your ex bf goes next to ur friend,closest friend

@luisaR (452)
Philippines
January 5, 2013 1:13am CST
often, I get very close with someone, we bond, we chill out, we tell our life story. But I notice, most of the girls I befriended takes the man I was with or am with. It's frustrating because they are nice friends but when it comes to men, they sux. So I get cold feet, just ended the friendship, move on, get close to someone again and she gets the man I have again. I just don't get the cycle.
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@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
5 Jan 13
Sounds like an insecurity issue, or time to choose a different set of friends before finding someone to date again. I would not want to hang out with someone who will always steal your boyfriend when you find one. Also you need to gain more confidence and find ways to keep the relationship going to where no matter what he will keep interested in you.
@luisaR (452)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
thank you krause. I also think that maybe the next time I have a boyfriend, i will not introduce him to whoever I am close with at the moment. I don't feel insecure honestly, but maybe I never think and judge a person or being paranoid with a friend so therefore do not see what is coming at me.
@subhojit10 (7384)
• India
5 Jan 13
Thanks a ton for sharing this discussion. Well i know this is not a good thing that is happening and i think it is better to avoid such people as it does not reflect commitment from those people. Such people reflects that they are not loyal to any particular person and hence they can cheat at any time. What say?
@luisaR (452)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
these ladies I get close with, seem very fine, not flirthy women,and I think I am not a dull girlfriend, maybe I just do not limit their connection with my man and somewhere along the way, they develop something for each other, whether a romantic or lust feeling. Guess I am too nice and I do not reserve a wall for both of them. when I go out chill, my girl friend is there with me and my bf, so there is no privacy with the man and temptation is irresistable haha. thanx sub ;-)