No One Listens in a Marriage

United States
January 4, 2013 3:57pm CST
Loosing Communication in a Marriage and too tired to try. In a Marriage one can loose communication. The most important thing to remember is to always keep respect for each other. Once conversations get heated or escalate, one can say things that may tarnish the relationship forever. Men and Women deal with name calling differently. A lot of woman cannot forget when the man that "loves" her can call her something at the heat of the argument. Many individuals feel comfortable in doing this, but do not realize that at times, it can hurt the relationship forever. Although you get over the argument itself, the things discussed will linger in your mind. Some say get over it, but do you really? I do not feel that in an argument is right to cross the line. Once you cross the line your taking a chance if that person wants to forgive and forget what you said. Words can be just as bad as actions. At times couple withdrawal from conversations so they wont disagree, and keep the peace, which causes pain.
5 responses
@Adoniah (7523)
• United States
4 Jan 13
Sometimes when people get married, they are too wrapped up in having fun and and just enjoying themselves that they do not realize that they are really too different to be making this commitment. This is when real work needs to be done. Even this kind of marriage can be saved if there is love there. But it takes a lot of work. Most just split up and say it is because there is no communication. The best time to be sure is before the I do's.
• China
5 Jan 13
I totally agree with you for some several sentences. I have also experienced argument with my EX and spoke out some evil words which really hurt her. Always after the argument i always feel regretful about my words. However such kind of impulsion really give a heavy toll to our relationship. Sometimes "SORRY" can just save you once but never twice. I will never forget this lesson since then. We are always faced with frctions and the way we tried to dissolve is not to be impulsive or just directly keep silent. Such two extremes are inmature behavior, and we need to fight against if we want to protect your relationship. My suggestion is to be more bearable and controlable.
• United States
6 Jan 13
Totally can relate, it never feels right, you can lose trust with your heat
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
Amen to that! That is what I have told my husband before. That he should talk to me in a manner that is respectful in a way and not in a tone like he was talking to a slave or something. I do not know if he is just insensitive or was just brought up that way, but sometimes, being thrown demeaning words could really be a start to a shattered relationship.
@silverfox09 (4727)
• United States
5 Jan 13
I have never experience those heated argument and will never as I respect my partner too much and so we would never call each other name . Some people just like to be loud instead of listening , being loud will not change what happen . Calling each other name is not ok its way cross the line that is what you expect from a stranger not your partner .
@ZoeJoy (1395)
• United States
4 Jan 13
In a marriage, there does indeed need to be respect. My husband and I agreed that we will NOT personally attack each other and we have kept that agreement. We can say, 'that is a stupid idea' but NOT 'you are stupid'. We treat each other with dignity. And we treat others with dignity. There is no need for name calling at all - even in an argument or when you don't agree. Marriage is based on respect and love, which means being considerate of the other spouse.