.
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• United States
3 Jan 13
I hope that you will be able to find something for Adrian to do in town. It does sve a lot of gas. I just hate the fact that my husband complains so much about it, and gets an attitude. He makes it seem like it's always on me when I really can't do much because he always has the vehicle and whenever I talk about wanting to have two vehicles he complains about that.It's like no matter what I do or don't do he's going to complain about it. I don't like living like that. It gets annoying.
@dee777 (1418)
• South Africa
3 Jan 13
Oh my word. That is why people must rather look for work themselves. When they're perfectionists, little will really satisfy them. Complaining about traveling? In my previous job I had to travel three hours every day to get to and from work. It was hard, but we needed the money.
• United States
3 Jan 13
The thing is the job that is hiring is the exact work he is doing right now except at a different company in the town we live in. I think he just likes to complain at me about everything like I should fix and solve everything. It really seems there is no pleasing him. If I try to work somewhere to help out he will complain and say that it is worthless because the money I make is only paying for gas or childcare, if I don't work then he complains because I'm not able to contribute more financially. It just is really starting to drive me up the wall. Driving three hours is a great distance. But I know what you mean about needing the money. I'm trying to figure out a way to get a job and that way I can pay for another vehicle and will be able to take care of necessary things.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
I agree, next time he rants about gas expenses and driving for miles- tell him directly to stop ranting. You have done your part...ugh, couples little argue I am sure you can handle it well
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